Yet another "obsessed with the ex" sob story.

[Normella]

Hi, everyone! I came on here a long, long time ago (almost 3 years, to be exact) and I've had to come back for the most ridiculous of reasons. Please bear with me...

 

I have been with my boyfriend for a little more than 3 years now. The relationship is the longest and best I've ever been in and I couldn't see myself with anyone else. He's my match, man. There is no doubt he is an amazing man and I'm a lucky person to be with him.

 

So why have I felt the need to think of his last girlfriend? He was with her on and off for about a year and a half, he was very flaky with her, and he doesn't speak to her anymore. They never maintained a friendship after the breakup (he lived in Hawaii for 4 years while in the Navy and he came back home to Los Angeles after getting out - that's when he broke up with her for good) and he never mentions her. At the beginning of our relationship, we both talked about our last relationships and how different we each seemed from the people we were with before. I think it's normal, of course.

 

Ever since that stupid MySpace website came about, I got really curious and looked her up. She was there, damn it. Since then, I've looked at her page once in a while and I get completely obsessed with everything about her - her face, her body, the way she types (she uses a lot of "............" and whatnot instead of plain ol' periods), everything!!! At first, I tried making myself feel better by pointing out her faults and convincing myself that I'm the better woman, but now I know it's just old fashioned jealousy. She wasn't gorgeous, but she wasn't ugly. He told me she was a really sweet person and that's what attracted him to her, so I know she wasn't a b*tch.

 

I know our relationship is far more serious than what he had with her, but it doesn't stop me from comparing myself endlessly (mostly on physical terms). I'm not a bad looking person, but I want to get to the bottom of this - desperately. I've never been the type to have low self-esteem, so this is just killing me. Could it be my past? Could it be something else? I don't know!!!

 

::goes crazy::

 

Thanks to whoever read this. I hardly read it myself.

[Cobra_X30]

Is there a chance that your worried about why they broke up?

[McFadden]

It sounds like they broke up because he moved (?)

 

I know what youre saying because I got like this about my ex's current gf, but I think it makes more sense in my situation. There's nothing to worry about if they aren't talking, heheh. If I were you I would just restrict myself from going on her page, which is easier said than done. If your bf finds out youre looking at it he will probably think its wierd.

[ClearFocus]

I understand ur angle! I was in a similar position wiv my last gf. I think it comes down to the unknown.. Not knowing what the intricate details of their relationship were.. its thinking 'am I been compared to them' etc..

Curiosity is a dangerous thing, it has a habit of creating scenarios and images.. Fight the feeling.

 

In my case my ex dated a professional football player (soccer player to the US folks) so I was always comparing myself to him, hard not to when its in ur face, TV, papers etc..