What's wrong with me?

[lilredlibra2004]

I'm new here, so hello, everyone. Okay..... this is a relationship/breakup problem (sorry if you're tired of those): 6 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend, "Sean," of a year. We were great together and the only real problems were that he made me feel bad about myself sometimes (what guy doesn't every now and then, though, huh?). And he was a little jealous; didn't want me to wear certain clothes in public, so other guys wouldn't look, etc. Well, we tried to be friends after that, which I suggested and was okay with, with occasional fighting (on his part, since he wanted me mostly as a girlfriend) and some awkwardness. Well, a month ago, we had a bit of a fight on the phone and don't call eachother anymore (didn't verbally decide to, just happened that way). Well, two weeks ago, I started dating "Jeremy," who was a good friend of mine. For the past month or so, I've been thinking a lot about Sean and missing him. Was hoping the feelings would go away, but they have only gotten stronger and worse (to the point that I called my best friend at 4 in the morning, which I NEVER do - I never talk to people about my problems). Thing is....I also feel guilty for breaking up with Sean and the hurt I caused him and think about dating him again (I am advised it's not a good idea). And then I feel even MORE guilty because I'm dating Jeremy, who is great, sweet, caring, and would never do or say a thing to hurt me. I've expressed my guilt and thoughts to Jeremy, who says he just wants me to be happy and he will support whatever I do. I'm not sure Sean would even date me again, so I have no real basis on trying anything with him. I know I still love him, but......am I crazy for thinking this way, or should I try to give it another shot? Any advice would be of help and greatly appreciated.

[pantheralum93]

Hi Lilredlibra - I know your situation is not uncommon. I myself have never had feelings about an ex while dating another person, but I know of it happening to people. I think it is great that you have been honest with Jeremey about your feelings towards your ex. However, I do think it might not be fair to him for you to continue the relationship until these feelings you are having are resolved. I think it's great that Jeremy is being supportive and all, but I know I myself would have trouble staying in a relationship where the woman I was seeing was thinking about her ex. Follow your heart. I am sure you will do the right thing.