jgax87 Posted July 11, 2007 Share Posted July 11, 2007 I'm going to be as straightforward as i can. Basically i really like this girl, and everytime we hang out or go to shows together, she always gets all touchy touchy..not like moody touchy..as more like we sit down, we hug she starts to play with my hair and starts rubbing my arm and relaxing in my arms. We always have fun, take random pics and dance! But recently one of her close friends wrote to me because i was asking her friend about the girl i like and her friend responded that she(the girl i like) would date me in a second if she didn't have a thing for another person. She also said that she loves hanging out with me and that im funny, interesting and handsome. I'm seriously baffled by all this. I don't know what to do. Should i keep on working at it without harming any parties or should i just be friends with her and wait for the right time to move in again..or do both..or what do you guys suggest. i know i can't put a gun to her head to make her go for me, but i really like her and every time i call or get near her..i get butterflies. please help me out Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted July 11, 2007 Share Posted July 11, 2007 She's just playing with you. Keeping her options open, y'know. What you want to do with it is upto you (i.e., encourage her touchy-feely moves or not). But don't put your heart in her yet. Link to post Share on other sites
JaneInVegas Posted July 12, 2007 Share Posted July 12, 2007 one of her close friends wrote to me because i was asking her friend about the girl i like and her friend responded that she(the girl i like) would date me in a second if she didn't have a thing for another person. I have always taken issue with second hand information. Just because she's good friends with her, doesn't mean she necessarily knows everything inside her heart and mind. She may know what she's talking about ... but maybe she doesn't, either. And for all you know, her friend may be playing out some kind of hidden agenda (like this girl is crazy for you, and her friend wants to get petty revenge for some stupid thing, etc) Anyway, my point is .... if you want to know how she feels about you, ASK her. Don't ever use a middle man when your heart is on the line. Also ... in my opinion? .... if she's playing with your hair and 'hanging all over you', I'd say she's into you. Girls do play games, but very few would go to those kind of lengths just to 'keep a spare' (as suggested by previous poster). Dude, just make up your mind to ask her, be truthful, straightforward, and very sincere. You may get your feelings hurt, but that would be better than sitting around *wondering*. Whatever you decide to do, good luck, and post what happens! Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted July 13, 2007 Share Posted July 13, 2007 If it was me, I would tell her that I have feelings for her and that I would like to date her. If she rejects me then I would distance myself from her ie. become a friend rather than a close friend. Then she would ask me what's up and I would tell her that I need to effort and time into another girl. That if she wants to become serious that she needs to quickly decide what she wants. She can't be using me as her emotional blanket with me getting nothing in return. Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 hey you don't have to say 'I like you, do you like me?' just get a date again and at the end, take her to private place that has a nice mood (top of the hill where you can see the city view something like that) talk about general life and look at her differently she will figure out and if everything goes fine, you can kiss her and now you know how she thinks about you If she doesn't like that kind of mood and try to avoid your signal, you get the idea.......... Link to post Share on other sites
ftheunion Posted September 1, 2007 Share Posted September 1, 2007 When ur sitting there cuddling or whatever, tell her what you are telln us. Tell her you get butterflies near her, and that she looks nice, and tell her that you would love to be with her, but you understand if she likes someone else. Just convey that if she ever wants to, you'll be there to hold her and stuff. But after you tell her that encourage her to find out where she stands with ther crush, or positively support her in the pursuit of her attraction, even if just a little bit. Link to post Share on other sites
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