Reason why I would never be an OW....

[bish]

Any OW who becomes an OW without knowing the MM is married are victims. That, I think everyone can agree on.

 

Yes...I completely agree with that statement.

[bish]

Ever read a bitchy post from a BS in this forum and then think to yourself, "Hmmm .... I wonder why some one would feel the need cheat on her. She has such a pleasant personality."

 

Yeah .... me too.

 

Ever think that the person betrayed never felt angry until after the fact?

[annabelle75]

Ever think that the person betrayed never felt angry until after the fact?

 

I know it happens. I won't deny you that.

[justice]

Some truth to that....but if you had the choice between jumping in a backyard with a snarling pit bull and a yorkshire terrier...which would you choose?

 

Well..never mind...we all already know you'd choose a MM. You have no sense of decency.

 

Were it me, I'd jump in the backyard with a pit bull, at least they are up front with their aggression and you'd know where you stand, I've known some yorkies that will sidle up to you wanting to be petted and then bite you when you least expect it. I'd rather know where it's coming from. Nice point, Bish.

[justice]

There is too much in this thread for me comment on all of it so I'm just going with this blanket response.

 

First of all I find the subject matter of this thread to be offensive to those that this LS forum section was made for. It doesn't belong here.

 

Second, I am amazed at how delussional some of the BS that post here are. The things they say just make me shake my head in awe. But I guess they have to live in some fantasy land in order to justify staying with some one that CHOSE to **** some one else. I don't mean to be crued but that is exactly what they did.

 

Third, it also amazes me that the BS that come here and bash every thread started by a OM/OW always say the same thing about "being over it" and how the "OW/OM wasn't important" and their lives are all "peaches and cream and happy now." Then why are they here EVERYDAY harrassing us? Seems to me they aren't as happy as they want us to think. Perhaps they have to come here and try to beat up and claim superiority over the OW/OM as a way of trying to bolster their self-esteem after dealing with the reality that their spouse ****ed some one else.

 

Sadly, all the OW/OM bashing in the world isn't going to make them feel better in the long run. Maybe they should focus on working on their relationships at home and not obsessing over a bunch of strangers on a message board.

 

I come to this forum because through my ordeal, many of the ow's here were very helpful and talked to me one on one and helped me with their insight. I don't come in here to bash the ow, in listening there is knowledge and in knowledge there is power. It was the ow's here that helped me through some of my worst times and with alot of the questions that I had that weren't being answered and I'm grateful to them for that. Would I ever become an OW? No. And why not? Because, I refuse to treat anyone else as I was treated by the ow in my case. True too, there are malicious ow's just as there are malicious bs's in some instances. It's a catch 22 situation whenever the two meet. I don't bash anyone that doesn't bash me.

[lost4ever]

Wow, New to LS, and this post brings a great deal to light. Bish likes to pick on me, though it hurts I like to read what he writes, not that it is helpful in anyway, (like say Darth, that actually gives advice, and tells me I'm a dumb A$$ and then says this is what you should do) but Bish, in my opinion has the same raw anger that my H has. He to me is one of the very few men on this board that just speak with emotion, no sugar coating, no real reason. ever time I read something he post, I think, well thats what is going on in my H's head? My H would never say those things of course, to me why to polite (Bish, more than likely didn't say this stuff to his wife) he just vents here. I value everyones opinion so far, some more than others, but I am glad some people come over to forums that really don't relate to them, IMO

[bish]

Were it me, I'd jump in the backyard with a pit bull, at least they are up front with their aggression and you'd know where you stand, I've known some yorkies that will sidle up to you wanting to be petted and then bite you when you least expect it. I'd rather know where it's coming from. Nice point, Bish.

 

LOL..ya ok. 2 fences, one snarling pit bull, and one yorkie....I highly doubt you would jump in the fence with a dog that will go for your jugular and possibly kill you than a dog that will just break a little skin at the ankles.