lilaznthug26 Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 [color=darkblue][/color][font=arial][/font] i have never been on a date before. im 14 turning 15. taiwanese/chinese 5'7 (last i checked) i have a job n work practically everyday/ work most of the day. all my frenz pay me a visit almost everyday but it seems to me impossible to GO OUT. > wif someone. plus my dad is one of those hyper friendly guyz so once they<parents> find out that "if" im wif a girl. he'd b all over me. my mom just dont want me to date until i graduate like most azn parents haha. i dont know y tho since im not a girl so i hav a hell lot higher chance that i wont get raped er somethin she says its because i should pay attention to my school n grades. PSH! well...i never been on a date wif ne1...possibly because i dont know if i can do it cuz of my job n sh**. u got ne advice er tips er NETHING?! plz write back er somethin. o dis lil site is new fer me. i just joined er somethin haha pEEce Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 The biggest bit of advice I can give you is respect and honor your parents while you live in their house. They are in the best position to know when it is wise and safe for you to date. For your information, only an extreme minority of 14 and 15 year olds go out on one-on-one dates. Usually, young people of these ages attend parties and go out in groups to various activities that are chaperoned. I think that's a good idea. People at that age are highly sexually charged and being alone with a member of the opposite sex can get out of hand...not in a mean way...but, you know...making babies when you're way way too young to handle that kind of responsibility. Dates can also be costly. If you have the funds, find a group that would want to go altogether to the movies, bowling alley, skating rink or other places where positive activities take place. Parents often worry about their kids getting assaulted by gang members and bullies and don't want their kids in places where such incidents may occur. You may not understand this now but you will when you're much older and you have children of your own. So try to do things with your friends and socialize in groups. Introduce your friends to your parents so they can see you have nice, responsible friends. It may give you some comfort to know there are people who don't actually start dating until they are in their late teens and twenties. The purpose of dating is to find a mate with whom we are compatible and may possibly want to spend the rest of our lives with. I really don't think you have attained the age where you would desire that at this point. Have patience. There is plenty of time in your life to be going out on dates. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 I agree with Tony -- it's a much, much better idea to go out with a group of friends than to just jump into one-on-one dating at this age. The advantages are that your parents are more likely to be comfortable with the idea that you're out with a group of friends, rather than alone with a young girl, no matter how nice or hip they are. I think it's more about enjoying your time in the company of friends instead of letting a relationship with a single person monopolize your whole time. Another plus is that when you're with a group of people, there's really no performance pressure -- everybody can hang out, enjoy each other's company, rather than trying to think up something to say or wondering if you're going to connect with the other person. Just less stress all around. And I think a young girl would feel more comfortable getting to know someone in a group setting. Least that's how I was even through college! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilaznthug26 Posted February 22, 2003 Author Share Posted February 22, 2003 haha i know how it is not knowing what to say one-on-one lol. i feel kinda left out tho cuz MOST of my frenz haf either a bf/gf or has gone on a date before. i feel left out u know what i mean? all the girlz keep on asking me wehn i can er want to u noe...they keep asking me if i want a gf yet n i say >yes. i feel left out as i kept on repeating before cause all the peepo/ frenz i know have been experienced er...yea.....i dont know what to say lolz. i just want to find out how i can mix my working schedule from dating since my High School is right next to our shop. n how i should act n how i should ... u know what?! im confused. crap lol i feel like i hav ADD rite now cuhz i cant remember s*** n like what to say! haha o wellz... Link to post Share on other sites
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