40 yearold does an 18 yearold is it ott

[bish]

Holy "Bash-a-girl-for-living-outside-your-ideals" Batman. When did everyone become the moral compass for all to follow? He's 18 Grim.

 

Her being with an 18 year old, as I see it, isn't the problem here.

 

If you have followed Grims posts, she just gets off on letting people know she is boning young guys. Nothing wrong with it..that is her decision.

 

But it seems like she is doing nothing but trying to convince people in this forum that she can bed down an 18 year old.

 

If she wants to bone an 18yo, then be my guest...but don't come here telling the story of it like she is looking for an answer to whether it is right or wrong, when its obvious she just wants to brag about it.

[bish]

Grim said "sex that hasn't happened" and that she has her lines too. Even she knows and agrees that its wrong, so there

 

and you believe that? Come on..she says an 18 yo is making all the moves and she is letting him...and at 39, you don't think she is peeling the clothes off?....uh huh.

 

But I digress...she's bragging...she isn't really interested in whether its right or wrong.

[whichwayisup]

Problem is, it won't be just fun and sex for long...18 year olds (doesn't matter, male or female) cannot control their emotions and this 18 year old teen WILL develop feelings for Grim. Sure, the guy will have a great sexual experience, but it could also mess him up too.

[bish]

Problem is, it won't be just fun and sex for long...18 year olds (doesn't matter, male or female) cannot control their emotions and this 18 year old teen WILL develop feelings for Grim. Sure, the guy will have a great sexual experience, but it could also mess him up too.

 

and then if she falls for him...then in 10 years she'll start not to look as good to him anymore...and he'll be 28....then she'll be close to 60 and he will be 38? He'll be looking to one up her soon.

 

But it really doesn't matter assuming she really stopped seeing him.

[Krytellan]

If you have followed Grims posts, she just gets off on letting people know she is boning young guys. Nothing wrong with it..that is her decision.

 

But it seems like she is doing nothing but trying to convince people in this forum that she can bed down an 18 year old.

 

I know. I have many times resisted the urge to inquire as to why she feels the need to be so pretentious. I think there's an attention difficulty. But hey, if 18 year olds satisfy that attention need... bone away girl!

[nittygritty]

and you believe that? Come on..she says an 18 yo is making all the moves and she is letting him...and at 39, you don't think she is peeling the clothes off?....uh huh.

 

But I digress...she's bragging...she isn't really interested in whether its right or wrong.

 

 

I think she backpeddled from her original post and I think Grim's posts are "ott".

 

I think your response about her needing approval and having a midlife crisis of some sort were correct.

[Topper]

Why are so many here treating an 18 year old like he is some 13 year old? he is an adult old enough to be in the military and face all the adult decisions and conciouses that that may entail. i think one of the problems we have today is that we shelter our children for way to long. they never get an understanding of actions and consequence.

 

Now would all the posters here be against two healthy 18 years old sleeping together? Most of the threads would only say be sure to practise safe sex use a rubber or something along those lines.

 

This is not about a relationship. This is about two adults and pure good old sinnful lust. His motive is he gets to have sex and since she is older learn some tricks. Her motive is she gets to have sex and feel like she is still desirable. If this was to happen my guess is that the lust would burn it's self out in about 6 months.

[nittygritty]

Why are so many here treating an 18 year old like he is some 13 year old? he is an adult old enough to be in the military and face all the adult decisions and conciouses that that may entail. i think one of the problems we have today is that we shelter our children for way to long. they never get an understanding of actions and consequence.

 

Now would all the posters here be against two healthy 18 years old sleeping together? Most of the threads would only say be sure to practise safe sex use a rubber or something along those lines.

 

This is not about a relationship. This is about two adults and pure good old sinnful lust. His motive is he gets to have sex and since she is older learn some tricks. Her motive is she gets to have sex and feel like she is still desirable. If this was to happen my guess is that the lust would burn it's self out in about 6 months.

 

I highly respect those in the military but if a free education wasn't part of the deal, how many 18 year olds do you think would join? They still can't drink or gamble, why is that?

 

There is a big difference between two 18 year olds having sex and an 18 year old and a 40 year old having sex.

[amerikajin]

I highly respect those in the military but if a free education wasn't part of the deal, how many 18 year olds do you think would join? They still can't drink or gamble, why is that?

 

There is a big difference between two 18 year olds having sex and an 18 year old and a 40 year old having sex.

 

Hey, it's not for you, and it's probably not something I would do, either. I just don't see it as something that's creepy or disgusting; it's natural sexual desire. To me, whether the difference in years is two or twenty, if two consenting adults want to hook up, and can face the consequences, I don't really feel the need to be poking my nose in their business. I think people in this society are far too pious when it comes to matters of private life. And to that I say, get a life.

[uniqueone]

Would it be different if she was in her 40's and he was 25? just curious.

[Trialbyfire]

Hey, it's not for you, and it's probably not something I would do, either. I just don't see it as something that's creepy or disgusting; it's natural sexual desire. To me, whether the difference in years is two or twenty, if two consenting adults want to hook up, and can face the consequences, I don't really feel the need to be poking my nose in their business. I think people in this society are far too pious when it comes to matters of private life. And to that I say, get a life.

It has to do with maturity level. There's an incredible amount of personal growth and growth in maturity level going on with someone in their teens. It wouldn't take much to permanently scar someone's psychy with player mind games, when you're that age. While this could happen with another 18 year old player, a 40 year old would have far more tricks in their bag.

 

Even in their early twenties, up to age 25, people change and grow, although at this point, some are mature enough to handle an older person.

[amerikajin]

Would it be different if she was in her 40's and he was 25? just curious.

 

In terms of sustaining a relationship, yeah, big difference. In terms of just raw lust, probably some difference, but not much.

[amerikajin]

It has to do with maturity level. There's an incredible amount of personal growth and growth in maturity level going on with someone in their teens. It wouldn't take much to permanently scar someone's psychy with player mind games, when you're that age. While this could happen with another 18 year old player, a 40 year old would have far more tricks in their bag.

 

Even in their early twenties, up to age 25, people change and grow, although at this point, some are mature enough to handle an older person.

 

I'm sure the right kind of 18-year-old woman could scar an 18-year-old boy just as easily as a 40-year-old woman could. It all depends on the individual. I'm sure a messed up, embittered 40-year-old hag could really inflict a lot of pain on an 18 year old. Then again, I'm sure some 40-year-olds could just be straight up about what it means and have a little fun. You just don't know until you get two people together. I think the important thing, regardless of age, is honesty.

[Yamaha]

Why are so many here treating an 18 year old like he is some 13 year old? he is an adult old enough to be in the military and face all the adult decisions and consciouses that that may entail

.

 

Would you have this same attitude if the guy was 40 and he wanted to have sex with an 18 y old girl , Topper? I think because he is a guy you think it is OK but if the 40 y old guy wanted the same thing people would be pissed off. We think that it wouldn't affect an 18 y old boy but it would be different if it was a girl. Teenagers are the same whether they are boys or girls.

[Herzen]

Why are so many here treating an 18 year old like he is some 13 year old? he is an adult old enough to be in the military and face all the adult decisions and conciouses that that may entail. i think one of the problems we have today is that we shelter our children for way to long. they never get an understanding of actions and consequence.

 

Now would all the posters here be against two healthy 18 years old sleeping together? Most of the threads would only say be sure to practise safe sex use a rubber or something along those lines.

 

This is not about a relationship. This is about two adults and pure good old sinnful lust. His motive is he gets to have sex and since she is older learn some tricks. Her motive is she gets to have sex and feel like she is still desirable. If this was to happen my guess is that the lust would burn it's self out in about 6 months.

 

I hate it when I'm ready to pounce and I see that another poster not only got there first but said it better than I ever could.

 

Topper, your post is right on the money. Last time I looked, 18 year olds are young adults who can handle themselves sexually. We must stop infantilizing our young adults, and treating them, when it comes to sex, like 10 year olds. That type of smothering moralism says more about us than it does about them.

 

If my 18 year son found his very own Mrs. Robinson, more power to him, and her.

[Trialbyfire]

I'm sure the right kind of 18-year-old woman could scar an 18-year-old boy just as easily as a 40-year-old woman could. It all depends on the individual. I'm sure a messed up, embittered 40-year-old hag could really inflict a lot of pain on an 18 year old. Then again, I'm sure some 40-year-olds could just be straight up about what it means and have a little fun. You just don't know until you get two people together. I think the important thing, regardless of age, is honesty.

Big, big difference in arsenal, especially if there are player games going on. Take an average 40 year-old player. Would you say the average 18 year-old player could compete with the average 40 year-old player? Especially from the experience and ability to emotionally protect themselves? Come on, you know there's a major difference.

[Herzen]

I guess, for some, if "60" is the new "40," then "18" is the new "8".

 

Patently false on both counts.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

I guess, for some, if "60" is the new "40," then "18" is the new "8".

 

Patently false on both counts.

 

Agreed. Mental growth is no longer correspondent to age.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

I think once they're above the legal age, what people do with their sex lives is their private matter.

 

Relationship-wise, it's definitely not a good idea for the 18-yr old and the 40 yr-old to hook up. Neither is it done for one to play with the emotions of the other.

 

But that aside, let's face the truth: kids these days are becoming sexually aware and informed at a much earlier age. Given the environment that teenagers are exposed to these days, I don't think it's possible to make them wear chastity belts or "crotch locks" for a long time.

 

Consequently, I hardly think an 18 year old guy would experience "psychological scarring" by the incident in question here.

 

It's a different story (and a good thing) that the OP decided to regress on her original intention, though.

[amerikajin]

Big, big difference in arsenal, especially if there are player games going on. Take an average 40 year-old player. Would you say the average 18 year-old player could compete with the average 40 year-old player? Especially from the experience and ability to emotionally protect themselves? Come on, you know there's a major difference.

 

I don't really buy into this "it's to protect him" mentality - protect him from what? He's an adult. He's a young adult, but still an adult. He's old enough to make his own decisions. It doesn't mean they're going to be the right decisions. Indeed, people make a lot of bad decisions before they reach the age of 30 - that's life. I mean, I know a lot of 18-year-olds who aren't mature enough to handle the responsibility of driving a car or living on their own, and yet we still let them. People make better decisions because of this thing called experience. I think an 18 year old definitely might be missing some experience and, consequently, at a greater risk, but you have to start somewhere.

 

And I reiterate: I would have given my right arm to have wild sex with a 40-something when I was 18. I'm sure it could have gotten out of hand, but I was just as heartbroken by 18 year-olds as I would have been by anyone else.

[nittygritty]

Hey, it's not for you, and it's probably not something I would do, either. I just don't see it as something that's creepy or disgusting; it's natural sexual desire. To me, whether the difference in years is two or twenty, if two consenting adults want to hook up, and can face the consequences, I don't really feel the need to be poking my nose in their business. I think people in this society are far too pious when it comes to matters of private life. And to that I say, get a life.

 

Grim asked for opinions on a message board. IMO a 40 year old having sex with an 18 year old is wrong. I wouldn't start a petition to make it illegal or anything but I also wouldn't have voted to legalize it either.

 

My opinion would be the same if the question was about a 39 year old having sex with a 17 year old or a 41 year old having sex with a 19 year old. IMO Teenagers are not adults.

[burning 4 revenge]

I don't really buy into this "it's to protect him" mentality - protect him from what? He's an adult. He's a young adult, but still an adult. He's old enough to make his own decisions. It doesn't mean they're going to be the right decisions. Indeed, people make a lot of bad decisions before they reach the age of 30 - that's life. I mean, I know a lot of 18-year-olds who aren't mature enough to handle the responsibility of driving a car or living on their own, and yet we still let them. People make better decisions because of this thing called experience. I think an 18 year old definitely might be missing some experience and, consequently, at a greater risk, but you have to start somewhere.

 

And I reiterate: I would have given my right arm to have wild sex with a 40-something when I was 18. I'm sure it could have gotten out of hand, but I was just as heartbroken by 18 year-olds as I would have been by anyone else.

Dont encourage them to start with the youngsters. If they go down that road they'll taste the pleasures of forbidden fruits and they won't have any interest in old guys like us

[Trialbyfire]

I don't really buy into this "it's to protect him" mentality - protect him from what? He's an adult. He's a young adult, but still an adult. He's old enough to make his own decisions. It doesn't mean they're going to be the right decisions. Indeed, people make a lot of bad decisions before they reach the age of 30 - that's life. I mean, I know a lot of 18-year-olds who aren't mature enough to handle the responsibility of driving a car or living on their own, and yet we still let them. People make better decisions because of this thing called experience. I think an 18 year old definitely might be missing some experience and, consequently, at a greater risk, but you have to start somewhere.

 

And I reiterate: I would have given my right arm to have wild sex with a 40-something when I was 18. I'm sure it could have gotten out of hand, but I was just as heartbroken by 18 year-olds as I would have been by anyone else.

As I said earlier in this thread, "age of life" versus "stage of life", although I sincerely question the maturity level of a 40 year-old woman/man who wants to play head games with and bed down an 18 year-old boy/girl.

 

School boy fantasies and the reality of adult head games are two different things.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Grim asked for opinions on a message board. IMO a 40 year old having sex with an 18 year old is wrong. I wouldn't start a petition to make it illegal or anything but I also wouldn't have voted to legalize it either.

 

My opinion would be the same if the question was about a 39 year old having sex with a 17 year old or a 41 year old having sex with a 19 year old. IMO Teenagers are not adults.

 

Splitting hairs here, really. There has to be SOME age that's acceptable to the majority as the right age for consensual sex. And that age, as defined by the law, is 18.

 

Of course there are differences in individual readiness for sex. Some are ready for it at 18, others not so at 24.

 

Your main problem seems to be the age difference between the two. I'm not sure if you'd be as offended with the idea of two 19 year olds having sex.

 

While I personally don't love the idea of an 18 year old with a 40 year old, I don't see it as egregiously wrong. Like I said before, it's a matter of personal discretion.

[Yamaha]

Why would a 40 y old want to have sex with a 18 y old?