Bad new bf

[Squig]

ok, long story short.

 

my ex gf, is dating a completly crappy guy. For the last week she has been miserable because he keeps giving her crap about her still being in love with me. She has spent alot of time crying over it, and he gives her so much crap about it as his ex-fiance cheated on him or something, he has extreme trust issues. She does love me, but she sais not in that way anymore, and she doesnt want me out of her life as im her best friend and she just couldnt live without me around.

 

I need to have them break up, he is destroying her life and she is the kind of person who will jump thru a million hoops in a relationship to make it work. And now she has told me that she needs me to stay away from her because of him. She was almost crying as she told me. And the amount of times shes run into my arms and cried as she told me she loves me leads me to believe that she really does.

 

I want her back because seeing how hurt someone else can make her, makes me see how happy i could make her instead, and how happy ide be doing that. And im 100% positive that if they broke up, me and her would get back together.

 

 

So ide really like some advice on how to get him to break up with her, because no matter what he does, she wont break up with him.

[Enema]

To summarize a few key points.

 

1) Your GF broke up with you.

2) Your GF wants to stay friends.

3) Your GF got a new BF.

4) New BF tells her she needs to get over you.

5) New BF tells her she should go NC to get over you.

 

The new BF sounds like a good man.

 

You should back off, your presence in her life is of very questionable benefit at this point.

[Squig]

To summarize a few key points.

1) Your GF broke up with you.

2) Your GF wants to stay friends.

3) Your GF got a new BF.

4) New BF tells her she needs to get over you.

5) New BF tells her she should go NC to get over you.

The new BF sounds like a good man.

You should back off, your presence in her life is of very questionable benefit at this point.

1. I broke up with her

2. She loves me, and tells me that every time she thinks im walking away for good

3. Yes

4. He has extreme trust issues, and threatens to kill me every time i make any contact with her, he hasnt once told her to get over me. But keeps sending her messages telling her that she still loves me and he knows it.

5. i don't know if her new bf told her to do it or not, but she was not happy with doing it, and kept telling me she would call me all the time.

 

He is not a good man, he has destroyed everything good in her life and is pissing on the ashes. He is violent, has no future and is dragging her down with him. Im not just being jeleos or anything, and this isnt a ploy to get her back, my main worry is that she will get hurt even more and destroy her life. She tells me she never wants me to leave, and saying she loves me, and whenevr he isnt around sometimes its like we are still together.

 

My presense in her life at this moment is not questionable in the slightest. I care about her more than i want her back. So prioity one is getting her away from the thing that is destroying her and her life. Her family is behind me, her friends are behind me, even some of his friends are behind me.

[CaliGuy]

She wants you as a friend as far as I can see.

 

What do you want? If it's more than friendship then you need to stay away from her.

 

Besides, she is never going to feel that way about you as long as you are her friend. Ex-girlfriends who seek solace from ex boyfriends usually never see them in a romantic light anymore.

 

Let the new guy screw up on his own. Your best bet is to stay out of it and go complete NC.

[Chinook]

Um no offense but... if you broke up with her, then it's not your place or your responsibility to look out for her. If she makes mistakes with new guy then that's her business. Plus, you only have HER side of the story. I agree with Caliguy. You should butt out and let her get on with it.