Youxmeshaker Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 I am new here.. Well I have a big problem. Yesterday my boyfriend had called me and said that he didn't have any feelings for me anymore. I crashed out and cried!! We were now almost 1 year together, everything was perfect until now. Maybe I'm going to him tonight and see if we can talk. He wants it to. But I really want to have another chance, so if someone can help me and give some tips, that would be great.. I am really desperate because he means everything to me! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 do you know why he ended it? more info needed Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 You know what my tip would be? Sleep on it a few days and let it sink in. I wouldn't even encourage contact. Be fortunate you are only bf/gf instead of married. Take a breather until the emotions subside. Thats my tip. Link to post Share on other sites
funkybassplayer Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 You know what my tip would be? Sleep on it a few days and let it sink in. I wouldn't even encourage contact. Be fortunate you are only bf/gf instead of married. Take a breather until the emotions subside. Thats my tip. This is a good thing. If he said that he has no feelings for you, then you may end up fighting a lost cause, and getting really hurt. Take a little time, and get a little stronger, keep your self respect, take a little control over this situation and your life, then maybe ask to meet. Give him a chance to maybe miss you. You cant be friends so dont settle for that eighter. I suspect he wants to tell you to your face that its over, and this is a good thing on his part that he will do this, but the outcome for you will be paintful. Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 You know what my tip would be? Sleep on it a few days and let it sink in. I wouldn't even encourage contact. Be fortunate you are only bf/gf instead of married. Take a breather until the emotions subside. Thats my tip. I think directx is right. But at the same time, I think waiting is prolonging the agony because I think your b/f already intends to end the relationship. People don't reach that point on a whim. Usually a lot of thought and deliberation has gone into what makes that person feel that way and they reach the point of acceptance (and doing something about it) way before they ever talk to the other partner about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Youxmeshaker Posted July 16, 2007 Author Share Posted July 16, 2007 do you know why he ended it? more info needed I'm sorry but I don't know that. We've already talked a few times on the phone but he just says that he doesn't have any feelings anymore and he also says that I don't have anything to do with it, it's not my fault he says.. And I really don't know wat to do because I love him so much, I just can't forget him! Please help me Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 I'm sorry but I don't know that. We've already talked a few times on the phone but he just says that he doesn't have any feelings anymore and he also says that I don't have anything to do with it, it's not my fault he says.. And I really don't know wat to do because I love him so much, I just can't forget him! Please help meI really don't think there is anything you can do. It's painful and it's sad but you can't make him love you. If his feelings have changed because of something inside him, then he's being honest and he's telling you about it because he doesn't want to hurt you more than he has to. I think he has to be commended for that. He's not wanting to live a lie and he knows it's painful but whether you like it or not, he actually is doing the kindest thing by ending things. You just have to bear with it and go through the process of healing and acceptance. Link to post Share on other sites
funkybassplayer Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 I'm sorry but I don't know that. We've already talked a few times on the phone but he just says that he doesn't have any feelings anymore and he also says that I don't have anything to do with it, it's not my fault he says.. And I really don't know wat to do because I love him so much, I just can't forget him! Please help me Thats your answer, he has no feelings for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 16, 2007 Share Posted July 16, 2007 Thats your answer, he has no feelings for you.Ouch! Harsh but true. Link to post Share on other sites
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