Quitting smoking when your not ready

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

My husband has been on my ass again about me quitting smoking..and in my defense I am not ready. Ive read many times that if your not ready, it won't work. You have to want to quit or else its useless..I know I know...why would I not want to quit...honestly I enjoy it and I'm sure a lot of smokers will tell you the same thing.

I'm also worried about the irritability, weight gain, mood swings. Who knows what else.

Bottom line, I don't want to and I'm not ready. Will I ever be ready..maybe...Who know what the future holds, who knows if I go on BC and I have to stop (i wont go on BC b/c i have to stop). What does that tell you?

[Lizzie60]

My husband has been on my ass again about me quitting smoking..and in my defense I am not ready. Ive read many times that if your not ready, it won't work. You have to want to quit or else its useless..I know I know...why would I not want to quit...honestly I enjoy it and I'm sure a lot of smokers will tell you the same thing.

I'm also worried about the irritability, weight gain, mood swings. Who knows what else.

Bottom line, I don't want to and I'm not ready. Will I ever be ready..maybe...Who know what the future holds, who knows if I go on BC and I have to stop (i wont go on BC b/c i have to stop). What does that tell you?

 

That tells me that if your husband is addicted to porn or alcool, or gambling or women...there is not much you can tell him...

[Touche]

My husband has been on my ass again about me quitting smoking..and in my defense I am not ready. Ive read many times that if your not ready, it won't work. You have to want to quit or else its useless..I know I know...why would I not want to quit...honestly I enjoy it and I'm sure a lot of smokers will tell you the same thing.

I'm also worried about the irritability, weight gain, mood swings. Who knows what else.

Bottom line, I don't want to and I'm not ready. Will I ever be ready..maybe...Who know what the future holds, who knows if I go on BC and I have to stop (i wont go on BC b/c i have to stop). What does that tell you?

 

I'm sure they'll be plenty of people chiming in to tell you why you should stop. I'm not going to be one of those. I'm a smoker and haven't made the decision to quit yet.

 

That said, I completely agree with you. It has to be YOUR decision and yours alone. It will never work if it's not completely your will that is driving you to quit. But you really should start thinking about it. I don't know how old you are, but I'm in my mid-40's and for the first time, I'm really noticing the effects. I'm noticing that I'm out of breath doing the simplest physical things like vacuuming even. Not good. A walk around the yard even leaves me huffing and puffing.

 

I wish I never started back after my pregnancy. But anyway, he needs to back off and let you decide when you're ready to do it. Can you at least not smoke around him? That might make him back off some.

[HokeyReligions]

You will never be 'ready' - there will always be a reason not to quit. Even if you think you are ready it does not change the cravings and withdrawl. I know because I smoked for 30 +/- years and quite a couple of times - I am currently not smoking for nearly a year. I quit for 8 years once and then started again. The addiction is strong. The most success I had is when I tossed out my cigs without really thinking about it or trying to psych myself up for it. The more I thought about trying the harder it was to put them down. It was easier when I just did it without thinking about it.

 

Everyone is different. Don't worry about weight gain or irritability or anything - those issues can be addressed later after your body has purged all the toxins and you have established a new routine, and those things are going to happen regardless anyway.

 

I've been able to use my cig money for other things and I like where the money goes now.

 

Good Luck

[Nemo]

My husband has been on my ass again

So far I am with you. This is getting exciting.

Bottom line, I don't want to and I'm not ready. Will I ever be ready..maybe...Who know what the future holds,

I'm sure he completely accepts you as you are, but is just a little worried about the long-term health implications. Life is about quality, not quantity. Maybe suggest to him that it's one of the things about life you enjoy, and you are not ready to give it up. Good luck.

[amaysngrace]

Just think of it realistically and maybe you'll find enough reasons to quit instead of looking at the one excuse not to.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

That tells me that if your husband is addicted to porn or alcohol, or gambling or women...there is not much you can tell him...

 

I'm sorry, what do you mean?

[whichwayisup]

My husband has been on my ass again about me quitting smoking..and in my defense I am not ready. Ive read many times that if your not ready, it won't work. You have to want to quit or else its useless..I know I know...why would I not want to quit...honestly I enjoy it and I'm sure a lot of smokers will tell you the same thing.

I'm also worried about the irritability, weight gain, mood swings. Who knows what else.

Bottom line, I don't want to and I'm not ready. Will I ever be ready..maybe...Who know what the future holds, who knows if I go on BC and I have to stop (i wont go on BC b/c i have to stop). What does that tell you?

 

I know what you mean! My H once in a while says to me "You need to cut down, need to quit, do you really need that cig? You just put one out half an hour ago..." Yeah, well, when he tells me that, it just makes me wanna smoke MORE!

 

I know I have to quit, I'm 36 years old, my dad died of lung cancer when I was 23 years old...My aunt died of complications from emphisema (spelling I know) which led to cancer too...BUT, I like smoking! Even though I know it's not good for me! Pathetic...

 

All I can tell ya (cuz this is where my mind is at these days) consider taking chantix, join a smokers-enders group and take it day by day.

[whichwayisup]

That tells me that if your husband is addicted to porn or alcool, or gambling or women...there is not much you can tell him...

 

HUH???

[Ruby]

Hey

 

I am on day 8 of not smoking!

 

I LOVED a ciggie and never wanted to quit until recent months. I smoked for 22 years and smoked 20 a day - Sometimes 30 if I was stressed or on a night out!

 

I am taking Verenceline Champix and they are WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

You take them for 2 weeks before quitting. On day 5 I stopped enjoying a ciggie and then the smell of an ashtray made me feel sick. By week 2 I didnt want a ciggie at all and on my quit day I found it very easy not to smoke! I still had to battle the 'habit' of it, like lighting up when on the phone, lighting up when putting my make-up on etc but when I actually think of putting a cigarette in my mouth and lighting it I feel repulsed!

 

Honey this is coming from a person who LOVED a ciggie!

 

Try them, what do you have to lose?

 

If you continue to snoke then that is your choice honey and your health and not even your hubby should force u into something you dont want!

 

Good luck whatever your choice!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ruby]

Oh also I have no increased appetite as I dont feel I need to replace a ciggie with food as I just dont want one, infact I am eating less and have lost weight.

 

These tablets are fab I am recomending them to everyone!

[whichwayisup]

I am on day 8 of not smoking!

 

Congrats!!

 

I am taking Verenceline Champix and they are WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Any side effects at all?

[Ruby]

None at the moment and I am on week 3 of taking them.

 

May I also add that I have been more stressed over the last 2 weeks due to personal problems that have been fired at me one after another and I still haven't wanted a cigarette!

 

None of my friends and family can believe it!

[blind_otter]

I'm with the other words of wisdom on this one. You'll NEVER be ready to quit. My Father was dying of lung cancer and he still wasn't ready to quit. You'll always find a reason to keep sucking that poison down. Keep smoking, if you want to. But be prepared for the consequences and please don't be upset if you get cancer or emphysema or COPD or chronic bronchitis.

 

I quit in january. I struggle with not smoking every single day. I look at cigarette butts and often have to fight back the urge to suck on the end of someone else's used butt. How sad, right? But it's better than dying of lung cancer. I saw that firsthand and hell no, that's not how I'm going to go.

[Krytellan]

Congrats RUBY!!! That's great.

 

To the OP, at least you know the battle ahead. You're right, it won't happen until you're ready. But that being said, what you can do now is to be firm in your convictions that when you DO feel ready, that you will act on it passionately and promptly. Those windows of opportunity are rare and they close quickly. Be prepared to seize it.

 

I tried quitting at least 10 different times, each with varying degrees of success and each when I wasn't really ready to. The window opened for me 9 months ago and I seized it and have been smoke free since.

 

Be ready when it comes. And think of the money you'll save.

[beautifulearth83]

My husband has been on my ass again about me quitting smoking..and in my defense I am not ready. Ive read many times that if your not ready, it won't work. You have to want to quit or else its useless..I know I know...why would I not want to quit...honestly I enjoy it and I'm sure a lot of smokers will tell you the same thing.

I'm also worried about the irritability, weight gain, mood swings. Who knows what else.

Bottom line, I don't want to and I'm not ready. Will I ever be ready..maybe...Who know what the future holds, who knows if I go on BC and I have to stop (i wont go on BC b/c i have to stop). What does that tell you?

 

It's something you need to do with your own will power, because that's one of the advantages of quitting smoking, the challenge of overcoming it and doing something healthy for yourself. But realize that your husband probably cares about your health and him being comfortable too.