Curmudgeon Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 You do that. I hear there's one available for sale on LS. You go girl!! I think it's a he-she! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 I think it's a he-she! I_did_not_know_that. Thanks for the info... Link to post Share on other sites
mammax3 Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 I really enjoyed (mostly!) reading through all the posts. A lot of what's good about being single seems to focus on the 'freedom' of not answering to a partner, the peace and quiet, comings and goings without restraint... Does anyone have input on singledom with kids? I have no more peace or quiet than 'before', i can't come or go, I answer to my children. And I have no one to share my stress or time with, no one who will support my decisions about the kids, no one to relieve me at the 3am crying wake up, I'm alone to do the flu rounds... I could go on, but I won't. You all know what I mean. Are there any plusses to raising kids alone? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 I really enjoyed (mostly!) reading through all the posts. A lot of what's good about being single seems to focus on the 'freedom' of not answering to a partner, the peace and quiet, comings and goings without restraint... Does anyone have input on singledom with kids? I have no more peace or quiet than 'before', i can't come or go, I answer to my children. And I have no one to share my stress or time with, no one who will support my decisions about the kids, no one to relieve me at the 3am crying wake up, I'm alone to do the flu rounds... I could go on, but I won't. You all know what I mean. Are there any plusses to raising kids alone? I can't think of a single plus to raising children (or a child) alone. Do you have family to help? You must have some help and some time alone. Is that out of the question? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 Are there any plusses to raising kids alone? Personally I don't think so but the feminist movement apparently thinks otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
mammax3 Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 No, Touche, that's not out of the Q. My family have been VERy supportive - bringing over dinners, helping out with cleaning, babysitting to get to appointments. And I'm eternally grateful that I've got them all so close around me to help support. But it's different to be one of two rather than just one. Maybe it's mental. And alphamale you're kinda right. I think there's a lot to be said for women to be in control of their own reproductive systems and able to choose their maternal life course, but it's hard for anyone to be on call 24/7 with no relief. I didn't EVER think there was a positive to having a male partner helping raise the kids (I can't really think of why, now) until I married and saw how much both partners give to child rearing. But, thinking about it, there are some plusses, but they could easily be minusses, too... Not needing to justify my decisions re: the kids (Sure! Have ice cream as dinner Jr.!), cheaper family vacays (single parents often get a discount), I can pack up and go to my fams without going through any in-law rigamaroll. I guess there are pros and cons. My life as a single PARENT may be plus-filled, but my life as a single person may be deficit. Then there's the whole who'll want an insta-fam... but I'm not thinking that far yet. And like someone (dgiirl?) said, I should find my happiness in someone else, it has to be within me first. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted July 5, 2007 Share Posted July 5, 2007 ...my happiness... it has to be within me first. My wife raised her two daughters for 167 years as a single parent. That was far preferrable to raising them with their father. He never did amount to anything and died shortly after we were married of a combined alcohol and drug overdose. Single parenting may not be the greatest but it can be better than staying with a loser because of the children. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted July 6, 2007 Share Posted July 6, 2007 DUH! Let's try "16 years." Link to post Share on other sites
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