If you think your husband won't cheat when he's out with the boys, think again....

[Lizzie60]

there are many MM who are very happy at home, they have a wonderful wife, great kids, good life, friends, family... great sex life with W...but they still cheat...

 

I asked them 'why?'

 

They told me they just want more... with different partners... these guys have tremendous sex drive... and one partner is not enough...or they simply want the 'excitement' with a new partner.

[I love hot men.]

Word. I don't get why this thread has lastest 11 pages (granted I've skipped the bulk of it). Since when is it news that some men and some women cheat? Oh, check it out, I also heard that 1 + 1 = 2. I think I saw it on Google News.

 

I just posted what happened to me. I didn't know it was a board regulation that we had to post stuff that nobody had ever heard of before or was "news." I'll check all your posts and see if they are so insightful. Excuse me for posting a thread which I really didn't think would capture all the attention, and no, I didn't feel it would be "novel" or "news" to anyone, just that I was rather surprised at how much my friend is propositioned by married men, and recently I myself was approached by a guy with a live-in girlfriend. Sorry for sharing. I guess posts in which we share recent events or observations in our lives aren't allowed and all of our posts have to be creative and soooooo original. Yes, the experiences on my recent vacation were somewhat eye-opening. I guess I thought this board was about sharing those type of things if you want, as long as it's not violating board rules. Feel free to skip my posts if they are so unoriginal!!! That is fine by me!!! Believe me, I didn't expect all the attention it's gotten, either, I wasn't even expecting to get a response to it.

[rainfall]

there are many MM who are very happy at home, they have a wonderful wife, great kids, good life, friends, family... great sex life with W...but they still cheat...

 

I asked them 'why?'

 

They told me they just want more... with different partners... these guys have tremendous sex drive... and one partner is not enough...or they simply want the 'excitement' with a new partner.

 

 

There is nothing you can say to ever convince me that if someone who is cheating is very happy. If they are really happy then they wouldn't want other partner's. They would stay faithful to their wife.

[doiask42much]

I just posted what happened to me. I didn't know it was a board regulation that we had to post stuff that nobody had ever heard of before or was "news." I'll check all your posts and see if they are so insightful. Excuse me for posting a thread which I really didn't think would capture all the attention, and no, I didn't feel it would be "novel" or "news" to anyone, just that I was rather surprised at how much my friend is propositioned by married men, and recently I myself was approached by a guy with a live-in girlfriend. Sorry for sharing. I guess posts in which we share recent events or observations in our lives aren't allowed and all of our posts have to be creative and soooooo original. Yes, the experiences on my recent vacation were somewhat eye-opening. I guess I thought this board was about sharing those type of things if you want, as long as it's not violating board rules. Feel free to skip my posts if they are so unoriginal!!! That is fine by me!!! Believe me, I didn't expect all the attention it's gotten, either, I wasn't even expecting to get a response to it.

 

I guess my feeling is that what happens to your friend and what happened to you should not be surprising. Women from all walks of life get hit on all the time by men of all kinds--except maybe gay ones.

[I love hot men.]

Well she's also assuming the vast majority of guys cheat which also isn't true. Her posts are primarily just pointless man-bashing.

 

 

 

Understood.

 

Please post some examples. I'd really like to see this. LOL

[doiask42much]

And yes, propositioned as well. I've been offered money before. I even once had a guy write his phone number on a $100 bill and give it to me. I was totally shocked! My then-bf angrily took it from me and gambled it away in ten seconds. (We were at a casino.)

[tanbark813]

I just posted what happened to me. I didn't know it was a board regulation that we had to post stuff that nobody had ever heard of before or was "news." I'll check all your posts and see if they are so insightful. Excuse me for posting a thread which I really didn't think would capture all the attention, and no, I didn't feel it would be "novel" or "news" to anyone, just that I was rather surprised at how much my friend is propositioned by married men, and recently I myself was approached by a guy with a live-in girlfriend. Sorry for sharing. I guess posts in which we share recent events or observations in our lives aren't allowed and all of our posts have to be creative and soooooo original. Yes, the experiences on my recent vacation were somewhat eye-opening. I guess I thought this board was about sharing those type of things if you want, as long as it's not violating board rules. Feel free to skip my posts if they are so unoriginal!!! That is fine by me!!! Believe me, I didn't expect all the attention it's gotten, either, I wasn't even expecting to get a response to it.

 

It's cool, you're new here. You'll get the hang of it.

 

Please post some examples. I'd really like to see this. LOL

 

Well the title of this thread is a good example. So are the bulk of the posts within. I know plenty of trustworthy men. It's also been my experience that women are just as apt to cheat as men are, though I wouldn't say it's the vast majority in either case. Genitals don't determine character.

[I love hot men.]

It's cool, you're new here. You'll get the hang of it.

 

My post was fine and I don't regret it. It is no different than many posts on this board. If "getting the hang of it" is simply posting stuff that is news and novel to you, then...sorry, I'm not complying by Mr. Tanbark's own rules.

 

 

 

Well the title of this thread is a good example. So are the bulk of the posts within. I know plenty of trustworthy men. It's also been my experience that women are just as apt to cheat as men are, though I wouldn't say it's the vast majority in either case. Genitals don't determine character.

No man-bashing in this thread that I can see. Simply posting my experience. My opinion is that women who think their relationships with their men are the best in the world.....are being cheated on and they have no clue. That is a good way to wrap this thread up, actually.

[doiask42much]

How do you know they have no clue? A lot of women turn a blind eye, especially if they have a lot to lose.

[PandorasBox]

How do you know they have no clue? A lot of women turn a blind eye, especially if they have a lot to lose.

 

 

This is true. I have known women who knew what their husbands were doing and wouldn turn the other cheek. I knew of two different women, who treated their husbands cheating differently. One woman knew, and she knew other people knew also. She didn't discuss it, it was never brought up, she just went about her business like normal. The other woman knew, and acted like she was happy about it. She didn't seems like it effected her much at all. Maybe it did and she just hid her emotions from it good and put on a front for others. Or maybe it worked out good for her because she had someone on the side as well, who knows.

[squeak]

No man-bashing in this thread that I can see. Simply posting my experience. My opinion is that women who think their relationships with their men are the best in the world.....are being cheated on and they have no clue. That is a good way to wrap this thread up, actually.

 

 

I have a question I have a question!

How do you (I.L.H.M.) reconcile that information in your own current or future relationships?

 

Do you think you will be one of the women who convince themselves that the man they are with is the exception (I'm quoting here) or do you just take it as a given that yes, this is what will happen to you too, in any relationship, with any man? Just curious

[luvmy2ns]

How do you know they have no clue? A lot of women turn a blind eye, especially if they have a lot to lose.

 

...and the rich guys' wives who are the subject of this thread have a LOT to lose financially and socially. All that money and social status! My point EXACTLY! LMAO Thanks for making it for me.

[Lostgurl]

Thanks, Riddler. I am truly honored, as you are one of the people I've noticed on here with consistently wise and intelligent posts.

 

I know what you mean, lostgurl. Everyone has doubts, but you can't let them run your life and make you crazy. Maybe you could try directing that energy into affirming your partner and your relationship? Even if you feel doubtful, act like you don't--"fake it till you make it." If you keep doing positive things (see luvmy2ns's post), maybe eventually your thoughts will come to match your actions.

 

Thanks for the helpful words DIA42M, I'm slowly learning and am working on it. Very happy to say that i'm making progress.

[luvmy2ns]

We all have baggage from past experiences, Lostgurl. You'll be fine. Just keep a positive attitude!

[flowerfairy142]

Men will cheat when they do not love their companions anymore...or when they just aren't ready for true committment for just one person. I have a friend who after only 4 months of marriage, her husband cheated on her and now they're divorced...6 months after their wedding. She was a wonderful wife to him, and wonderful girlfriend for 6 years...it still baffles me as to WHY he did that to her.

And if a man wants to cheat, he'll cheat...whether its out with the boys, or at work, etc.

[victorias40]

Married or not men cheat. Women cheat too. My ex-husband cheated with me on his first wife then he cheated on me with someone he works with(she was married too). It just shows how insecure he is in himself that he has to have validation from women. He is now flirting with me again like I would do anything with him, he is married.Why do men do some of the things they do? Hurt someone you love thinking things are greener on the other side then regret and try to get back what you screwed up by cheating?