Nichole Posted December 26, 1999 Share Posted December 26, 1999 I have a boyfriend, who treats me bad emotionally and I plan on breaking up with him, but thats not the problem! I am falling for one of his friends! The guy I am falling for is super sweet and caring. We have both liked each other for 5 months now and the other night he came over for the first time of him and I being alone and we slept together. He knows I like him alot and he knows I don't want to be with my boyfriend. But since then he's been kinda avoiding me. I don't know if it's just been because he's so busy for the holidays or what, but I don't know what to do Please Help! Link to post Share on other sites
no longer Posted December 27, 1999 Share Posted December 27, 1999 Hmmm...interesting one. Well, the first question I have to ask -- how good of friends are they? I mean, if you say that your bf and this guy are "friends," then the guy you've slept with has just violated a most basic principle of friendship -- loyalty. I mean, I understand that things can happen and people make mistakes, but if your bf and this guy are GOOD friends then he's probably feeling guilty about what happened. And if he's not feeling guilty then you've got to ask yourself if you want to be involved with someone who has no problem betraying a friend's trust and confidence, because he might just betray your own. I have a boyfriend, who treats me bad emotionally and I plan on breaking up with him, but thats not the problem! I am falling for one of his friends! The guy I am falling for is super sweet and caring. We have both liked each other for 5 months now and the other night he came over for the first time of him and I being alone and we slept together. He knows I like him alot and he knows I don't want to be with my boyfriend. But since then he's been kinda avoiding me. I don't know if it's just been because he's so busy for the holidays or what, but I don't know what to do Please Help! Link to post Share on other sites
I agree Posted December 27, 1999 Share Posted December 27, 1999 I agree completely with 'no longer'. This friend of your boyfriend's was probably just using you for sexual gratification, I'm sorry to say, because, well, many men have been known do that... It has nothing to do with you, so if I am right, please, DO NOT take it personally. It is the rare woman that hasn't been "used" for sex. Men, whether we like to realize ir or not, are quite sexual creatures. I'm not saying men are bad people, because really, they're not...for the most part. You are probably too young to remember a group called Dr. Hook, who sang a song with the lyrics, "Girls can get it, any time they like", inferring that men (mostly) would love to be able to have sex as often as women CAN, because if a woman ever wants to have sex, men will frequently offer their "services" at the drop of a, er, hat. I'm not saying that men are all sleazy perverts...it's really...a matter of biology. Also, this guy IS friends with your soon to be ex. Therefore, I would say, that firstly, he is probably feeling guilty about it, and secondly, his loyalty (the little loyalty he obviously has), will be given to his friend. Like the previous respondent said, would you really want to be with a guy who betrays his friend so easily? Move on hon, he's not for you. Good luck. I have a boyfriend, who treats me bad emotionally and I plan on breaking up with him, but thats not the problem! I am falling for one of his friends! The guy I am falling for is super sweet and caring. We have both liked each other for 5 months now and the other night he came over for the first time of him and I being alone and we slept together. He knows I like him alot and he knows I don't want to be with my boyfriend. But since then he's been kinda avoiding me. I don't know if it's just been because he's so busy for the holidays or what, but I don't know what to do Please Help! Link to post Share on other sites
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