Author annabelle75 Posted July 30, 2007 Author Share Posted July 30, 2007 Time to put this back on topic. This thread was not created to be another BS versus OW/OM debate. Start your own thread if that is what you want. I'm going to ask that the BS respect the topic of this thread and allow it to continue on the original topic (OW stories of BS troubles). Link to post Share on other sites
Author annabelle75 Posted July 30, 2007 Author Share Posted July 30, 2007 you never had any respect for her to begin with,after all you are sleeping with her hubby. If you feel the need to come in and pass judgment on some one you might want to actually read their story first. I did not know that he was married and once I found out I ended the realtionship. He then told his W he wanted a divorce and filed for separation and asked me to give him a second chance. And for the record (even though I don't think i should have to explain this), even after I decided to give him another chance, I did not sleep with him. The last time he and I slept toegther was the last weekend we spent together before I found out he was married. Link to post Share on other sites
KATANYA Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 I believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" - may not happen right away but with the right situations presenting itself - it will happen again! I have a hard time believe any woman who says her man won't cheat "again"! lol - You can be naive if that makes it easier to live with but if he cheated once do you really believe he got it out of his system????? He'll just do it better next time so he doesn't get caught! I'm sure the same goes for women who cheat but I really don't know as many women who do as men - I just know that those that do have done it more than once and will keep doing it as long as they get away with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 I believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" - may not happen right away but with the right situations presenting itself - it will happen again! I have a hard time believe any woman who says her man won't cheat "again"! lol - You can be naive if that makes it easier to live with but if he cheated once do you really believe he got it out of his system????? He'll just do it better next time so he doesn't get caught! I'm sure the same goes for women who cheat but I really don't know as many women who do as men - I just know that those that do have done it more than once and will keep doing it as long as they get away with it. I truly believe 'once a cheater, always a cheater'... once they get that rush in their system... they just can't go back to their boring life, this is like a 'drug', they get addicted to 'pheromones' LOL. I also think that it is easier for a woman to stop her A and never cheat again... women are more emotional...while it's a totally different story for men.. they are more 'sexual' so as soon as they get an opportunity to have sex again, they will. I said it before, it is very naive for any woman to say that their partner will NEVER cheat or will NEVER cheat AGAIN... cause it will happen. And next time, he will learn from his mistakes and will get smarter so he won't get caught... if he was caught before. Plus some men, are sooo smart when it comes to excuses.. they do it on their work hours, while going golfing... or out with the boys... or going to shop to Canadian Tire, for their car, o Home Depot for the house... ha-hem... all 'cover-ups' I heard before. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 You are so wrong on all counts that you're pathetic. Once again, your attitudes are framed by your "profession." It may be the world's oldest but it doesn't mean you're right. You're selling snake oil here and likely elsewhere as well. The last person I would pay any credence to is a prostitute. You can use whatever fancy term you wish but in the final analysis, that's who and what you are and you're not creditable. I will now patiently await the "ding" from the moderators who seem to have a problem with straight talk when it's the unvarnished truth! If I disappear, you'll all know why. Jimmy crack corn and I don't care. It needs to be said! It's a simple matter of ethics. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 You are so wrong on all counts that you're pathetic. Once again, your attitudes are framed by your "profession." It may be the world's oldest but it doesn't mean you're right. You're selling snake oil here and likely elsewhere as well. The last person I would pay any credence to is a prostitute. You can use whatever fancy term you wish but in the final analysis, that's who and what you are and you're not creditable. I will now patiently await the "ding" from the moderators who seem to have a problem with straight talk when it's the unvarnished truth! If I disappear, you'll all know why. Jimmy crack corn and I don't care. It needs to be said! It's a simple matter of ethics. I'll miss you. Seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 I thought this was a thread asking us to recount our worst OP stories. What a disappointment after reading it from the beginning. Link to post Share on other sites
sadbuttrue Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 curmudgeon, are you calling all OW prostitutes or just lizzie? either way, i think you are wrong, just wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
East of Jupiter Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 If you feel the need to come in and pass judgment on some one you might want to actually read their story first. I did not know that he was married and once I found out I ended the realtionship. He then told his W he wanted a divorce and filed for separation and asked me to give him a second chance. And for the record (even though I don't think i should have to explain this), even after I decided to give him another chance, I did not sleep with him. The last time he and I slept toegther was the last weekend we spent together before I found out he was married. Thank you for being so honest and sharing that. Are you still together? Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 My remarks were specific to the individual I was responding to. I'm not wrong in my philosophy althugh I could very well be in yours and that's fine. I do not lump people into collective categories. Lizzie touts and flaunts her "profession" and revels in it. As far as I'm concerned, that makes any advice she gives in any forum suspect, especially regarding any type of committed relationship. But of course it is, after all, a matter of individual ethics and values, or lack thereof! Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 I truly believe 'once a cheater, always a cheater'... once they get that rush in their system... they just can't go back to their boring life, this is like a 'drug', they get addicted to 'pheromones' LOL. I am so hoping you're wrong Lizzie but I see where you're coming from. I cheated a few times on my ex SO. The first couple of times were fairly early on in our R before we lived together and I felt as guilty as hell! I really beat myself up about it and, although I confessed the first time it happened (even though that was just a kiss) I didn't the second time as I had come to the realisation that I would only be doing it to ease my own conscience, I didn't want to hurt him unnecessarily and I certainly didn't want to lose him. Some years later, I started a 'fling' with a friend. It began with a druken kiss and carried on from there. Yes, I DID enjoy the excitement. Ex SO and I were living together, had a child and I was bored (and I am not excusing myself in any way here!) I knew I shouldn't be doing it but I couldn't stop myself (didn't want to stop) and in all honesty, I didn't even feel guilty. So, not only do people get off on the rush and can't live without it, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. I NEVER thought I was capable of cheating, then never thought I could cheat without feeling guilty. I just hope to God that in my R I am in now and in any future R, I will not be tempted to do so again. I am just extremely lucky that my ex never found out. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 Time to put this back on topic. This thread was not created to be another BS versus OW/OM debate. Start your own thread if that is what you want. I'm going to ask that the BS respect the topic of this thread and allow it to continue on the original topic (OW stories of BS troubles). I have another story but wow - with what's going on here, I don't think I want to tell my story... But yes, I agree with you - we should stick to the original topic! Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 I truly believe 'once a cheater, always a cheater'... once they get that rush in their system... they just can't go back to their boring life, this is like a 'drug', they get addicted to 'pheromones' LOL. I am so hoping you're wrong Lizzie but I see where you're coming from. I cheated a few times on my ex SO. The first couple of times were fairly early on in our R before we lived together and I felt as guilty as hell! I really beat myself up about it and, although I confessed the first time it happened (even though that was just a kiss) I didn't the second time as I had come to the realisation that I would only be doing it to ease my own conscience, I didn't want to hurt him unnecessarily and I certainly didn't want to lose him. Some years later, I started a 'fling' with a friend. It began with a druken kiss and carried on from there. Yes, I DID enjoy the excitement. Ex SO and I were living together, had a child and I was bored (and I am not excusing myself in any way here!) I knew I shouldn't be doing it but I couldn't stop myself (didn't want to stop) and in all honesty, I didn't even feel guilty. So, not only do people get off on the rush and can't live without it, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. I NEVER thought I was capable of cheating, then never thought I could cheat without feeling guilty. I just hope to God that in my R I am in now and in any future R, I will not be tempted to do so again. I am just extremely lucky that my ex never found out. And this post gives the "once a cheater always a cheater" more credibility. Why? Because you said you felt guilty as hell the 1st time you did it and beat yourself up over it....only to do it again...and again....and again. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 And this post gives the "once a cheater always a cheater" more credibility. Why? Because you said you felt guilty as hell the 1st time you did it and beat yourself up over it....only to do it again...and again....and again. I'm not saying my post is giving the 'once a cheater always a cheater' theory more credibility. I just felt I should point out that I can see how it happens. I am not excusing what I did in any way nor am I tarring everyone with the same brush as myself. For example, I don't think my exMM will EVER cheat again. He has learned his lesson for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 I'm not saying my post is giving the 'once a cheater always a cheater' theory more credibility. I know you weren't saying your post gave that phrase credibility. I was. Link to post Share on other sites
Author annabelle75 Posted August 1, 2007 Author Share Posted August 1, 2007 Come on everyone .... I've already asked nicely once. Lets get this thread back on topic. This is not another debate thread. This is for OW/OM to post stories about troubles with BSes. Lets get this back on topic before Tony comes in and shuts it down. Go fight in another thread or through PM. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 I was just wondering, if any one of you (OW/OM) have been one for a long time? There's a story behind this question... just want answers first, if that's alright. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 Come on everyone .... I've already asked nicely once. Lets get this thread back on topic. This is not another debate thread. This is for OW/OM to post stories about troubles with BSes. Lets get this back on topic before Tony comes in and shuts it down. Go fight in another thread or through PM. Thanks. Apologies Annabelle! You're quite right. Play nicely everyone!!!! Let's get back onto the original subject of this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
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