hope1975 Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 Is it possible for someone who originally only wanted friendship (for 2 years), to suddenly become attracted to you & want more? Can attraction occur after so long? I have a friend who I've known for 2 years and in that time, he hasn't made any moves on me at all, then all of a sudden he started showing alot of interest, calling me constantly, getting protective of me where other guys were concerned, asking to see me...but still hasn't made any "moves" He's cooled off a bit now & things are returning to normal, but this hot/cold behaviour is confusing. Any insights as to what the reason may be? Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 I think it's quite possible. At one point, you did tell him how you felt so he might have thought about it a lot from there. But yes, if you've known someone long enough or close enough, I would think feelings of physical attraction could only stay the same, or escalate. And I think he's unsure and a bit confused because other things in his life are distracting him. But to get jealous of other guys and wanting to see you a lot doesn't make me think he's not attracted to you, that's for sure. Perhaps it's "intimacy" issues.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 Is it possible for someone who originally only wanted friendship (for 2 years), to suddenly become attracted to you & want more? Can attraction occur after so long? Absolutely. There is more to attraction, after all, than just physical appearance. Maybe after knowing you for awhile, a friendship-attraction has blossomed into stronger feelings towards you from this guy. I don't think this is uncommon at all, and, if you want my opinion, may be one of the better ways to start a (potentially) long(er) lasting R - as great friends, first and foremost. Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 being friends with someone for 2 years and then suddenly an attraction develops that wasn't there before? Gee, is that possible? Hmmmmm (anyone that knows me will see the joke in this statement). Yes. Take it from me. It MOST definitely can. I am speaking from experience. In my case though, the friendship was destroyed. So tread carefully. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hope1975 Posted August 9, 2007 Author Share Posted August 9, 2007 that's really interesting I always thought that if there was no attraction to begin with, especially physical, that it was very unlikely to develop later. what happened in your case directX? if you don't mind me asking? and Lovelace, lol...yeah it could be intimacy issues!!...U & Tom had that sexual attraction from the beginning though. I don't think there was any of that chemistry there at first with me & Tim...but something definately changed in May/June...but now it's going back to normal...I'm so confused. Thanks Mustang Sally..I think you might be right, he did develop some kind of attraction/feelings for me, but that was a couple of months ago...now it seems to have gone again..maybe it was a fleeting attraction or something. There's so many mixed signals, it's hard to make it out. I figure if he is really that interested he would have made some kind of a move. At one point we were meant to go out for dinner, but he suggested staying in my hotel room & ordering room service...he had the perfect opportunity to make a move, but didn't. He could be worried about ruining the friendship I guess. I can't work it out...he gets funny whenever I talk about any other guy, and even admitted to me that he's not comfortable with it and that he feels protective of me...ie: doesn't want me to get hurt. I've tried talking to him about it, but everything he says could be taken 2 ways....I CANNOT work this guy out Link to post Share on other sites
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