You'd think that after 6 years....

[LakesideDream]

A couple of days ago an old family friend contacted me saying he and his GF were on a road trip, and visiting my ex (100 miles away) and her husband, the MM she had a LTA with over our 25 year marriage, a marrige that blew up 6 years ago. His marriage blew as well. He was curious if I'd like to meet them for lunch.

 

As I hadn't heard from him in years, I agree'd. We sat down at a local eatery, and conversation developed.

 

Seems that a year ago my ex's H fell from a ladder, and bounced his head off a concrete slab, causing some broken bones and later strokes from the head injury. He's a mess and neither one of them has been able to work in the year since. Luckily, I had my best "poker face" on, pretending that I knew it all, cluck, clucking.. saying things like, "I'm sure it will all work out".

 

During our whole marriage, I had an undiagnosed intestinal problem that caused me real hell. I couldn't miss a day of work, I had a wife, and two children to support. A year before the end, it was diagnosed and I had the surgery. I was home the next day, (against doctors advice), up in 3 days with three big holes in my stomach and chest, carefully mowing the lawn in a week, and back to work in six weeks. I've worked hard ever since, putting a daughter through college, and supporting a less successful son (both were adult, and out of the house when the divorce happened).

 

A week after the surgery, my then wife gave me the "I love you but not in love with you, and need my space" line for the first time. This was brought on because I went out and got her a card, with a letter enclosed telling her how much I loved her, and appreciated all she ment to me, along with a dozen red roses and snuck them into her car before she came home. She did however relent a couple of months later, before moving out. Seems her MM wasn't able to join her (I was completely ignorant, never occured to me she was cheating).. then, and ALL her friends thought her timing was abysmal embarrassing her greatly.

 

There is a 7 year age difference between us, and she actually said that she "didn't want to be 60, with me 70 having to change my Depends for me. Obviously that was to hurt me. Her MM later husband was her age.

 

After the lunch ended, and they hit the highway on their last leg home I got into my car and started chuckling. I've been spontaniously chuckling ever few minutes ever since. I'm chortling as I type. I have the feeling I'll be smiling a lot in the next month or so.

 

Mind you, I never had bad feelings about the guy. He wasn't cheating on me. I knew I couldn't allow myself to see him as the enemy. I realize that I'm very amused that things didn't work out the way she dreamed. They "may" have "true love", but she also has the Depends.

 

You'd think that after six years, I wouldn't give a damn.. obviously not so. I think it's a hoot. I'm gonna have to read up on the Karma thing too, maybe there's something to it. Absolutely the best lunch I ever bought.

 

One curious thing, neither of my adult childrened mentioned this... hmmm. I'll have to ask them about that.

 

And no... I don't feel a bit of guilt for reacting the way I am.