What Do You Miss About Being Single?

[Touche]

Ok, for those of you who are married or are in a LTR, what do you miss about being single? I'll go first:

 

1. Not sharing the remote.

2. Eating/preparing meals when and if I feel like it.

3. Cleaning or not cleaning when I feel like it.

4. No social obligations

 

Can't think of anymore right now.

[KnowHowLoveFeels]

Your first 4, and

 

5. Taking a vacation with friends or by myself.

6. Dating

7. Falling in love

8. Spending money on just myself

9. Being spontaneous

10. Wearing outrageously skimpy clothes

 

Oh, there are a million things I could do if I weren't married!

[Touche]

Your first 4, and

 

5. Taking a vacation with friends or by myself.

6. Dating

7. Falling in love

8. Spending money on just myself

9. Being spontaneous

10. Wearing outrageously skimpy clothes

 

Oh, there are a million things I could do if I weren't married!

 

Wow, Knowhow. I don't miss 5 or 6 at ALL! Number 7 is tricky because you CAN fall in love with your SO again and again. But I know what you mean. Number 8 I do anyway, but not that often and that's fine with me because I didn't when I was single anyway. Number 9, yes, I guess I can kind of relate to that one but it doesn't bother me that much. Number 10 well, my H would probably LOVE that one, but I only dress that way in private...ha ha!

[Hestia]

11. peace of mind, no stress, no confusions

12. my own space

13. no explanations to anyone

14. no shedules

 

aww so many things:(

[Touche]

11. peace of mind, no stress, no confusions

12. my own space

13. no explanations to anyone

14. no shedules

 

aww so many things:(

 

Aww, Hestia. I didn't start this to make people feel badly about their situations. If there's a LOT you miss, then perhaps something is wrong. You MUST, must have your own space sometimes, even within a relationship. You have to just take that for yourself.

 

And if you don't have peace of mind and have too much confusion then something is wrong there. I can understand number 13 to a degree (if it's within reason.) That just goes with the territory of having a committed relationship. And number 14 I can relate to as well, although I did have schedules when I was single - just a different schedule.

[Touche]

A couple of points I want to add to my thread here.

 

1. Banter and some off-topic conversation is fine as long as it's somewhat related to the topic.

 

2. If you can think of more pros to being single than pros to being in the relationship you're now currently in, then I submit that there is a serious problem there. I would seriously consider being single again in such a case.

[Trialbyfire]

When I did get married, I didn't miss anything about being single. Now that I'm legally single, I don't miss being married.

[Touche]

When I did get married, I didn't miss anything about being single. Now that I'm legally single, I don't miss being married.

 

And that's ideally the way things should be.

 

So your divorce went through, TBF? I'm sure it's a sort of relief (if somewhat a bittersweet one) to you now then. So you're free to marry again! YAY! I expect my wedding invitation in the mail.

[Trialbyfire]

And that's ideally the way things should be.

 

So your divorce went through, TBF? I'm sure it's a sort of relief (if somewhat a bittersweet one) to you now then. So you're free to marry again! YAY! I expect my wedding invitation in the mail.

All done, all happy.

 

I have a wedding invitation from my cousin getting married in the States this summer. I'll forward it to you.

[sb129]

Oh wise women of LS Touche and TBF...

 

Right now, I am living the single life as I moved in with Wonderboy on Saturday, but he went away on Monday morning till Fri, so I have been having alot of girly dinners and have taken over his (our) room....

 

But I miss him and wish he would hurry up and get back.

 

I don't miss anything about being single right now, as in a LDR, you do kinda have the best of both worlds.

 

Ask me again in a few months time.... I hope the novelty doesn't wear off.

 

I suspect I will miss sleeping alone in a quiet house without a snoring oaf next to me, and being able to spend ages on LS!!!

[sb129]

oops. I guess I am in a fledgling R, so I am not really qualified to be missing much.... Sorry!

[Touche]

Ha, SB you are funny! I love the "snoring oaf" part:laugh: Sounds like my H!

 

Ha ha, TBF. I don't want your cousin's invitation. I want YOURS! (So where in the States will you be...if you care to say that is.)

[sb129]

He is a snoring oaf when he is sleeping. He is too long for the bed and his big hairy feet dangle out the end, and he sleeps with his mouth open and drool on the pillow.

 

But he is all mine...

 

I want an invite to the wedding to TBF, i have never been to Canada, but my mum and dad were there a few years ago and loved it they said it was beautiful and the people are really friendly.

[Hestia]

Sorry Touche, i didnt mean to worry you. yes im on a difficult relationship and i miss singleness badly. but if i was single i would miss him so... its actually my fault, i was never able to relax. there's always so much expectations, the fear of losing, needs, pressure etc. *sigh* there's not much wrong with the relation, there's something wrong with me.

 

Aww, Hestia. I didn't start this to make people feel badly about their situations. If there's a LOT you miss, then perhaps something is wrong. You MUST, must have your own space sometimes, even within a relationship. You have to just take that for yourself.

 

And if you don't have peace of mind and have too much confusion then something is wrong there. I can understand number 13 to a degree (if it's within reason.) That just goes with the territory of having a committed relationship. And number 14 I can relate to as well, although I did have schedules when I was single - just a different schedule.

[Touche]

Sorry Touche, i didnt mean to worry you. yes im on a difficult relationship and i miss singleness badly. but if i was single i would miss him so... its actually my fault, i was never able to relax. there's always so much expectations, the fear of losing, needs, pressure etc. *sigh* there's not much wrong with the relation, there's something wrong with me.

 

Why not work on yourself then, Hestia? Don't risk losing the man you love. Why can't you relax? You should explore that more, with yourself in a journal perhaps, or with a therapist. Don't risk throwing away something that you think is good and valuable. That would be a pity considering how many people want exactly what you now have.

[Trialbyfire]

Hey, give me a break, although both you ladies would be a blast to party with. I've only been legally divorced for a very short time now and you've already got me getting married.

 

Touche, I'm not going because I've got too many deadlines during that time but it's going to be in Dallas, TX.

[sb129]

Who says you need a wedding to party?

 

Say the word and i am there.

[Trialbyfire]

An LS ladies night out!! Imagine what that would be like.

[sb129]

As the electric six song says

 

Danger! Danger! High Voltage!

 

I feel on fire tonight. Must be that half bottle of sauvignon blanc

[Hestia]

Why not work on yourself then, Hestia? Don't risk losing the man you love. Why can't you relax? You should explore that more, with yourself in a journal perhaps, or with a therapist. Don't risk throwing away something that you think is good and valuable. That would be a pity considering how many people want exactly what you now have.

yes Touche i know i should value it more, i dont want to look ungrateful or anything. i just dont think love should be this stressful. i dont see how there can be stability in your life when your happiness/life/reason to live rests on somebody else's hands, somebody you cant control.

i promise i'll take sometime out and think about it. thanks for your reply, it helped

[Curmudgeon]

While it lasted I enjoyed the following about being single, especially in the aftermath of divorce:

 

1. No one to be responsible to or for but myself.

2. No one to have to answer to or have answerable to me.

3. Come and go as I pleased without conflict or inconvenience.

4. Eat what I wanted, when I wanted, or not at all if that's what I wanted.

5. Had the bed all to myself.

6. Ditto the refrigerator.

7. Ditto the bathroom.

8. Ditto the television.

9. Life was calm and refreshing.

10. No ex around!

[Touche]

yes Touche i know i should value it more, i dont want to look ungrateful or anything. i just dont think love should be this stressful. i dont see how there can be stability in your life when your happiness/life/reason to live rests on somebody else's hands, somebody you cant control.

i promise i'll take sometime out and think about it. thanks for your reply, it helped

 

There's the key to your issue right there. It SHOULDN'T. And nor should you feel that you have to control someone else. Anyway, glad I helped in some way..don't mean to get on you.

 

TBF and SB, you two are a blast and I'd love to have a "ladies night" with both of you.

 

TBF, you won't be single for long. I can tell.

 

SB, I'm being a bad girl too...cheers! (Pinot Grigio here...)

[Touche]

While it lasted I enjoyed the following about being single, especially in the aftermath of divorce:

 

1. No one to be responsible to or for but myself.

2. No one to have to answer to or have answerable to me.

3. Come and go as I pleased without conflict or inconvenience.

4. Eat what I wanted, when I wanted, or not at all if that's what I wanted.

5. Had the bed all to myself.

6. Ditto the refrigerator.

7. Ditto the bathroom.

8. Ditto the television.

9. Life was calm and refreshing.

10. No ex around!

 

Those are good ones, Curm!

 

The best one is number 10 though! Absolutely.

[Dumbledore]

What a silly question. That's like asking, "What do you miss about having a terminal disease?"

[Lauriebell82]

1. Watch whatever I want on tv

2. Rent any girlie chick flick

3. Never had to watch Ultimate Fighter or Football

4. Never having to answer to anyone but myself

 

hmm i think thats about it, I honestly don't miss being single all that much aside from not having to fight over the remote...but even thats not too bad with my boyfriend because he's pretty good about compromising!