Krytellan Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I'm honestly still trying to figure out the whole premise of this thread. I read the entire thing and I'm lost. I'm an attractive dick, does that mean I'll bag hot chicks? Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I'm an attractive dick, does that mean I'll bag hot chicks? No offense honey, but if it's all the same to you, we'd rather go shopping. Seriously, your ability to bag hot chicks has NOTHING to do with the attractiveness of your dick. But I think you already know that. Link to post Share on other sites
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I'm honestly still trying to figure out the whole premise of this thread. I read the entire thing and I'm lost. I'm an attractive dick, does that mean I'll bag hot chicks? for saying what I didn't have the courage to say.... I think I love you:lmao::lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 No offense honey, but if it's all the same to you, we'd rather go shopping. Seriously, your ability to bag hot chicks has NOTHING to do with the attractiveness of your dick. But I think you already know that.[/quote How do you know there's not a "hot chick" out there somewhere just looking for an "attractive dick" to bag????......:p:p:p:p Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 How do you know there's not a "hot chick" out there somewhere just looking for an "attractive dick" to bag????......:p:p:p:p I stand corrected. Happy hunting, nylah!! Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 There comes a point in the relationship where real love takes over the physical "butterflies" feeling and that is really what true love and being in love is about. That point has really escaped this thread. I wholeheartedly agree with you Tess. However, that was not the subject of this thread. I think that's why "true love" hasn't been addressed here. Link to post Share on other sites
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I stand corrected. Happy hunting, nylah!! Thank you for you consent!! It just so happens that I don't have to hunt...how bout you? But if I choose to, then it's my choice... unlike some people, I am not self righteous enough to think that it's my way or no way!! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 Are women really told this? By whom? Yes. By their parents! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 What attracted me to my husband was his sense of humor and his smile. He's losing his teeth now (due to disease) and will likely have dentures in a few years. He doesn't joke as much because of illness, and when he does it doesn't make me laugh because its the same thing I've heard for the last 25 years. His humor got old too. We also haven't had sex in something like 12-14 years. Hmm. I still love him. I'm still attracted to him. Amazingly enough he still loves me too and I have changed tremendously physically - I have scars and age that show clearly. All this stuff about sex not being the most important, and size not mattering are actually correct. Me thinks people have their priorities mixed up and that's why there is so much divorce and cheating and "broken hearts" going on. Oh, and we are not yet senior citizens. Link to post Share on other sites
tommyr Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I don't believe the assumption that it is the woman's job to stay fit and absolutely 100 percent as gorgeous as she can to please her man so he doesn't stop loving her. People age and everyone loses the looks they once had, that is just life. If love fades so easily based on physical traits, it was not true love in the first place. There comes a point in the relationship where real love takes over the physical "butterflies" feeling and that is really what true love and being in love is about. That point has really escaped this thread. You are correct in saying that people age, but I totally disagree that everyone loses the looks they once had. As I have aged, so too has my definition of good looks - to me now, there is nothing sexier than watching a physically fit mother chase her kids around the beach, yet I am un-attracted to the 18yr old female lifeguard. I DO NOT believe that good looks, fitness, or weight has anything at all to do with age! If you think otherwise, that's fine - you will have no problem finding a man who thinks this way too (his bulging beer gut will help you find him). You mentioned that weight in a marriage should simply be accepted, overruled by true love. To this I say, Yes and No. I have always loved my wife. But thinking back 2 years ago she had gained 40 pounds since marriage (our youngest was 3 yrs old at that point) and consequently my physical attraction to her had decreased considerably. To me, love is not the same as sexual attraction. This is changing - she has lost weight, and our sex life is coming back. For those (men and women) who choose to get married and get fat, well I suspect I am not alone in saying you might not lose any love, but don't be surprised if there is a noticable drop in their partner's desire. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 The premise of this thread is all-encompassing, including attempting to explain by gender-specific generalizations what is attraction, why people get married and how a relationship can go foul. Attraction is intensely individualized. Who gets into a relationship with someone they find repulsive looking? Realistically speaking, Beauty and the Beast is a fairytale. Having said this, it doesn't mean that every woman finds the same or similar man attactive enough to take the relationship to the next level. Attraction is physical, mental and emotional. Perhaps my deal-breaker is that he cannot have six toes on his left foot while another woman might find this sexy and a must have. A third woman might also be willing to accept this at the beginning of a relationship but having to stare at it for ten years of marriage made her run out and buy a gun, nevermind having sex with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 for saying what I didn't have the courage to say.... I think I love you:lmao::lmao: Ahh, the words are music to my ears. Now... if you live in Oregon we're on! :love: Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 No offense honey, but if it's all the same to you, we'd rather go shopping. Seriously, your ability to bag hot chicks has NOTHING to do with the attractiveness of your dick. But I think you already know that. Thank you for the benefit of the doubt... you are correct. But it is cute... not at all intimidating. Does that help me? Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 Thank you for the benefit of the doubt... you are correct. But it is cute... not at all intimidating. Does that help me? I don't know. Ask nylah! Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 *looks around* I don't see her. And, wouldn't that be a bit forward? I mean... we've only just started dating Link to post Share on other sites
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 I don't know. Ask nylah! I would be thinking that you have a problem with me:p... I was just being silly this morning,.... Link to post Share on other sites
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 *looks around* I don't see her. And, wouldn't that be a bit forward? I mean... we've only just started dating Will you marry me...?????? again, I'm just being silly.....see ya Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted July 15, 2007 Share Posted July 15, 2007 WOW this post is pretty ludicrous...speaking from a woman's prespective, we TOTALLY care about attraction and sexual attraction, there is no connection without it plain and simple. Attraction/love is holistic therefore it has to happen on every level, physical, intellectual and spiritual. Most women are no different than men in this respect, of course some people settle but notice I said people, there is no gender for settling I think it's a matter of personal choice, not gender. Link to post Share on other sites
dbtmarley Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 I think we need to have a poll... Link to post Share on other sites
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