Girlfriend still stays in contact with former intimate friend

[kazooie68]

My girlfriend and I are 39 and have been together for 4 months. I still feel kind of uneasy when she writes or talks to her friend. They never dated but were friends with benifits for over 2 years. I try and not feel insecure but still feel strange....the conversations are innocent but..........

 

I guess if they were separated longer than at least a year I would feel a little more uneasy but they quit seeing each other when we started dating.

 

Is there a general rule for stuff like this?

[Curmudgeon]

Is there a general rule for stuff like this?

 

There are no rules. It's not a committed relationship. Anything goes! Your choice is to accept it or move on.

[norajane]

If they were FWB for that long, they would have started dating if that's the kind of relationship they wanted, so you probably don't need to worry about that.

 

My guess is, if you and she were to break up, they'd go back to being FWB sooner or later.

 

He obviously knows about you since they stopped their FWB relationship when you started dating. Have you met this guy? Can you tell if he would prefer to be dating her, but she's holding back?

[kazooie68]

I have not met him. And she has been very honest and frank with me about it. We are exclusive and are talking about our future together....both of us have been in the dating scene for over 2 years now and are ready to settle down......together. The only thing I want to know is what is appropriate and what is not. It would be a lot easier for me if there was some separation for at least a year, between the two of them. I would feel a lot more comfortable.

 

All I want to know is what the rule of thumb on this is.