never asked for before, now i need it...

[captxmas]

hi,

i am new here but i need some guidance.

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I will just jump right in… I was with my girlfriend for almost 3 years, we had a good relationship and were happy together. Both of our life goals were coincidal, we werent moving on any sort of different path. I will admit we did argue a bit but who doesn’t. in our relationship I didn’t push her into anything, I let her take things at her own pace; we planned out lives with one another. so a little over a moth ago we seemed to start drifting and when I confronted her about it she told me she didn’t know if she wanted to be with me anymore. I was shocked to say the least so I inquired why? She said that all our little unresolved arguments were getting to her, my trust issues (I admit I am a bit untrusting but by no way overbearing or jealous) and other things made her just not want to be with me. She hoped we could still be friends because she said she still sees herself with me in the future, kids, marriage, the whole lot. so after a couple weeks she texts me to see how I am so on and so forth. Things progress and she intentionally runs into me, then texts me more. We finally decided to have sex, with no talking about us. It went well, it was as if we were together again. Finally after a couple weeks of hi stiff I decided to ask her where we are at, what is going on. She says that initially she thought this would just be a short break up and all would be fine but during that time she started thinking and isn’t ready to be in a relationship, with anyone. She says it could be a year before she feels ready. She says she doesn’t want to be with anyone else at all but we are single and if it happens, it happens (and that goes for me as well). She says she still loves me very much and wants to remain friends (with benefits because she doesn’t want to sleep with anyone else). Oddly I believe her, that she isn’t doing this just to date around. She has never, ever been like that at all—and I knew her for a couple years before we started dating. It has been almost 2 months now and she hasn’t been with anyone else (I know this for a fact, I am good friends with her bf). Even after all that she still tells me she wants to be with me, she just cant be in a relationship right now. I asked her if she was scared of growing up and she said yes, because that is what it sounded like as she told me her hold ups about being together. I guess what my question is, is should I be friends like this or should I not hang out with her? When we are together she still will kiss and hug me very passionately I just don’t want to be used. I need advice here… should I just go with things and not analye it so much?[/sIZE][/FONT]