It's been two months but he still hasn't kissed me?

[pinkeywear]

I've been dating this guy for almost two months now and I'm not sure how he feels about me.

 

So far we've been on 7 dates but on none of those dates has he held my hand, hugged me, kissed me, or done any sort of physical contact with me. Nor has he expressed his feelings by action or words that he has for me. Does this mean he wants to take it super slow, or does it mean that he's unsure or uninterested in me?

 

He also gives me soo many mixed messages!! Which makes me really confused about our whole dating situation and how he feels.

 

What he does that makes me think he's interested:

1. He texts or calls me 4-6 times a week.

 

2. I asked him if he wanted to try my cooking and he said he'd gladly be my guinea pig.

 

What he does that makes me think he's uninterested:

1. Gives me lame excuses not to return my phone calls/texts in a timely manner. I wouldn't mind if he doesn't want to talk, but don't lie to my face and give me BS excuses such as "I was surfing until 1AM which is why I couldn't return your 11AM text message" and at 5:45PM on a saturday: "sorry for replying so late. i just woke up."

 

2. Brought his friend along to our 4th of july date. Which gave me the impression that he didn't want anything to happen between us when we watched fireworks.

 

 

 

 

I forgot to mention that we've also dated in the past but stopped dating after a couple months because he told me he preferred to hang out with guys rather than with girls.. Didn't speak to each other for about half a year and then suddenly, out of no where, he asked me to go on a date with him again in June.

 

 

 

I'm also a very shy person. Do you think he hasn't done anything because my shyness is giving him the wrong signals? I don't see how he can think I'm not interested though... because even though I'm not a very touchy feely flirter, I've been asking him to go out to places for the past couple weeks. If I wasn't interested, why would I have done that in the first place?

 

 

 

I've also noticed that his excuses started happening ever since I told him I didn't want to nap with him. We planned on getting some yogurt at a local yogurt shop and he planned on taking a nap at my house. But before he came over, he texted me and asked if napping at my house would be OK with me because "it might be a little awkward. but if you're OK with it i'm OK with it." I replied with "its ok since im not tired so I won't be napping with you or anything." And ever since then he's seemed less interested in me. Does that mean that he took my response as rejection or that he just wanted something more than just napping to happen? First of all, at that time we hadn't even kissed or hugged or ANYTHING yet. Why would I nap with him when none of those things have even happened yet? It seemed way too premature.

 

Anyways, I just wanted some opinions on this matter because I'm seriously thinking about breaking things off with him but I want to hear what people think before I make a decision.

[Trialbyfire]

7 dates and no contact? Unusual.

 

Why not take hold of his hand next time and see if he pulls away? Maybe he did feel rejected from your "nap" conversation and is waiting for a sign from you.

[cr8sea]

Sounds like you're pretty young...so it might be that he's just not sure of what to do!

What do you guys do when you go out? do you guys have fun when you're with each other? Unless you are having fun with each other, then its probably not worth trying to figure it out. Move onto someone that may be a bit more demonstrative.

If u are however having fun despite the physical part, maybe you can just enjoy each other's company and once you two are trully comfortable, then maybe he;ll be able to make more physical moves.

 

Good luck!

[KingCrimson]

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>I'm also a very shy person. Do you think he hasn't done anything because my shyness is giving him the wrong signals? I don't see how he can think I'm not interested though... because even though I'm not a very touchy feely flirter, I've been asking him to go out to places for the past couple weeks. If I wasn't interested, why would I have done that in the first place?<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

 

 

Therein lies your problem. two cases:

 

1. You are shy and he's shy. You're both blindly waiting for the other to give the signal, meanwhile both are too scared to make a move

 

2. He thinks he's already friend zoned. You seem like you haven't flirted with him, are shy, and refused his offer to "nap" with him.

[Zona76]

Next time you're out for a stroll, take his hand. Not in a casual, but a bold gesture. If he tries to pull away tell him, "No, let me hold your hand for a while." And smile.

He may not like intimacy. He may be more shy than you.

Suggest a double date. His friend could partner with someone and you all could go someplace fun.

[Hazy]

1. He's gay.

2. He's just not into you.

3. Not a good combination. Move on.