more married people should go with their gut feelings

[supertouch]

how many more marriages would end if men and women acted on their gut feelings rather than blindly trusting their spouses?

 

i think more people need to suspect their spouses are cheating so they can get their lives back and find someone better.

 

who agrees with me?

[Touche]

What if your gut feeling has always told you to trust your spouse? Should I ignore that gut feeling?

 

Oh and by the way...I don't "blindly" trust anyone. I have to have a reason to trust. And that I do.

[Mr. Lucky]

I think treating your spouse like a cheater can be frustrating to them to the point that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. There is a big gap between blind trust and paranoia...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Trialbyfire]

Chock one up here for going from blind trust to gut instinct to...ding..ding..ding..he's a cheater. Don't worry. The human ability for self-protection is quite something.

[Lynna]

Yes, you should listen to your instinct, but NO you should not just automatically start suspecting your spouse. That is a sure way to cause problems in your marriage if they are not already there!

 

What people in resposible relationships do is COMMUNICATE with each other. If more of us communicated properly, then there would be less infidelity. If people actually TALKED to their spouse when they were unhappy in their relationship before being selfish and going off and getting in an affair, then they would have a chance of healing what it wrong before hurting each other. The WS is the one who needs to initiate the communication here since they are the one being tempted.

[justice]

I agree...blind trust is what made my divorce happen. Oh that an an ow from hades....lol

[Lizzie60]

When I first came to LS I thought BS meant 'Blind Spouse' LOL

 

I think we should always listen to our 'little voice' but not get paranoid.

 

If a W has suspicions, most of the time, there is something going on.... and the H is having an affair...

 

When we think that, according to some stats... there are over 65 to 70% of men cheating... chances are the suspicions are true.

[outofdarkness]

When I first came to LS I thought BS meant 'Blind Spouse' LOL

 

I think we should always listen to our 'little voice' but not get paranoid.

 

If a W has suspicions, most of the time, there is something going on.... and the H is having an affair...

 

When we think that, according to some stats... there are over 65 to 70% of men cheating... chances are the suspicions are true.

I will agree w/ you on this one....The very first thing most will tell a W is to go w/ your gut feeling...Women in general tend to be very intuitive..MUCH more so then the male gender...Just one of our many "one ups" on them...lol...If you THINK something might be going on....MOST of the time...NOT ALL, it IS going on...Trouble is, at least in MY situation, you've been w/ the OP for so long that you lose yourself and all of those little voices that are so helpful in guiding our lives...

[Curmudgeon]

When we think that, according to some stats... there are over 65 to 70% of men cheating... chances are the suspicions are true.

 

And here I believed you when you declared it was unequivocably 90% of us.

 

We're losing ground!

[Curmudgeon]

how many more marriages would end if men and women acted on their gut feelings rather than blindly trusting their spouses?

 

i think more people need to suspect their spouses are cheating so they can get their lives back and find someone better.

 

who agrees with me?

 

Some of us are actuallt ::::shudder:::: faithful to our spouses and our vows.

 

Imagine that!

[Trialbyfire]

Some of us are actuallt ::::shudder:::: faithful to our spouses and our vows.

 

Imagine that!

Are there more of you around?