Morgan41090 Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 I have been in a LDR with this guy for bout 6 months. We met on the internet and we really like each other. We both live in Australia but on opposite sides on the country. But lately things have been werid between us like were not talking as much as we use to and when i try to talk to him and stuff he doesnt really make an effort... I dnt no wat to do. I try and try i'm out of ideas lol. What should i do?? Link to post Share on other sites
Tsuki no Michi Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 How often have you actually been with this person? If it's only been a few times then it's entirely possible he's found someone else who is more available (and local). I'm not trying to be cruel, but in my own experience (3 years LDR before finally being able to move to be closer to her) I found that regular face-to-face contact is essential to maintaining the closeness of the relationship, especially at the onset. Once you are settled with each other by virtue of spending time together, you begin to be able to endure long absences without losing too much of the connection between you, though frankly they are never truly easy. However, if it has been a while then he may feel that connection waning and perhaps a trip to visit him may help rekindle it if it's not too late. Too true is the old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder, but too long an ansence will make it wander." TNM Link to post Share on other sites
BohemeRose Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 A more optimistic approach: Guys, typically, are not as big into talking as we female-types are. At the very beginning, it's easy for them to be engaged in long conversations because there is still a lot of new things to learn about each other and discuss, but as time goes on new topics run out with the daily grind, and conversation suffers. You can try not taking his lack of enthusiasm personally, chalking it up to a lack of topic rather than not wanting to talk with you. Let's face it, if you were in a close enough vicinity that the relationship didn't rely solely on conversation, there'd be plenty of other things you'd be doing that would let you know he still cared. Maybe ask him if he needs a little less talk-time. If he feels less pressured about conversation, he might be more into it than usual. Link to post Share on other sites
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