yes Posted May 24, 2003 Share Posted May 24, 2003 i think you people are twisting it all around. the girl had a legit dilemma - to sleep with him before the wedding and make sure he can satisfy her sexually, or wait until after wedding and possibly be sexually unsatisfied for many years to come. for a person with a religious background, the choice is tough! if i were her, i'd go ahead before the wedding, just to see if it's within improvement distance of good. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Just A Girl2 Posted May 24, 2003 Share Posted May 24, 2003 Of course this is an old post but what the heck. If a guy's tool and his subsequent ability to use it effectively is so important to her, such that she's having second thoughts, than duh, she shouldn't have ever agreed to marry him in the first place. Seems like a no-brainer to me. I'm not even sure what kind of solution she was seeking by coming here. I also think it's rather silly to get all bent out of shape about someone's tool-size, based solely on how it "feels" through groping. That doesn't tell ya a damn thing. He may very well be the most intuitive, caring, satisfying guy in the sack ever. Again, what some here fail to realize is that the length of a guy's d*ck means diddly. The nerve endings in a woman's private parts, that give her pleasure when penetrated, are in the upper part of the vagina: the opening. Again, whether he's 3 inches erect or 10, it makes no difference. By the way, having a really long d*ck can be painful when it's jamming up against your cervix. We suggested that if his seeming lack of tool-size was such a problem for her, seeing how she said she didn't want to rush sex but HAD been going out for 4 months at the time of writing, and obviously knew the guy well enough to agree to MARRY HIM (for crying out loud), then wouldn't it make sense to have sex with him and get the facts before making silly assumptions? If after 4 months of being with someone, you still think you don't know them enough to have sex with them, then ya sure as hell shouldn't be agreeing to spend your life with him. Period. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 24, 2003 Share Posted May 24, 2003 "If after 4 months of being with someone, you still think you don't know them enough to have sex with them, then ya sure as hell shouldn't be agreeing to spend your life with him. Period." As far as I got it, this lady was with a very religious background, that prohibits sex before marriage. So it has nothing whatsoever to do with knowing him well enough. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Just A Girl2 Posted May 24, 2003 Share Posted May 24, 2003 I went back to Samantha's original post and didn't read anything at all about her having any kind of religious reasons for holding off on sex.....in fact, all she'd stated was that she wasn't the kind of girl to "have sex with anyone".....well here, see exactly what she wrote: ok, people, don't laugh when you read this - because this problem of mine is real. I met this guy - great guy - good-looking, smart, in med school, great personality, the works...sounds perfect right? WEll, we started seeing each other and got pretty serious quick. Well, I am not one of those girls that has sex with any guy, so I wanted to wait until we got to know each other better and he was totally ok with that. He didn't push it or anything, and that's what made me think that maybe this guy is really "the one", I mean we fit together like peas and carrots or whatever. Ok, so you are probably thinking "so, what's the problem?" well - let me just tell you the probelm here - we have been dating for 4 months now. And I have really fallen in love with him. and he with me. Like I said things got serious quick and one night (a month ago) he took me out on this great date. He took me to "our spot" by the river and he proposed. Well, of course I said yes because I love him and he is everything I have always wanted. So we were at his house the other night and things got kind of heated up. And we let our hands slip a little and I reached my hand down his pants and I found this perfect man's only flaw - he has a very small penis. I mean it was fully hard and everything and it was still reallllllly little. Well, that turned me off right then just for a sec and we slowed down. I think he sensed something cause he kept asking me what was wrong, and I just said nothing. I haven't had the nerve to bring it up in conversation yet, and I don't know if he himself is self-consious about it or what, I mean I am scared to talk to him about it, I don't wanna hurt his feelings. But in all fairness, I don't know if I can spend the rest of my life with a man that is not "big enough". I love him so much, but seriously if I marry him this is the LAST guy I will ever have sex with and some people say "quality over quantity", but I beg to differ. I just don't know what to do. Can someone help? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 24, 2003 Share Posted May 24, 2003 Oops! I didn't think anybody non-religious'd have so much trouble here. oh well! -yes Link to post Share on other sites
shanequa Posted May 25, 2003 Share Posted May 25, 2003 Okay what it seems like is that she doesn't want to be looked at as a "bad" girl which is why she might not want to rush in to anything. But if it were for religious purposes she shouldn't haven't even went to the point to getting in a situation to where she could feel his penis. Because for religious reasons you shouldn't put yourself in situations where you can be tempted. I don't know the email could have been taking one way or another but I guess we would need to know how and what did she really mean by it. The bottom line is if it was about religious reasons she would have to take her husband how he was for better or for worse. Link to post Share on other sites
jitters Posted June 27, 2003 Share Posted June 27, 2003 holy, this is an old post but here's my 2 cents for what it's worth. The *best sex I ever had* was with a guy who had a small one. I will never judge again, let me tell you that. If everything else is good, why not give him a chance to please you in bed. Then you have adequate information to decide if he's the one for you or not. jitters. Link to post Share on other sites
keveya Posted June 28, 2003 Share Posted June 28, 2003 Even if he has a small penis, you can still be satisfied. There are numerous ways and different things that you guys can do. So if you really love him and want to marry him, honey you gotta work with what you got!!!! Buy some toys, try new positions, be creative--hey anything and everything is possible. Good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamgirl03 Posted June 28, 2003 Share Posted June 28, 2003 Hey. I kinda feel the same way, only opposite prob. I jsut got out of a relationship with a guy who was small...but now i`m in a relationship with someone who is BIG! and its like i dunno if i wanna have sex or not cuz he is so big...i mean i do becuz i love him and everything, but i mean wow! lol..ive talked to him about it and he`s cool with it. But i think that it really doesnt matter what the size of his penis is..if u really truly love him like u say u do, then it wouldnt be that much of a big deal. I`m not letting this fact stop me from doing him or anything...but i am a bit scared too. But anyway.. I hope u figure out what to do. Jackie Link to post Share on other sites
Android808 Posted June 28, 2003 Share Posted June 28, 2003 Sex is like pizza, even when it's bad, it's still pretty good.... Link to post Share on other sites
pitprincess Posted July 7, 2003 Share Posted July 7, 2003 I have been in a relationship with a loving person as well. We both had thought's of marriage one day but other things came to pass. He and I had been together in a relationship for along wile and we got along great, he treated me like the queen that I wanted to be treated like. One evening we decided to spend the evening together He and I set gathered the pillows and the big white knitted quilt and placed in front of the big white cut glass and stone fireplace. we sipped some cola and tossed a log on the fire and laid down in front of the high paneled fire place. He put in a romantic movie, put a small burning candle of a sweet scent of cinnamon burning , it was breath taking to me that man would have such romance on his on with out being guided with a book! lol We laid back and watched the movie and talked, we kissed and began to run our hands along one another and both of us starting something of unknown.. began to explorer each others bodies. He always had made comments about his tiny woody but to my surprise I didn't know grown men came that small. Taking my hand and exploring my way down his jeans to find that what I was in search of was very tiny, it startled me because I had been with another guy that was not like this. My self I couldn't bring my self to talk to him about it because I have feelings and I would not had wanted a man to say something to me like( im not small your *** is just to big! It did bother me when I first found it but I shook the thoughts off and kept my self focused on the moment and it was very hard to do. He and I ended up making love that night but things was not right between him and my self. His small penis did not satisfy me the way I felt I needed to be. I reached my orgasm and so did he but it was very hard to get to that point with his small penis. He as well had a penis that didn't want to work properly it would fall out no matter witch way we had sex, and TRUST ME we tried EVERY Position. It took over two hours to get him or my self off that night, by the time we was finished it was so aggravating that it done nothing but cause problems with my mind from there on. He tried so hard to make things right but it wasn't happening. Over time we tried this again, and with his penis being small it was a very big problem and a lot of emotional distress between him and I both.We didn't talk about it and that was the problem. I never could just say **** Im not feeling what I should be feeling when you make love to me. We should of talked about it because the not talking to one another didn't let him know what was bothering me, If I had it to do all over again we would talk, I would let him know me inside and out because with out him knowin my feelings and making me happy then how could i make him happy keeping something that means so much to me in the dark. Remember love is love, if you love him you both will work thru this, I do think that you should be open and honest with him after that is what love is all about. By all means talking to one another about the other is the most important part of your relationship. You can talk to him, and if you cant talk to or with him about things that matter this much in your life then why marry him? It may hurt his feelings and then again it may not. If he loves you like he says then he understands your needs and concern's. He loves you or he wouldn't of asked you to marry him and with saying that he wants and needs to know your needs. I don't know if there is anything that can be done about his size but at least give it a chance to see if you and him can make it work. Based on what you say he is everything you ever wanted. Wanting the man of your life takes love, respect, honesty commitment, loyalty and GOD. With out any of these you have none. God Bless Link to post Share on other sites
shanequa Posted July 7, 2003 Share Posted July 7, 2003 That was very well put well. You have had more than enough advice on this subject so hopefully you will or have already made up your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Ben_Jam Posted July 31, 2003 Share Posted July 31, 2003 Samantha, If you have never had sex before how do you know his penis wont satisfy you? People aren't perfect. I understand your delima being so young. You need to know most of your orgasms will be found in your emotional ties with him and within the first couple of inches of your vagina. I am 7 1/2 " x 5 1/2" and I cant use it all. One of my favorite positions is entering from behind. After I have taken care of her of course, I like to really pound her(my wife). But I cant!!!! It hurts her. I run out of room. Unless I really want to get at her for doing something to me. But she gets mad if I do that. My point is if you want to love this man and if you respect him and trust him then I am sure he will be able to please you. Link to post Share on other sites
pitprincess Posted August 1, 2003 Share Posted August 1, 2003 Always remember sex is NOT everything when your with the one you love. Link to post Share on other sites
Julia_Prime Posted August 9, 2003 Share Posted August 9, 2003 One time I met a guy with the best personality, we clicked and were very attracted to each other. After about a month (I don't remember the exact time) I had to inspect his goods, it was driving me crazy!! When I got him into bed I discovered that he was the size of my thumb when he was hard! I never actually ackowledged with him that he was tiny. I thought it has to be obvious to him that he is small. But I have to say that after a bit of practice and showing him what I liked he ended up being one of the best lovers I've had. He learned like a sponge. We didn't have much intercourse, but it was amazing what he could do with his mouth and hands. I've tried to show my current fiance how to use his hands and mouth on me, but he is not picking that skill up very well. Anyway back to the guy with the small penis he just started to avoid me. I wondered why because I really liked him, but I was not too heartbroken. There are many men out there to chose from;) Then about six months later he left a message on my answering machine saying he was sorry for avoiding me, but he met up with this girl he had been in love and then she broke his heart and he was calling to say he knew how I felt and he was sorry for making me feel that way. It was a empowering message for me, I was over him by then, but it felt nice that he would care to leave a message. Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted August 10, 2003 Share Posted August 10, 2003 Don't understand. If this guy is great and everything about him is great, why should something like the size of his penis which he has no control over bring about a problem. And another thing, you only have been dating for 4 months right? Why you going to get married so soon? I just don't understand that you say you love him, blah, blah, blah, and everything is good until you felt his penis. I really believe that if you love him, you will accept him for everything that he has, even if it is his small penis. And that is sure a big deal to you, but some guys who are small can be wonderful in bed. So, don't let size be an issue. Just keep dating him and put off the marriage until you feel totally ready and commited to him. THen you will know if you are truely in love with him or not. Sure you say you love him, but really 4 months is not enough time to really really get to know someone to get proposed too. Or maybe it is. SO, this is just how I feel. You need time to know if this guy is THE ONE or not. And another note about your man with the small penis, "don't knock it until you try it". Link to post Share on other sites
confussed/but know Posted September 11, 2003 Share Posted September 11, 2003 To # 6, I agree size has nothing to do with it {really} it all of how the man works it. And to post # 7, What are you talking about, marriage after only 4 months of dating and no sex? I only dated my ex for well it liked 1 day being exactly 4 months from our first date, we had sex for the first time 3 and 1/2 months after the first date. So the time limit on that does not matter what so ever of how long you date a person as to when you also marry that person, my marriage lasted for 13 years till I said that I wanted a divorced {at times the worst mistake of my life, getting divorced from him}, but **** happens!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
striving Posted October 18, 2003 Share Posted October 18, 2003 Hi Samantha, I havn't read all the replies but as a male, would like to give you my opinion on it. Yes, some men have small penis'. Probably mine is small too but I havn't compared it with any other guys yet, and nor am I planning to. One thing I do know however, is that they shrink down in size quite dramatically when a guy is nervous or cold. I know for me, when I'm nervous about something, it really affects things. Especially if I think a woman is reaching down my pants to size things up.! That is really not a good look at all.! Maybe you should forget about the size issue? You could be way off with your assessment. Things wuill change in size when he knows you are committed to him and he can freely share himself with you you in the marriage relationship. Hope that helps. striving Link to post Share on other sites
Pennylane Posted October 25, 2003 Share Posted October 25, 2003 Samantha, I haven't read all of your replies~there are just too many, but I am in the samesituation!! I was proposed to by the "perfect" guy after 5months of dating (exactly 5 months!) Well, everyone said it would be okay, and he'd learn how to satisfy me. I've had a few g-spot orgasms ( about 4, and I'm being generous) after 2 years! We've changed our wedding date several times, and in the meantime have had an unplanned pregnancy! We have a beautiful 7 month-old baby. I love her with all of my being, but still can't imagine having sex with only him FOREVER!!! We've talked about it several times, and he says sex isn't a big deal to him. It's a HUGE deal to me!!! I'm not very sexually attracted to him anymore, and he's totally HOT! He can't dance, isn't sensual by any means, and sees nothing wrong with our relationship. I'm so horny and he can't satisfy me!!!! To some frineds, I sound superficial, They'd die for a guy like mine, but I find that when he upsets me in other areas (being insensitive, etc), I think, the sex sucks, is this worth it?? I've been hit on by several men and male friends, but I'm faithful. I've lost all of my baby weight, and then some, and the fiance' hasn't even noticed! He's a great father and provider, I wonder if I leave, if I'll ever find a guy as great as him. I'm so confused. Sorry if I haven't helped, but it's nice to know I'm not alone. Please let me know if you've had any success or advice that has helped. I'm wondering if I should slip a penil-enlargement pill in his food! I'm not kidding! Thanks! Penny Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 20, 2003 Share Posted November 20, 2003 they dont, i have tried em. Link to post Share on other sites
Jamie31 Posted November 21, 2003 Share Posted November 21, 2003 Is this thread ever going to end??? It's almost been a year since this thread was started!!! This has to be some kind of record. Link to post Share on other sites
bark Posted November 21, 2003 Share Posted November 21, 2003 This is a topic in which everybody, and I mean EVERYBODY, spouts an opinion. But do opinions about penis size really matter? No. It's all peculiar to the individual's desires and tastes. This thread could drag on for another year and it wouldn't matter. If she finds him to be too small, then he's too small. Enough. Link to post Share on other sites
yogi-mon Posted November 21, 2003 Share Posted November 21, 2003 Taste is Taste, but unfortantly, for most of us men, women tend to prefer that 8"x7" thick dong which we guys never have seen but only heard about. Women want one man to furfil her every desire. Men want every women to furfil his one desire. Link to post Share on other sites
yogi-mon Posted November 21, 2003 Share Posted November 21, 2003 Did she marry? Was he good in bed. Whats the ending!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bark Posted November 21, 2003 Share Posted November 21, 2003 I want to know the ending to the story.... Post: 49 | Quote: Did she marry? Was he good in bed. Whats the ending!!! Samantha, are you still out there? Inquiring minds want to know, what happened? Link to post Share on other sites
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