confusedandempty Posted July 9, 2007 Share Posted July 9, 2007 Good evening We broke up a little under a year ago. I cared a lot about this girl but she said that she felt more like we were like best friends rather than lovers - and that she didn't have the same feelings for me as she had in the beginning of our relationship. It was a short relationship which lasted for about 6-7 months. In the beginning I was crushed, even though I knew the breakup could not be escaped. Actually, I had been thinking of letting her go for few weeks before she took the opportunity. Still, I was actually more than crushed, It felt like my heart got ripped out and driven over. I guess most of you here know the feeling . For weeks and months I had dreams about us getting back together. I thought about her everyday and often each day. Even still 7-8 months after our breakup. But the feelings towards her have faded as time has passed. Recently I met her again for the first time in a long time. I was walking in the mall and I met her. So we went and had a burger together. I could feel all the feelings for her coming rushing back. For the following days we have met occasionally for a drink and we've been chatting a lot on MSN. Usually just chitchatting about nothing interesting. I've been giving it a though if this was the beginning of my second chance. we had pretty good time back then - but will it be the same again. I've come a long way since our breakup, although I haven't been dating seriously for a while. I know she's a commitment phobic person. Every time her relationships get serious - she jumps off board. This is something I've heard from her friends, plus she has told me that she haven't had any LTR even though she's 25 years old. In another way. A part of me wants all we had back - but my brain tells me that it's nonsense and it will never be the same. In addition to that, 3 of my best friends are having babies late this summer. Another friend is in a new relationship so I don't see him very much these days. The last of my best friends is an airline pilot and he spends a lot of time abroad, and when he's home he usually goes away soon so he's not up for a lot of partying. This leaves me spending a lot of time on my own. I've got this most boring job ever where I don't meet any new people at all. Very small workplace. It's just a summer job though until my school starts late August. Everything just seems so hopeless these days. Last summer was the best of them all and I met this amazing girl who no longer wanted me to be a part of her life. In one sentence - everybody around me seems to be wrapped into love and busyness, while I wake up, work out, watch sitcoms and sleep. Is there anyone who is or has been in the same position as me who can point it out for me that it won't do me any good to start a new relationship with commitment phobic ex of mine ... who has fallen out of love with me once before I just need someone to point out all the bright sides for me these days - I can't see anything positive Link to post Share on other sites
hope4best Posted July 9, 2007 Share Posted July 9, 2007 Have you taken time to get to know yourself and find things you like to do alone? I off road, walk me dogs, read, etc. Once I became comfortable in my own skin I found I really enjoyed my alone time. It sounds like you are a little lonely since most of your friends have been busy lately, and she happened back at the same time. I don't know if you should give it a go or not, but if you are thinking about giving it another try because your bored, don't. It won't help either of you in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
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