Anxious/worried

[sungrl]

 

i dont know what to do and need advice please.

 

I have been with my b/f for over 2 years and i think i have changed since meeting him. He is my first serious relationship so i never really got attached to a guy before and wasn't so concerned when with someone before

 

But for a very long time now--i found myself thinking about him constantly and looking at my cell to see if he has called..its like--i really won't go a couple of hours without thinking of him at all..whereas--i think my b/f does go on with his day without constantly thinking of me which is probably very normal although sometimes i wish he would think of me a little more.

 

I feel this anxious feeling if i havent spoken to him for 5 hours or maybe even a little less. My mood seems to have changed with family--maybe because if him and i have problem it affects everything else around me..even though i try to pretend things are ok most of the time...but it does seem i am more moody now or maybe not as happy/carefree when apart from him.

I see him 3-4 nights a week which means we have days and nights apart..he seems fine with it which also makes me mad because i tend to miss him more i think and sometimes just feel like i am waiting for the usual days i see him and only seem to get really truly excited on those days.

 

I really don't know whats wrong or how to change or how to make myself less attached. When we have a bad fight where we dont talk all day or even 2 days--i feel completely horrible and usually just wind up in bed early to sleep so i dont have to think about it or wait for his call.

I also am a jealous girl--worried if he talking to other girls etc etc

 

Of course he does not know all of this but i find it very hard to have a life of my own when we are apart. It seems a lot of my life does revolve around him even though we dont even see each other every day.

[ash519]

I dont think I have actual advice on how to change this. I just think you need to put your phone down and keep busy, or get involved in something and tell yourself that just because 5 hours passed and you havent talked, you are still bf gf, everything is still ok and carry on with whatever you are doing. It is healthy to not talk every fewhours and if you start to really project these feelings on him he may get the sense you are very needy and many men out there dont go for that.

 

Dont get me wrong...i am not perfect in the security department but I have certainly improved and realized how crazy some of my 'relationship ideals' were. Just loosen the group, you dont want to spend all your time worrying!

 

Good luck!