feilmeier Posted July 18, 2007 Share Posted July 18, 2007 Okay, here's something that has been puzzling me for a while. A while back, I made a friend who happened to be a girl. It all went smoothly for a couple of years, and after a while she started talking to me almost daily about her personal life. That really held no worries with me, as her boyfriends were all flakes and most of her relationships didn't last to long. A couple of nights ago, I went to her house to say hi, and when I walked to her bedroom, I saw her and her boyfriend masturbating on the floor. I promptly stormed out, because this was a breach of my morale code. When she found me later, we had a big argument, which degenerated into personal mudslinging. Now I haven't talked to her in a few weeks, despite me calling her at least 3 times a week, trying to mend the friendship. Does this mean that the friendship is ruined, or is it just her trying to cool things off and figure out what she wants in life? -Any help would be appreciated, thanks.- Link to post Share on other sites
Tyra Posted July 19, 2007 Share Posted July 19, 2007 O.K.Why are you so upset?What, you have feelings for her or something? Then,especially because it's her boyfriend, so why are you so angry.:confused:Ya'll friendship shouldn't be over because of something simple like that.You know what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
LN99 Posted July 19, 2007 Share Posted July 19, 2007 Ok, so you caught her in quite an intimate moment with her bf.... (Why didn't you knock first before going into her house/bedroom?) You probably are both so embarrassed, that it was just easier to fight and now avoid each other. Maybe if you learn to knock, instead of entering her house and making yourself at home, things like this wouldn't happen.... And no, you shouldn't be jealous....seeing as you guys are friends. So, please, knock next time... Link to post Share on other sites
Author feilmeier Posted July 19, 2007 Author Share Posted July 19, 2007 That would be the part of it that annoyed me. I had called before hand to see if it would be okay for me to come by. I didn't want to disturb anything, and she said sure, come on by. Anyways, the bedroom door was wide open for all to see. On being jealous, maybe a little, but probably me looking out for her wellbeing as my mom died at 40 from MS. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted July 19, 2007 Share Posted July 19, 2007 I'm very confused by this post Why are you mad? What's the problem? Why was this a breach of your moral code??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author feilmeier Posted July 20, 2007 Author Share Posted July 20, 2007 My moral code, is that all sexual things are put off until wedlock. Secondly, I have known her for quite some time and she has never mentioned this to me, so it came as quite a shock to my senses. I know it wasn't my place to get mad, but she is sort of like a little sister to me. The problem is that after my explosion if I can call it that, she stopped talking to me. After I had calmed down, I tried to apoligize, but couldn't reach her. I don't want to lose a friend because I lost my temper over something small. That is the problem. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted July 20, 2007 Share Posted July 20, 2007 My moral code, is that all sexual things are put off until wedlock. Secondly, I have known her for quite some time and she has never mentioned this to me, so it came as quite a shock to my senses. I know it wasn't my place to get mad, but she is sort of like a little sister to me. The problem is that after my explosion if I can call it that, she stopped talking to me. After I had calmed down, I tried to apoligize, but couldn't reach her. I don't want to lose a friend because I lost my temper over something small. That is the problem. What you need to understand is that you can't push YOUR moral code on other people, it only applies to actions you choose for YOURSELF. She is probably embarrassed for one and can sense that you are being judgmental. Give it some time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author feilmeier Posted July 22, 2007 Author Share Posted July 22, 2007 Thank you. That was what I was looking for. Thanks to all of you for helping me out. Link to post Share on other sites
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