sunshine79 Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 about 2 months ago my fiance and i had a huge fight (over financials and work stress) and he left the house to get away and went to his mom's house and spent the night. when he left i was so upset and called her nad told her he was coming and to let me know when he got there so at least i didn't worry. so she's calming me down and telling me it's going to be okay...calls the next day to tell me 'yall need to sit down and figure things out and maybe go to church and yada yada" so my fiance gets home the next night after work and i ask waht all he told her, he was in a bad mood, it was a fight, i'm sure he wans't all sweet about me. turns out he told her that i drink too much!!!! didn't once say how he flipped hsi attitude and started the fight...and then he goes on to tell me that he told his mom 'i never drink, i don't even like how i feel' BUT my fiance does!! WTF!!!! so now i think she actually believes him. she never called me again, his sister wrote me to see how i was the next morning and i'ts like once she talked to his mom she didn't writem e back. like they think i'm a drunk or something!!! WTFFFFF sure i drink, usually on the weekends and always social environment right BESIDE my fiance drinking!!!! so what do i do? i know he wanted himself to look good nad me bad because we were in a fight but teh problems were finances and work stress and his weight gain and he came home that night and admitted that his weight gain was the main reason for being such an *******. so why didn't he tell his mom that instead of placing blame on me??? i'm so confused as to how i should handle this. i've swept it under the rug for now because i didnt' even want to see his mom but i know i will be seeing her soon so what do i do??? go in there believing that she wouldn't believe her son that 'she drinks too much' or go in there thinking she believes it and hates me now...this is so ridiculous but so true...ugh Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshine79 Posted August 10, 2007 Author Share Posted August 10, 2007 anyone have any ideas on this?? i see the mom tomorrow and am so nervous. i wrote the sister an email explaining my side and after that i got no reply. do you think she didn't believe me? usually she takes my side in everything...i'm wondering about this time. do they really believe my fiance?? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 10, 2007 Share Posted August 10, 2007 I would take her aside and talk to her about it. Apologize that she had to get involved and that your fiance told you that he told her you drink too much. Assure her this is not true if it isn't, is it? If she attends church tell her you and your fiance would like to join her one Sunday, yada, yada, yada. Basically, kiss up to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshine79 Posted August 10, 2007 Author Share Posted August 10, 2007 i'll give ti a shot...i may play my cards as i always have and let her see it's not true. prove it to her without having to explain myself...should i really have to explain myself?? he did this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshine79 Posted August 10, 2007 Author Share Posted August 10, 2007 and he'll never say anythign because he doesn't want to look bad but he knows it did bother me. i should just quit worrying. it's not getting me anywhere. scares me though. we got in a fight over watering our yard and it burst into this, all because of his weight and job...next time we get into a fight is he going to go running to his mommy???? for 3 years he's never done that. maybe that time he knew he needed her most of all. i dont' know. Link to post Share on other sites
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