iceknite Posted July 24, 2007 Share Posted July 24, 2007 There's this girl on my soccer team that I really like and I want her to know how I feel about her. As far as I know she doesn't hate me, but she doesn't really talk to me and she doesn't really show signs that she likes me although she may be the shy type but I don't really think so. I'm not exactly outgoing myself so I've never really been good talking to girls. Is there something that you guys can help me with? Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted July 24, 2007 Share Posted July 24, 2007 You're kind of stuck where you are unless you start talking to her. It's a bit of a hurdle to get over if you're not good at talking to girls but it's just something you have to do. Imagine talking to her just like you would anyone else. And don't think of it as trying to win her over, just think of it as letting her have the chance to get to know you. You could also try slide-tackling her and then telling her you'll make it up to her by taking her out to dinner. (I'm just joking, don't do that.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author iceknite Posted July 26, 2007 Author Share Posted July 26, 2007 ^Yeah I figured something like that but I've never been good at starting conversations, whether it was with a girl or a guy. I don't have many shy friends cause all the friends I have kinda approached me first and we got to know each other. I've rarely(if ever) approached a stranger and became friends with him/her. So I guess the question here should be how do I start conversation with her? What do I say to make her like me and hopefully fall in love with me? Here's the story to how I fell in love with her. From the start of the season I thought she was kinda cute but nothing more than that at first. i always thought she was kinda cute and it stayed like that for a while. But then one night I dreamt about her. It was a weird dream that I don't really remember correctly but I remember that we started talking and stuff and I was acting like I've never before and it was working! She was falling for me and all I remember after that was that we were kinda just walking around together and having a great time and I was buying her stuff and we were so happy together. That's all I remember. The next morning the first thing I thought about was her and I couldn't get her out of my head since then. I never REALLY liked her before that but after that night, I can't get her out of my head. Is this dream kind of a way to tell me what is going to happen or of what will never happen and it is simply a dream? This is so weird and I've never felt this way before. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iceknite Posted July 28, 2007 Author Share Posted July 28, 2007 bumpbump bump Link to post Share on other sites
azianpride143 Posted July 28, 2007 Share Posted July 28, 2007 How do you know if you don't make the first move? How can you tell she like's you without getting to know her? Only you can answer these questions. Just do it. If you don't, you'll lose all your hair thinking and dreaming. Life is all about experiences wether good or bad. Once you get this off your chest if it doesn't work out you can move on. But if it does, then you've finally made fantasy into reality. Good Luck. Link to post Share on other sites
lraecg Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 As the previous poster intimated don't over think it. You are far from the only 16 year old to find approaching people difficult; you've just got to think about what qualities you have and how people would be the richer for having you as a friend. Maybe try joining a new club or something and set yourself the aim of approaching a few people there - I bet you'll surprise yourself! As for the girl; firstly don't get too hung up on the dream - if anything just take away the image of you talking to her with confidence. I know you haven't been attracted to a girl like this before but remember this won't be the last person who makes you feel that way it's a million miles from a make or break situation so don't put any undue pressure on yourself. As azianpride says experience teaches you a million times more than anything else possibly can, so just try to start a conversation with her (just ask questions about what's happening with her atm and listen closely & respond to her replies) and be proud of yourself for having the guts to meet the challenge. From there take it a step at a time and don't beat yourself up if things don't work out quite as you hope - knockbacks are all part of the game and, although you might well feel like crap at the time, it'll soon pale into insignificance. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author iceknite Posted August 8, 2007 Author Share Posted August 8, 2007 thanks for the help guys. we now talk on msn all the time and i think she really likes too. she's usually the one who starts talking to me and she says when i get a car i should go visit her and stuff, so i really think(and hope) that she's in love with me.if any of you have any further advice for me that would be great, otherwise i will be having a great time with her. Link to post Share on other sites
unrelatedto Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 that's a really great thing... moving one step at a time... don't wait any longer,, at least give her hints that you love her. it shouldn't be as hard.. come on.. you're courageous! Link to post Share on other sites
Author iceknite Posted August 9, 2007 Author Share Posted August 9, 2007 I just wanna make sure she likes me and just doesnt want to be friends, so ill ask: if she keeps telling me that we need to hang out and she asks me questions like are u shy and what was your longest relationship, does that mean she likes me or just wants to be friends? Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 I just wanna make sure she likes me and just doesnt want to be friends, so ill ask: if she keeps telling me that we need to hang out and she asks me questions like are u shy and what was your longest relationship, does that mean she likes me or just wants to be friends? It means: "Stop being a pussy and ask me out." Link to post Share on other sites
Author iceknite Posted August 14, 2007 Author Share Posted August 14, 2007 Things are now going great with us. We're going to the movies tomorrow night. I just wanna know when I should sneak in the first kiss? This is our first official date so I'm wondering if I should do it then or wait till the second or third date? Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted August 16, 2007 Share Posted August 16, 2007 do it at the right moment. Just look at her and don't say anything and you will know this is the moment. Don't be nervous and just do it!! If you skip this right moment, she will be very disappointed She already know how shy you are, so show her you are the man lol Link to post Share on other sites
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