What Do You Miss About Being Single?

[Touche]

What a silly question. That's like asking, "What do you miss about having a terminal disease?"

 

Aww, Dumble. It can't be as bad as all that can it? (That was funny though!) I mean surely it's not that bad living with yourself, right? (Ok, so you don't have to answer that.)

 

Hey, Laurie, good ones. You sound like a lucky woman though.

[underpants]

Well, I have absolutely nothing of value to add to this thread.

 

I just want an excuse to drink a glass of wine and party with the sages.

 

.....I did post on another thread that one good perk of single life is that you don't have to experience falling into the toilet because of the seat being left up.....

 

Cheers, ladies

 

Unders....dry unders, a good thing.

[Dumbledore]

Well, I have absolutely nothing of value

That's one of the best reasons for getting married. Good call.

[Touche]

Well, I have absolutely nothing of value to add to this thread.

 

I just want an excuse to drink a glass of wine and party with the sages.

 

.....I did post on another thread that one good perk of single life is that you don't have to experience falling into the toilet because of the seat being left up.....

 

Cheers, ladies

 

Unders....dry unders, a good thing.

 

Hi Undies! I can't believe I forgot that one! That's one of my biggest pet peeves. I don't get that one. My H grew up with FOUR sisters and his mom and STILL can't be trained to put the damn toilet seat down. He was so spoiled...sheesh!

 

Cheers, Undies!

[Pyro]

Ok, for those of you who are married or are in a LTR, what do you miss about being single?

 

Is it weird if I can't come up with anything?

 

There are times when she can drive me nuts, but its only temporary and it never makes me think "boy do I miss being single."

[the D]

There are times when she can drive me nuts, but its only temporary and it never makes me think "boy do I miss being single."

Finally, a sensible answer. Being without a significant other is the fast-track to a lonely and depressed existence. Life is meaningless without an intimate partner to share it with. Anyone that says otherwise will soon find the novelty wearing off. And fast.

[Woggle]

Sometimes I miss being a total pig. I used to walk around naked, squirting whop cream and canned cheese into my mouth while scratching myself. Sometimes when she goes and hangs with her friends I still do it. That is really the only thing. She doesn't try to control me at all.

[Lauriebell82]

Sometimes I miss being a total pig. I used to walk around naked, squirting whop cream and canned cheese into my mouth while scratching myself. Sometimes when she goes and hangs with her friends I still do it. That is really the only thing. She doesn't try to control me at all.

 

Do guys really do that? I can't imagine my boyfriend walking around naked or laying around scratching himself..however i guess i dont know what he does when i'm not around lol

[Pyro]

Do guys really do that? I can't imagine my boyfriend walking around naked or laying around scratching himself..however i guess i dont know what he does when i'm not around lol

 

I do the naked part if no one is home, but only because there is never any other time to get away with it.

 

Its fun. You should try it.

[allina]

I used to walk around naked, squirting whop cream and canned cheese into my mouth while scratching myself.

 

My bf still does that sometimes but only with whip cream

 

As for what I miss about being single;

 

1. no one to roll their eyes because I want to see a chick flick

2. no one to say that chihuahuas are annoying rat dogs and that I shouldn't get one

3. no house full of video games I'm not interested in

4. no one to make cracks about my large shoe collection

 

However I do feel like my SO is a great and positive part of my life and I don't miss being single. And for the above, he may roll his eyes at a chick flick but if I really want to see one he'll watch it with me, he says that about chihuahuas but then says that if I really want one he's sure he'd end up liking the little rat, if his video games are important to him then they're important to me, plus it's sweet when he tried to teach me and he may poke fun at my amount of shoes but he loves he way a nice pair looks on my feet

[doiask42much]

1. Attention from multiple guys

2. Flirting with multiple guys

3. Novelty (infatuation, sex, etc.) with multiple guys

 

God, that sounds terrible, but it's true. Other than that, though, I love the stability of being in a relationship. I don't mind all the little things that much, his mess, his snoring, his lax hygiene. I don't mind reporting to him, I prefer eating with him, even if we're not hungry at the same time. (I tend to skip meals or eat like a sparrow when I'm alone.) I like knowing someone is there for me, so it's worth the tradeoff for me. Besides, I know I'm getting too old to be such an attention whore. Will start to look a bit pathetic.

 

Sometimes I get annoyed about the remote control/choice of movies, as we have little overlap, but since we don't actually live together, this is tolerable. If we did, he has two TVs and two cable boxes, so I'm sure it'd be ok. Funny thing is, when I go off into the other room, he always wants me to come back and be in the same room as him, but I find that sweet!

[laRubiaBonita]

i miss driving and singing obnoxiously loud in the car

 

i miss eating the middle outta stuff, like bread, brownies... and just my general weird eating habits that i,at least tame some, in a relationship...

[love necessity]

1. Not having a second opinion in my ear

2. not being in competition...ha

3. not constantly thinking about him

[doiask42much]

i miss driving and singing obnoxiously loud in the car

 

i miss eating the middle outta stuff, like bread, brownies... and just my general weird eating habits that i,at least tame some, in a relationship...

 

You never drive anywhere on your own?

[laRubiaBonita]

You never drive anywhere on your own?

oh yes, i do, but when i am with him, inevitable, the BEST SONG IN THE WORLD comes on..... so i whistle

[Lauriebell82]

oh yes, i do, but when i am with him, inevitable, the BEST SONG IN THE WORLD comes on..... so i whistle

 

Yeah, if a Mariah Carey song comes on, my boyfriend complains that it's too much of a "chick song" and wants to change the station lol.

[Topper]

Ok, for those of you who are married or are in a LTR, what do you miss about being single?

 

A good sex Life :lmao:

[sb129]

Finally, a sensible answer. Being without a significant other is the fast-track to a lonely and depressed existence. Life is meaningless without an intimate partner to share it with. Anyone that says otherwise will soon find the novelty wearing off. And fast.

 

I think this post is a little insensitive, given that this forum has alot of people on it that are newly single, or having relationship difficulties.

Please be aware of this before you post stuff like that.

 

And its also untrue. You can have a very fulfilling life as a single person, and i would even go as far as saying that if you can be happy being single, you are more likely to be happy in a R, because you are happy either way.

 

 

Allina- I have a large shoe collection also. They don't all fit in my new wardrobe..

[doiask42much]

Agree with sb. The D makes it sound like people are CHOOSING to be without a significant other, when that isn't the case for most people. Or at least a lot of people.

[CynicalP]

Everything. It was only through living with my wife for 12 years when I finally discovered I would have been better off as a half crazed recluse guy that roams the neighbor streets dressed only in his bathrobe.

[Lauriebell82]

Everything. It was only through living with my wife for 12 years when I finally discovered I would have been better off as a half crazed recluse guy that roams the neighbor streets dressed only in his bathrobe.

 

Woah, what the heck happened to you to make you so down on marriage? FYI, not all women are like this. It's sad that men today are soooo scared because some psycho ex-wife messed with their mind. We aren't all like that, please understand that!

[dropdeadlegs]

My gut instinct was that I don't miss anything about being single, but after reading the posts the one thing I still enjoy is sleeping in a big bed all by myself. I don't mind sharing the bed so much, but the snoring can be bad at times, and when he does that thing where he raises his legs with bent knees and then they fall over on me, then jerk back up....well, that can get a bit annoying with the cover pulling and all. I do sleep best when he exits the bed at 5am on a work day and I can REALLY get some good shut-eye!

 

I still pretty much cook and clean when I feel like it, and since I have always had children, I had to do that anyway. He really doesn't care if we order pizza or reheat leftovers at our convenience. Since I keep his place pretty clean and organized, and I have income, taking a day off is no big deal to him. It's not like he pays my bills or anything.

 

The remote problem is easy - it's called more than one TV! I have 5. We all control a remote! I don't have to watch Cops marathons and he doesn't have to watch LSU football or NASCAR if he doesn't feel like it. Chick flicks? No problem, there's more than one DVD player, too! We have 4 of those and a PS2 to boot!

 

Also, I don't live with him full time, but spend 3-4 nights weekly, so I still get some "whole bed to myself" nights. Once again, with children, I have shared more often than I would have liked.

 

Another perk is that if I want to drink alcohol, I do! He rarely drinks and does almost all of the driving when we are together. I can get plastered if I desire!

 

The toliet seat...that is a minor problem, but he doesn't understand why I can't be programmed to put it down and then lift it back up when finished. Touche'!

 

If I never go on another date again, life would be blissful!

[CynicalP]

Woah, what the heck happened to you to make you so down on marriage? FYI, not all women are like this. It's sad that men today are soooo scared because some psycho ex-wife messed with their mind. We aren't all like that, please understand that!

 

 

Actually my wife ( I am still married last time I checked ) is not a psycho nor a bitch but she just tends to overly - complicate life and is possess a type A personality. I am sure there are many a great Ladies out there as you pointed out.

 

When I was younger and more insecure I once thought that I needed someone outside my immediate family to validate me as a person. Now many years older, I realized that honestly I would have been much happier just staying single. Free from the mundane deariness of complacency and the constant less-than-unequal compromise. Also the sexless marriage part doesn't help the matter which seems to be a common martial compliant among many men here on LS.

 

Overall, had I known this when I was younger I would not have falling for the empty promises of 'commitment'.

[disgracian]

I can't think of anything that I particularly miss. My wife enjoys sleeping in as much as I do, and if anything I'm more socially outgoing now than I was as a bachelor.

 

Cheers,

D.

[Sevenmack]

What I miss about being single isn't so much the ability to look at other women and act on my desires. It's the ability to make a decision about what I want to do with my time and money without having to always consider what she wants and how my decisions affect her. Or deal with her frustrations when my decisions don't always fit with her timetable or fit her paradigm of how to deal with matters.

 

A few months ago, for example, I had to replace my old car with a new one. Being as frugal as I am on such matters, it meant taking public transportation for a time while saving up for that expense. As supportive as she was, she also complained incessantly that my timetable for getting the car buying done wasn't the same as hers. Of course, she also doesn't contribute to paying any of my bills, doesn't have to consider the other expenses -- such as the monthly trips I make to New York to care for my grandfather and all -- or my view that a car shouldn't be as expensive as all four years of your college tuition without any of the appreciable benefits (like more money or better job opportunities).

 

As much as I appreciated her views on this, it was all frustrating. She expected me to issue status reports when I didn't necessarily feel the need to do so. I believe that the only status report that should ever be issued is the one that says the goal was accomplished. Enough said. And while we came to a compromise, her occasional ultimatum attempts were annoying -- a point she didn't appreciate me making this point during one argument.

 

Meanwhile I had to admit that while my decisions may make sense, they do affect how she lives her life. Even if I'm able to make it to her house, car or not, the lack of a car was a complication in her life. She has expectations and while I don't have to live up to every one according to her standard, I do have to live up to them eventually. Or things are just going to be problematic.

 

Eventually I got the car -- and shut her up. But it really made me think hard about whether I could deal with her personality traits and whether she could deal with mine. For now, we've decided it can work. But it is always one day at a time in every relationship, no matter how long you've been together.

 

As much as you love someone, you realize that love doesn't solve all the problems in a relationship or smooth out the personality quirks that can be quite irksome. There are some problems that aren't necessarily solvable. And the personality traits are going to be what they are, no matter how hard someone works on them. So you either have to be willing to live with the stuff or walk away.

 

That's not comforting at all. Which leads to the other thing I occasionally miss about being single: The ability to be able to ignore all the 'living in gray' stuff that comes with being in a relationship. When you're single, you don't have to worry about the 'what-ifs' of being together. You're by yourself. But at the same time, you end up missing plenty: Love isn't easy, but when the person is right, it's the most beautiful thing on earth.