why is lost love so painful

[sharp2007]

I only asked because you sound so much like my old tutor, its uncanny... I'm new to this site, as no doubt your aware..so whats your story? You seem to give alot of advice and you seem to have been hurt...I understand and apologise if you dont wish to elaborate..

[Chinook]

I only asked because you sound so much like my old tutor, its uncanny... I'm new to this site, as no doubt your aware..so whats your story? You seem to give alot of advice and you seem to have been hurt...I understand and apologise if you dont wish to elaborate..

I guess a lot of tutors are pretty good at guiding students when it's something they love doing.

 

My story is here and here.

 

And some earlier background is here.

 

It will be a month on Tuesday since I was dumped. I'm not having a great time of things... so helping others kinda helps make it less painful, as if at least some good has come out of it.

[sharp2007]

I just read most of your blog. It was very heartbreaking since you were very detailed.

 

Although our situations has its differences (no children may not be involved, at least of what I know at this point), I reacted very similarly to you: Getting angry and fed up after the emotional rollercoaster she was putting me through.

 

She doesn't know what she wants, and I was getting very tired of being a victim of her uncertainty. It hurts still, especially knowing that she has gone on dates with other people so quickly after our breakup, and that she may be carrying our child, but I am moving on. Speed dating sounds fun, although I don't know if they have any of those in Hawaii.

 

Actually I just found out that they do hold those through cupid.com.

 

I need to get over her, and some days are better than others. Recently I've been in a relapse. I ended up going to bed at 7 p.m. last night and not waking up until work this morning, simply because I didn't feel like being alone in the middle of the night (and I'm strapped for cash to go out clubbing at the moment).

Hi there,

Thanks for your message...well what can I say...I certainly feel for you...if indeed she is pregnant with your child you have my deepest sympathy...but whatever you do please dont ask her for a temination..it will break you in time if you decide on asking her for an abortion. If she is carrying your child, its your flesh and blood..believe me ,it will be worth it in the end..even if you are not with her as a couple..to hold your baby in your arms.. to look into its eyes, remember part of you is looking back..think hard before you rush into it..be strong my friend..ok..life is precious..

[jackmerridew]

I think you'll agree with this Simon, as I surmise from your blog, but what hurts the most for most of us here is thinking how someone who loved us so sweetly not too long ago is able to treat us in this way.

 

My ex is only 20 years old. That's very young and she's very confused. However I was 20 once, and I know many other 20 year olds who don't react the way she does so immaturely.

 

But even now, she is acting like a scared little girl starving for attention. She's practically emaciated unless she gets attention. Since I haven't been giving it to her, she seems to be turning to other boys. What kills me is I keep asking myself what would happen if I did give her more attention after the breakup, and if I did nurse feelings that we might end up back together. Would it hurt as much as it does now, knowing she is dating other men?

 

I'm so tempted to just call her, apologize for the no contact thing and treating her rather coldly, and ask for us to start anew.

 

At the same time, I know I'M not personally ready to get back into a relationship with her, as much as I would like to keep her for myself. I'm still emotionally fragile, and honestly I don't think I'd be too much fun to hang out with her because there's still so much emotional baggage.

 

All I can do is stay the course, and hope for the best. I still cry at night. When I wake up alone in what was once "our" bed, I still bury my face in my hands, sigh deeply and drag myself to the shower, hoping to wake myself up from a nightmare. She was my baby, whose hair I caressed and whose hand I held so tightly no more than two months ago, and now she's like my worst enemy.

 

It's so hard and I'm not even sure what I need to do to make myself feel better faster. I've been flirting with women, and I even had a one-night stand with one. Yet I still felt so damn empty inside. I just want things to end as soon as possible, because my work and livelihood depends on it!

[Chinook]

Jees Jack. I could have just written that myself. {sigh}

 

I just don't know what to say, there are so many of us here right now who are feeling this pain and torment. I keep wishing the clock forwards to a better time. Y'know..?!

[jackmerridew]

Jees Jack. I could have just written that myself. {sigh}

 

I just don't know what to say, there are so many of us here right now who are feeling this pain and torment. I keep wishing the clock forwards to a better time. Y'know..?!

 

That's the thing isn't it?

 

We all want this pain to go away so desparately, we might be willing to try anything. Some people contemplate suicide, as we've addressed in other threads.

 

Simon here seems to have some of the pain alleviated by reuniting with this woman, or at the very least he is trading the less desirable pain for the old one.

 

Me, I'm tempted to do the same. I just want her back in my life, even though our future would still be so uncertain, that I don't trust her, and that she probably would end up resenting me for it. It would hurt, but it wouldn't hurt like this. I don't know which is worse.

 

Which is why I've tried turning to other women, but it's not the same. The physicality and playfulness of it all cannot possibly replace the fact that I forced myself to rip out part of the very fabric of my existence, ironically, in an act of self-preservation and self-respect.

 

There's also the very large chance that she just my reject me by this point, now that she has tasted "freedom" from me, and I'm so very frightened in putting myself through rejection a second time. All I wonder is whether she's missing me.

 

Don't worry about my smoking Chinook. There's a reason why I quit 10 months ago, and I plan to quit after I return from a vacation from work. It's too expensive, and it'll shorten my ever-shortening life. I just need this for now, because it provides some light to focus and gaze upon as I exhale the grey death into my body.

 

Anyway my favorite musical artist is Bob Dylan, and listening to his album, "Blood on the Tracks," even while I'm in a relationship is hard to bear. If you don't know them, here are the lyrics to a song I think many of us can relate to:

 

If you see her, say hello, she might be in Tangier

She left here last early spring, is livin' there, I hear

Say for me that I'm all right though things get kind of slow

She might think that I've forgotten her, don't tell her it isn't so.

 

We had a falling-out, like lovers often will

And to think of how she left that night, it still brings me a chill

And though our separation, it pierced me to the heart

She still lives inside of me, we've never been apart.

 

If you get close to her, kiss her once for me

I always have respected her for busting out and gettin' free

Oh, whatever makes her happy, I won't stand in the way

Though the bitter taste still lingers on from the night I tried to make her stay.

 

I see a lot of people as I make the rounds

And I hear her name here and there as I go from town to town

And I've never gotten used to it, I've just learned to turn it off

Either I'm too sensitive or else I'm gettin' soft.

 

Sundown, yellow moon, I replay the past

I know every scene by heart, they all went by so fast

If she's passin' back this way, I'm not that hard to find

Tell her she can look me up if she's got the time.

[sharp2007]

I think you'll agree with this Simon, as I surmise from your blog, but what hurts the most for most of us here is thinking how someone who loved us so sweetly not too long ago is able to treat us in this way.

 

My ex is only 20 years old. That's very young and she's very confused. However I was 20 once, and I know many other 20 year olds who don't react the way she does so immaturely.

 

But even now, she is acting like a scared little girl starving for attention. She's practically emaciated unless she gets attention. Since I haven't been giving it to her, she seems to be turning to other boys. What kills me is I keep asking myself what would happen if I did give her more attention after the breakup, and if I did nurse feelings that we might end up back together. Would it hurt as much as it does now, knowing she is dating other men?

 

I'm so tempted to just call her, apologize for the no contact thing and treating her rather coldly, and ask for us to start anew.

 

At the same time, I know I'M not personally ready to get back into a relationship with her, as much as I would like to keep her for myself. I'm still emotionally fragile, and honestly I don't think I'd be too much fun to hang out with her because there's still so much emotional baggage.

 

All I can do is stay the course, and hope for the best. I still cry at night. When I wake up alone in what was once "our" bed, I still bury my face in my hands, sigh deeply and drag myself to the shower, hoping to wake myself up from a nightmare. She was my baby, whose hair I caressed and whose hand I held so tightly no more than two months ago, and now she's like my worst enemy.

 

It's so hard and I'm not even sure what I need to do to make myself feel better faster. I've been flirting with women, and I even had a one-night stand with one. Yet I still felt so damn empty inside. I just want things to end as soon as possible, because my work and livelihood depends on it!

I agree, when someone says they love you, I mean truely love you, as she said she did of me, well...2 be honest I don't think I will ever recover from my relationship with her, every day I think of her and during the day at least several times per hour maybe more..I'm I a sad person for saying this?..maybe..maybe I need some form of counselling..I know I'm a mess emotionally and I wish I wasn't. I absolutely hate how I feel..around 6 weeks ago I actually felt like ending it all..I have never in my life ever thought that or ever would, but knowing that I will never b with her again, 2 touch her, 2 kiss her, 2 make love 2 her, its just 2 much sometimes. I'm a sensible rational guy, I've been in the Police, I can cope under pressure, but when it comes to love I can't handle the pain I feel. Its tearing me apart.

This is so weird talking 2 you and everyone else, it helps though, I'm drinking to much, which must stop.. what can I do hey? I read your messages and I can see me in them..you sound a decent guy who loved her and would have cared for her but yes she is young as she was, but maybe 1 day they will realise what they are missing..will it b to late though?..

[sharp2007]

Hi there, thanks for the advice regarding the blog, I've made the necessary changes, hope it helps..maybe it will be easier in the long run..

its not been a good today, I'll explain in the blog later..hope your weekend went well.. simon

[Chinook]

Awh Simon. Wish I could say something which would make things better. Been a hard weekend here too if it helps. My ex did a race that we were supposed to be at today and which I paid for. I thought maybe he might email and let me know how he did but he hasn't. Hang in there. It will get better. It will take time, but it will get better sooner or later, it has to.

[sharp2007]

Awh Simon. Wish I could say something which would make things better. Been a hard weekend here too if it helps. My ex did a race that we were supposed to be at today and which I paid for. I thought maybe he might email and let me know how he did but he hasn't. Hang in there. It will get better. It will take time, but it will get better sooner or later, it has to.

Yeah this weekend has been Sh*t..sorry about yours..hopefully he will get in touch..how will you react when he does?

I'm sat here in tears, feel lost and utterly lonely. Where I live I can sit with the Laptop looking out over some gardens and other flats..I have the window open with the cool breeze entering the room.. so here I am pondering on what she is doing right now, is she thinking about me? I think not, watching Big Brother no doubt, shes obsessed with the programme..or laid in bed with him..thats what I hate. I cant get those images out of my mind..theres certain times of the day that are worst and this is one of them. Anyway to bed soon and my escape from all this, until I awake and it starts all over again..

[Aliddy]

I am sure I speak for many, who read your blog and posts, you are truly a wonderful person, and reading just how much you loved her, makes me realise, just how much my ex didn't love me ............. strangely, that makes this all more bearable for me.

 

Thankyou

 

Suzanne

[sharp2007]

I am sure I speak for many, who read your blog and posts, you are truly a wonderful person, and reading just how much you loved her, makes me realise, just how much my ex didn't love me ............. strangely, that makes this all more bearable for me.

 

Thankyou

 

Suzanne

Hi Suzanne,

I don't know what to say, but a huge thankyou for your kind words..I'm not a wonderful person though, I'm just me..human like the rest of us..although not the typical bloke, I been told that too many times..I make mistakes and are continuing to do so..I shout at my daughter to much sometimes,especially when I'm feeling sh*t, drink to much on occasions, forget to put the washing machine on..my daughter goes mad about that! yes if I had been wonderful! maybe see would had the courage to stay.

Yes I loved her,unbelievably so, more than I should have done I suppose, but when I'm in a relationship I like to respect that other person, its important to have freedom also, by this I mean to be able to express yourself,not to be afraid, to have your own space, not to be influenced or pressured, but to grow and be the person you want to be, then hopefully the relationship can be strong and will last with the two of you happy in each others company. To be on the same wave length, to have that connection, well its explosive..in all ways..I so hope to be able to experience that again but the way I feel now I cant see it happening, I want it to though, so much. But if and when I ever do meet anyone again I know I must seperate my past from the future, it wont be fair on her.

I've just read your story, I'm so sorry, like me I think you tried everything you could.. he doesn't deserve you.. thats my view anyway. He is the one losing out, not you, although like me I expect thats not quite what your feeling at the moment.

You take care and have a good day..simon

[Aliddy]

Thankyou for your kind words Simon, I have had a cr*p day today, it's strange some days I think " you were a complete s**t to treat me that way, others my mind plays tricks on me, and my memory is distorted, and my mind remembers him as a knight in shining armour ............

I have been keeping a diary, and have to read back, to remind myself of the facts about what actually happened.

It is easy to say someone does not deserve you, and I know he didn't, but that makes no difference to me thinking that.

You know, when we split up last time, for six months, I had this deep, deep missing feeling, that was overwhelming, and yet, I remember thinking to myself, when we got back together, that missing feeling was still there.

But in reality I was the one who finished it because I didn't feel loved,and was so unhappy....I told him... he walked away ........... I read a post today about instinct, and you should trust it..............well mine was right he didn't love me..............

Yet knowing that does not hurt, what hurts is that he refuses to speak to me, to explain why ??? How can you spend 4 years of your life with someone and then just delete them, to me that is beyond comprehension.

So the long drawn out process of recovery begins, when it could of been so much easier, that this uncertainty and not knowing...............

Also I am bloody angry with him, angry because, even if he wanted me to go back, I know I can't ......... as the pain he has inflicted on me over the past 5 weeks has made me scared of him............

Now that is truly sad...................

Suzanne :-)

[sharp2007]

Thankyou for your kind words Simon, I have had a cr*p day today, it's strange some days I think " you were a complete s**t to treat me that way, others my mind plays tricks on me, and my memory is distorted, and my mind remembers him as a knight in shining armour ............

I have been keeping a diary, and have to read back, to remind myself of the facts about what actually happened.

It is easy to say someone does not deserve you, and I know he didn't, but that makes no difference to me thinking that.

You know, when we split up last time, for six months, I had this deep, deep missing feeling, that was overwhelming, and yet, I remember thinking to myself, when we got back together, that missing feeling was still there.

But in reality I was the one who finished it because I didn't feel loved,and was so unhappy....I told him... he walked away ........... I read a post today about instinct, and you should trust it..............well mine was right he didn't love me..............

Yet knowing that does not hurt, what hurts is that he refuses to speak to me, to explain why ??? How can you spend 4 years of your life with someone and then just delete them, to me that is beyond comprehension.

So the long drawn out process of recovery begins, when it could of been so much easier, that this uncertainty and not knowing...............

Also I am bloody angry with him, angry because, even if he wanted me to go back, I know I can't ......... as the pain he has inflicted on me over the past 5 weeks has made me scared of him............

Now that is truly sad...................

Suzanne :-)

Hi, I can realite to it being a crap day, although the weather isn't helping! I just wrote you a reply but the webpage did a time out and lost it all..not great..something they should address..

I can see your hurting, wish I had some words of wisdom suzanne but I'm not the best person to give advice, although I can listen, which in a relationship is hugely important and maybe he should have listened to you more..

You mention instinct..I always thought I had a good instinct and regrettably it was right in relation to her..I loth it to be honest..for it usually is always correct..I wish I could go though life with an open mind, but I'm always looking for 'the trip up'..something going wrong in other words..

Your right to say your scared of him now, thats how I feel of her..You place your faith, your trust, your heart and your love in that person, only to have it thrown back, but all you want to do is give that person who is hurting you so much..a cuddle..its foolish..I know, but thats because you dearly love that person still..what can I say hey.. and for them not to contact you, to completely cut you out of their life..well..whats the word..you know I don't have one.. I expect someone does..but for me it seems so unreal..maybe I need a reality check..

take care..simon

[Aliddy]

Hi Simon,

Yes it has been a truly cr*p day, I got soaked in S.E. London, stuck on the M25 for bloody ages and missed him !!! Not sure which was the worst of those three !!!!

You know what I find so hard, it's the fact she is 10 years older than me, and 10 years older than him .... I am 45 !! That does my pride no good what so ever !! Yet she must have something as he prefers her to me......

Oh I posted a song on your blog.......... has helped me no end

 

Suzanne :-)

[sharp2007]

Hi Simon,

Yes it has been a truly cr*p day, I got soaked in S.E. London, stuck on the M25 for bloody ages and missed him !!! Not sure which was the worst of those three !!!!

You know what I find so hard, it's the fact she is 10 years older than me, and 10 years older than him .... I am 45 !! That does my pride no good what so ever !! Yet she must have something as he prefers her to me......

Oh I posted a song on your blog.......... has helped me no end

 

Suzanne :-)

suzanne, from what you have wrote to me and others and how you explain about yourself you certainly are not less in anyway..you come across to me as a woman who is caring, considerate and I feel loving..he will realise at some point, if he doesn't its his doing not yours.

You know my day just got worse..shes been in contact with my daughter again, telling her how she misses me still! but does she? and she asked my daughter to tell me that someone I knew at college last year, who at that time was close friend until a stupid misunderstanding( was told by her that she said something about me, which later I found out to be not the case) and we left on not great terms, is dying of Breast Cancer and hasn't long to live. What a shi**y day hey.. just what do I do????????? She has a loving husband and 2 kids.. sorry.. to much depression..well.. back to the glass of wine then and the blog later..repeat of yesterday evening .. u take care..

[sharp2007]

Hi Simon,

Yes it has been a truly cr*p day, I got soaked in S.E. London, stuck on the M25 for bloody ages and missed him !!! Not sure which was the worst of those three !!!!

You know what I find so hard, it's the fact she is 10 years older than me, and 10 years older than him .... I am 45 !! That does my pride no good what so ever !! Yet she must have something as he prefers her to me......

Oh I posted a song on your blog.......... has helped me no end

 

Suzanne :-)

by the way thanks for the song..i presume its the Timberland one..listening to it right now..the words mean so much..

[Aliddy]

Hi Simon,

Yes it was that song ............ I think it's great and the video is amazing...........

Yes I am a loving person, too much so really, and I try to always see the best in people......I dont want to be eaten up with hate....hate is a destructive emotion.

You know the opposite to love is indifference ........... and thats the place I aim to get to.......

As for your ex....it seems to me, she wants to maintain some sort of contact.....her reason for ??? anyones guess, but I would like to think that maybe she does have some decency in her and is concerned for your welfare....

Your friend, how tragic....looking at that situation, should be a wake up call.........as how insignificant our problems seem to be in relation to that....

I am going to tell you a secret ( well not really the whole WWW ) I broke N/C tonight and you know I feel so much better for it....

I arrived home wet, cold and p off, to find a parcel, from Royal Mail, that had been undelivered 5 weeks ago, they only just sent it back.

It was to him, it was a present I bought him, just before we split up,he knew about it, I thought he had ignored it, so I sent a text saying " it had been returned etc... " he texted back " I didn't receive anything " I texted back I know I just told you Royal Mail have only just returned it............

I felt a strange relief, as I now know he knows, I did send it ( not as he thought didn't bother ) and I didn't feel a thing..................wierd !!!!!!!!! I know he was with her, and I just smiled to myself

[sharp2007]

Hi Simon,

Yes it was that song ............ I think it's great and the video is amazing...........

Yes I am a loving person, too much so really, and I try to always see the best in people......I dont want to be eaten up with hate....hate is a destructive emotion.

You know the opposite to love is indifference ........... and thats the place I aim to get to.......

As for your ex....it seems to me, she wants to maintain some sort of contact.....her reason for ??? anyones guess, but I would like to think that maybe she does have some decency in her and is concerned for your welfare....

Your friend, how tragic....looking at that situation, should be a wake up call.........as how insignificant our problems seem to be in relation to that....

I am going to tell you a secret ( well not really the whole WWW ) I broke N/C tonight and you know I feel so much better for it....

I arrived home wet, cold and p off, to find a parcel, from Royal Mail, that had been undelivered 5 weeks ago, they only just sent it back.

It was to him, it was a present I bought him, just before we split up,he knew about it, I thought he had ignored it, so I sent a text saying " it had been returned etc... " he texted back " I didn't receive anything " I texted back I know I just told you Royal Mail have only just returned it............

I felt a strange relief, as I now know he knows, I did send it ( not as he thought didn't bother ) and I didn't feel a thing..................wierd !!!!!!!!! I know he was with her, and I just smiled to myself

well that told him then..maybe not so much of a bad day in the end :-)

I agree ,hate is not good for the soul, it can linger there, sometimes for years eating away at you. To release it can make you a better person, but in doing so apart of you still wishes it was there..catch 22..

As mentioned in my blog I have hate locked away, I only wish I could find the key....

Shes been replying to my daughter this evening, stating how she loves us both still and why she called the Police..re blog April..apparently as she needed space due to her heart being broken over me..I'm sorry but I just don't buy that, he was there at that time, the Police told me, another lie and off course no contact upto now..

Do I cut this contact with my daughter? part of me says yes the other part hoping for answers...

well.. will see what happens, i'll give it a few days..friends of mine tell me to leave her alone, shes only trouble, maybe there right..

[Aliddy]

Well if I was using my " sensible head " I would say definately cut contact with your daughter, but if I was wearing my " sod it head " I would say, maybe for now, you are not quite ready to sever all contact, because contact it is, so you can't join the N/C club if you are still aware of what she is doing :-)

As for the Police, mmm well I agree, I don't buy that story either, it is questionable, why she feels the need for you not to think badly of her....

She is without doubt, using your daughter as a way to communicate with you, as clearly she is passing messages through her....

It's a tough call, but I would follow my heart .......

But then thats why I am in this sh***y mess........

I keep smiling to myself ...... you know if he wants a 55 year old who wears " silver mini skirts " ( he told me that once about her ) YUK YUK YUK

then ho hum....

Suzanne :-)

[sharp2007]

Well if I was using my " sensible head " I would say definately cut contact with your daughter, but if I was wearing my " sod it head " I would say, maybe for now, you are not quite ready to sever all contact, because contact it is, so you can't join the N/C club if you are still aware of what she is doing :-)

As for the Police, mmm well I agree, I don't buy that story either, it is questionable, why she feels the need for you not to think badly of her....

She is without doubt, using your daughter as a way to communicate with you, as clearly she is passing messages through her....

It's a tough call, but I would follow my heart .......

But then thats why I am in this sh***y mess........

I keep smiling to myself ...... you know if he wants a 55 year old who wears " silver mini skirts " ( he told me that once about her ) YUK YUK YUK

then ho hum....

Suzanne :-)

Hi Suzanne, I tend to agree, if I was using my rational conscience I would cut that contact straight away, especially as she is now stating that I never trusted her feelings. Unbelievable..But me being me I can't do that just yet. I'm afraid how far this is going to go to be honest..I have a feeling she is going to say something I don't want to hear soon!

My heart rules my head to, like as you say about yourself..its a tough call.. and for him to want to be with a woman who quite frankly must look 'odd' in a silver mini skirt, well..I feel sorry for him. Not my type by along way..hope your having a better day.. simon

[Aliddy]

Hi there, well so far a better day thankyou....

 

You know I think you are right, it is small steps we have to take, and if you need to keep some contact, no matter, how insignificant it may seem, then you must do that.

I suppose, that you don't want to be plagued with " if only's " I know you did all you possibly could, but your memories play cruel tricks with us, and we do thing " if only I etc etc....so maybe now is not the time to remove the last link.

 

Will she try again with you, if I am honest, I think maybe, from what I have read, and if/when she does, only you can decide what to do. Don't be influenced by what other people say you should do, these are your emotions and ONLY you can possibly know how to deal with them.

 

Now as for " her " that thing he is with now....

I am sure, she is only 3ft high, bright green, size 12 feet and smells of a stagnant swamp....

What wonderous images that brings to my mind ...:-)

 

Hope you are o.k. too,

 

Suzanne :-)

[sharp2007]

Hi there, well so far a better day thankyou....

 

You know I think you are right, it is small steps we have to take, and if you need to keep some contact, no matter, how insignificant it may seem, then you must do that.

I suppose, that you don't want to be plagued with " if only's " I know you did all you possibly could, but your memories play cruel tricks with us, and we do thing " if only I etc etc....so maybe now is not the time to remove the last link.

 

Will she try again with you, if I am honest, I think maybe, from what I have read, and if/when she does, only you can decide what to do. Don't be influenced by what other people say you should do, these are your emotions and ONLY you can possibly know how to deal with them.

 

Now as for " her " that thing he is with now....

I am sure, she is only 3ft high, bright green, size 12 feet and smells of a stagnant swamp....

What wonderous images that brings to my mind ...:-)

 

Hope you are o.k. too,

 

Suzanne :-)

I,m sorry but I wrote this on my blog a short time ago..[FONT=Trebuchet MS]I've just realised shes not coming back to me, I'm a little pissed, no totally pissed..and feel so ****ing ****, sorry for the swearing, but its how I feel at the moment, in fact I don't know how I'm capable of typing this..I love her, I do, all I want to do is hold her, to say how much I miss her.. Its killing me.. it really is.. maybe its the drink.. no its not.. I so much love her still..someone help me please..I'm a ****ing decent guy, not 2 bad looking, have prospects, so why is she not with me hey..answer me that world..please.. I'm so messed up suzanne, what do I do? I'm not mentally disturbed, just in love and its so hurting..sorry..[/FONT]

[Aliddy]

Hey there, dont do this !!!

 

You seemed to be coping so well, trust me " drinking " is a depressive, and will without doubt make you feel so much worse.

There is a formula, for when you drink , it's is called E over I, which means, that normally, your Intellect controls your Emotions, but when under the influence of alcohol, it is reversed, hence E over I so your emotions over ride your intelligence, that is why so many people do things they regret........

So that is what is happening to you.................

You must not make any decisions, whilst you are in this state.........trust me I know !!!

Please post so I know you are o.k.

 

Suzanne :-)

[sharp2007]

Hey there, dont do this !!!

 

You seemed to be coping so well, trust me " drinking " is a depressive, and will without doubt make you feel so much worse.

There is a formula, for when you drink , it's is called E over I, which means, that normally, your Intellect controls your Emotions, but when under the influence of alcohol, it is reversed, hence E over I so your emotions over ride your intelligence, that is why so many people do things they regret........

So that is what is happening to you.................

You must not make any decisions, whilst you are in this state.........trust me I know !!!

Please post so I know you are o.k.

 

Suzanne :-)

I feel such a complete fool..pleading my heart out like that. I'm ok now, well just. I'm not like that usually, life just got too much today and a lack of sleep, plus the drink..no I'm not a pi** head, far from it. You have your problems to Suzanne, as everyone else..so why should it be me, me ,me..its wrong.. I'm sorry. I just wish that for once something would go right, when things ever do, not often.. I'm always looking for them to go wrong..do you feel the same sometimes? You know I realise that being with someone who loves me means more to me than anything, well except my daughter, but that goes without exception and not what I mean..maybe I'm in love with the idea of being in love..I don't know, I wish I had the answer.. so then I could simply enjoy my life, how I want to, with someone, to share experiences with, to walk down the street with hand in hand, to talk, to listen, to be in love with..I'm to much of an old romantic thats my problem..hope your day went well..simon