yes Posted March 1, 2003 Share Posted March 1, 2003 *this is just a rant* there was a very unpleasant (for me) break up end of Jan; then he wanted to be "friends" i.e. keep me around, which of course didn't work - i simply avoid him & talk only enough to be polite. i thouhgt i could happily forget about him and move on now. but no - i hear about him from everywhere. he tells ppl he's upset i'm not doing some show w/ him; he tells ppl i havent talked to him in two weeks - oh no!; - and those ppl come and tell me that; plus the accidental information I get from people who don't know they better not mention him to me (Yes, he's a very popular guy, he's that clown type that everybody likes to have around during breaks). I'm just sick of hearing from/about him. He wanted me to be his ever-available make-out-and-more-later buddy, and I was silly enough to think he actualy liked me. My politeness when he IMs me is getting minimal (thank god i dont see him in person - i do my best to avoid it, which doesnt take much effort). I just wanna tell him to fck off & vanish. Maybe I will, sometime! yeah, just ranting... -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted March 1, 2003 Share Posted March 1, 2003 It would be pretty simple to tell your friends you don't want to hear about him or receive messages from him. You can also block his IMs or just not respond to them. He deserves to receive some rudeness if he can't respect your wish for a clean break. He's a real jerk. I'm assuming you have asked him to stop this foolishness. If you haven't them a lot of the responsilbility for your situation is yours. Once you tell him you don't want him to be talking about you all over town and he keeps it up, you'll be pissed enough to be over him real quick. Is there possibly a chance you don't want to be over him? Most people are able to solve the kind of problems you're having with pretty minimal effort unless their ex and friends are socially and mentally challenged. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted March 1, 2003 Author Share Posted March 1, 2003 Good point. I haven't told any of the people involved "don't ... plz" - I try to handle it by giving negative reactions, cutting off conversations - doing it indirectly. I do wanna be over him, but I'm not fully, yet. I wish he was different - but hey, I wish I won the lottery last night, too. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted March 2, 2003 Share Posted March 2, 2003 I'm sure you remember my ex I was dating for like almost 2 years...who eventually got some chick pregnant while we were together. Well, we did break up for good, right at Christmas. Well, after that, he couldn't take a shxt without me hearing about it. Ended up having like 7 girlfriends AND a fiance who looks like me. Well, even after TELLING them I had no desire to hear about it, they would STILL tell me. Finally, I just stopped talking to those people. And if by some chance, they did get my attention and DID tell me, I'd stop them immediately and tell them in VERY colorful words that I didn't care, and if they wanted to be in my life anymore, to let me live my life in peace. That THEY were living in the past. That has made the moving on process go by SO much faster. I don't answer his calls, never speak to him. In fact, I saw him Thursday night, and my brother was sitting at the table next to his, and seeing him didn't even hurt, and I had no problem completely ignoring him. The way he did me (and the way yours did you) they don't even deserve the acknowledgment that you even know their name. And you need to make it VERY clear to ANYONE who tries to make you think otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
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