Just broke up but all I want is to phone him!

[snow_x]

What should I do?

 

I just broke up with my boyfriend. We have been going out for almost 2 years now.

 

I now we are too different and had too many fights for it to work out.

 

All I want to do is phone him. Should I just to talk how depressed I'm feeling, or should I avoid it?

 

Help!!!!!!

[Tony T]

A break up is a break up. If the two of you had too many fights and you know it wouldn't have worked out, what purpose would it serve for you to call him??? If you have contact with him, your healing process will be protracted.

 

Cease all communication...that's no phone calls, no email, no messages from friends, etc.

 

Life is very short. It's over in a blink. You don't have time for a lot of crap that has no purpose and will only serve to make your hurt last longer.

 

Forget him and move on with your life. I know it's painful now but it's necessary to end a relationship that wasn't meant to be. The sooner you get over it, the sooner you will find someone with whom you can get along and have a positive, fulfilling relationship.

 

Good luck!

[Dragonflys]

Snow,

 

Your behaviour is very normal. When we break up with someone, it is with a person we have spent the most recent time with. With that comes a familiarity and you get the feeling they are most familiar with where your mind is at right now.

You must have had some postive lines of communication with him to want to call him, but if you see no chance of it working out it is better you go cold turkey now. This passes, and gradually you will lose the craving to talk with him and prefer to talk more with others again. This is best for you to move on and find realistic happiness.

 

Best Wishes,

 

OLiver

[ThisGirlNameKD]

What do you expect to come out of calling him? If know the both of you aren't good for one another, why do you want to call him?

[dave_1966]

ThisGirlNameKD, I don't think you've grasped the point. Snow, check out my story (Never ending break-up...PLEASE ADVISE.) There you will see the reality of the situation if you continue to call your ex.

[ThisGirlNameKD]

I peeped your situation. You broke up with your boyfriend, you know you both had to many problems and too many fights for it to work out, yet you want to phone him. My question to you was why do you want to call him, and what good do you think will come out of calling him? What do you expect telling him that you're depress will do?

[sheeba]

isn't it funny when you break up with someone-you want to talk to a "friend" about the way you are feeling and the one you aren't with always pops into mind? lol

 

i am the one who left my first husband-but when i felt sad about it-i always wanted to call a friend-and i thought of him.

 

the best thing to do-if you are SERIOUS about this break up is just to reach out to the support system you HAVE in the way of friends and family-and in your dark moments you'll have to suck up the depression alone. phoning him only prolongs the pain for both of you.

 

this is all still pretty new for you but hang in there. its the saddest times of our lives that the best lessons are learned.

 

(hugs)

[Snow x]

I saw him agin.

 

Now I feel even worse.

 

Why do I have those ambivalent feelings?

 

When I'm not with him, I want to talk to him and when I am with him, I know I should not be, he is not what I am looking for in a man.

 

I'm going in circles.

 

I keep breaking up and un-breaking up.

 

I have never been this depressed in my whole life. I feel paralysed, I feel I can't get out of it.

 

I cry often.

 

C'est la dèche.

[yes]

i think i know how you feel. i think the best course is to cease all contact with him, and just take it easy.

 

make a deal with yourself:

if you still feel like you really want to see/hear him 6 weeks from now, you will call him.

 

then relax... and after 6 weeks, i bet you won't feel like calling him at all!!

 

best of luck,

-yes