catrocks Posted July 30, 2007 Share Posted July 30, 2007 I haven't read any of your previous posts. From what I gather of this one, you don't want to be dependent on your H, which is great. You're in college, so you're heading in the right direction. Once you've graduated you can start your own career and become more independent - like others have said, there's no reason why you can't be independent within your marriage. I don't know how long you have left in college but it seems from your post that your H is supporting you through college, which is great. Say you have a year left of college, you could start an internship now and by the time you graduate you'd be on your way to a career and a more independent life. But I wonder, if you were to leave and try being independent whilst in college, would you survive? I'm not sure I would - not without getting into debt. Sure, you could get a full time job, but then would your college work suffer? If you can stand to be dependent on your H until you've graduated then try to wait until then before you make any decisions. Remember that not everyone's H would be able to support them through college, and for that you are lucky. Remember that sometimes it's hard to get across meanings when typing sometimes... so what you read in people's posts or what they read in yours might not be close to the truth.... but people are trying to help and I hope you find some answers from some of them. Link to post Share on other sites
va bene Posted August 3, 2007 Share Posted August 3, 2007 alltogeather; togeather; soul reason; unrational; indesicive From the way you spell in your posts, maybe it's not such a good idea for you to be independent of your husband's financial support. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted August 4, 2007 Share Posted August 4, 2007 I go through a lot when my H is away.... I mean damn with people who are married and who are two careered are they in the military living that kind of life to sacrifice a lengthy period of time a part? It's not easy.....it never is and being married to a service man makes you think and feel many things 100xs more over than couples who sit down each night at the dinner table and talk about their day working. It personally takes a lot out of you and yes spouses of service men and women who live alone most of their time still need to get away for the reasons that they think too. It's to preserve the self sanity from what they go through, and with that its another reason why I feel that I would like to do things on my own. Sounds like you can't live the military life. I'm young also and I have no problem being independent. Being married doesn't dependent you unless you let it. Am I dead serious about leaving? well it's being considered in my mind although, I will have a heart to heart and mind to mind talk with my H and see his response. I also had in mind to lay out rules if in fact that this separation takes place. Don't get me wrong I am so in love with my husband, it's just "me" and my views on what I need to do. Please tell me your not thinking of separating so you can live the single independent life because you missed it and then when your done, go back. Link to post Share on other sites
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