Too attached and not attached enough

[sungrl]

my boyfriend seems to be fine without me. He does alot of things on sundays for a family member or for himself such as working on his car. We hardly would ever spend the day together and be together out during the day. It was only at night after work and we would only see each other for 3 nights a week due to distance. He even mentions things sometimes that make me believe---doesnt he think of me? Like those survival shows where they spend time in different locations--he said if he could get a show like that he would take a leave of absence and go for a year...and i just thought ok i know its not happening but I truly believe if it was happening, he would do it in a heartbeat and wouldnt be completely concerned about him and i.

 

I actually have been seeing him on more sundays now but a few of the sundays it was helping him with the things he needs to do. In a way, its good because we are doing something productive together and something positive.

But i honestly do feel he is fine without seeing me on that day and rather sees things as deadlines and he has already said its not a matter of not wanting to see you. To me, it kind of is because no matter how busy a person is--if they want to see you during the day a few times out of the months or 2 months, they would. That is how i see it anyway.

 

So, we have been seeing each other a little more often on sundays but i honestly believe he is fine without seeing me...which in a way just makes me feel needy and like i dont have the upper hand at all.

 

What do you think?

[ash519]

I think you have posted this question like, well, a lot and you dont like the responses so here goes.

 

You have been together for a while now...so therefore, he is fine without you. He doesnt think of it as "without you", you are still his gf, he still loves you, but Sunday is his day to get things done and he is more than welcome to share that with you. (If you want to go or not).

 

And if you really feel neglected every Sunday (or almost every Sunday) then maybe tonight you should call and say "Hey, I was wondering if this Sunday you and I could go to the ______?" (I dont know, movies, zoo, museum) and see how he reacts to that.