Author Grim Posted August 13, 2007 Author Share Posted August 13, 2007 You're married?? Or did you get divorced recently? getting divorced (my choice) Link to post Share on other sites
halfarock Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 I read through this entire thread and it occurs to me that Grim is being criticized for being rather normal, considering her situation. All women, at around 40, and especially those who inadvertently find themselves single, become more sexually aggressive, more willing to take risky chances. Much is made of men’s mid-life crises but women have them too, they just tend to be a little more subdued. To me, Grim, what you’re going through is just a phase that you will outgrow. Just be mindful that these relationships with younger men will probably lead nowhere. Hopefully everything will eventually turn out okay for you. Link to post Share on other sites
uniqueone Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 I read through this entire thread and it occurs to me that Grim is being criticized for being rather normal, considering her situation. All women, at around 40, and especially those who inadvertently find themselves single, become more sexually aggressive, more willing to take risky chances. Much is made of men’s mid-life crises but women have them too, they just tend to be a little more subdued. No, I can actually say that not all of us single, older women want to go out and date a teenager to regain our youth. And we're not ready to pounce on any man we like either. And just for the record, we're also not out buying a motorcycle or a convertable or doing the comb-over with our hair. Link to post Share on other sites
halfarock Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 Maybe so, just as not every man runs out to buy a motorcycle, a convertible, and a comb over. Yet it is quite common for women like to Grim to be more sexually aggressive, even with older men, just as likely though, with only one man. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 getting divorced (my choice) good choice...cuz you are not fit to be married. Link to post Share on other sites
halfarock Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 good choice...cuz you are not fit to be married. Do you ever say anything nice, or has bitterness totally taken over your thought process? Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 Do you ever say anything nice, or has bitterness totally taken over your thought process? Just because you see nothing wrong with infidelity or cheating in a marriage doesn't mean most condone this behavior. You may think it's perfectly normal and healthy but Bish doesn't share your views. He might be somewhat bitter but I/we don't know his situation or his level of pain. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 Do you ever say anything nice, or has bitterness totally taken over your thought process? And what has Grim said that warrants any pleasantries from anyone? She is on an ego trip and likes to play with peoples emotions and feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grim Posted August 15, 2007 Author Share Posted August 15, 2007 And what has Grim said that warrants any pleasantries from anyone? She is on an ego trip and likes to play with peoples emotions and feelings. ok i wasnt unfaithfull. he was violent - i walked away while i still could. married is two people in love not a battle to the death maybe it is a mid life crisis - what the hey. i didnt play with the boy i just considered it then i wised up as for the ego trip - yea - so sue me. it wasnt worth it anyway. i was up front and honest. said i was just getting back on the horse so to speak. warned them i was a bitch. but maybe they thought that made me easy prey - dunno. 26 i like - i still like - and he knows the truth but he has issues too - maybe we give eath other comfort - i dont know. if i couldn taken critic i wouldn have come on here. so through it at me - believe it or not it all helps - i am smart enough to figure it out. bish i dont care what you say so long as you mean it Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 bish i dont care what you say so long as you mean it What makes you think I don't "mean it"? Link to post Share on other sites
uniqueone Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 What makes you think I don't "mean it"? I think she means that she doesn't care what you say as long as it's well-meaning constructive criticism and it's not just saying something to provoke an argument or to be insulting. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 I think she means that she doesn't care what you say as long as it's well-meaning constructive criticism and it's not just saying something to provoke an argument or to be insulting. Well seeing as her posts are nothing but bragging and fishing for a stroke to her ego....what is there anything to say that is constructive? Her posts are a joke. She isn't looking for advice...she is looking for validation and a pat on the back as a result from her bragging. Link to post Share on other sites
uniqueone Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 Well seeing as her posts are nothing but bragging and fishing for a stroke to her ego....what is there anything to say that is constructive? Her posts are a joke. She isn't looking for advice...she is looking for validation and a pat on the back as a result from her bragging. Oh...sorry....I'm not familiar with her posts. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 Grim, did you read my reply to you on your other thread? If not, please go read it.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grim Posted August 15, 2007 Author Share Posted August 15, 2007 in my circle, everyone expects me to be funny or the fixer give everyone a hand or advice, the life and soul so to speak, its hard to suddenly need help. its even harder to admit it. i am what they call reliable Link to post Share on other sites
Virginia Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 ****ing disgusting and if an adult women ****ed with my teen boy I would kill her. I would worry about any 40 year old who would want to sleep with a KID, yes, at 18 they are still a KID compared to you. It speaks volumes about you and your maturity levels. Link to post Share on other sites
annabelle75 Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 I have no desire to jump into this debate other than to state that I have discovered a recent fondness for younger men. I find their inexperience to mean that they have a hell of alot less baggage than the rest of us. And they also are able to keep up with me sexually. I find it a cruel joke that as I am in the midst of my sexual prime, the men my age are loosing interest in sex. At this point in my life, I want a man that can't get enough of me and is always up for some fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grim Posted August 16, 2007 Author Share Posted August 16, 2007 ****ing disgusting and if an adult women ****ed with my teen boy I would kill her. I would worry about any 40 year old who would want to sleep with a KID, yes, at 18 they are still a KID compared to you. It speaks volumes about you and your maturity levels. please read it all. i didnt touch him. i wouldnt touch him. i was flattered but not stupid. he showed an interest and i stopped it. i asked for opinions but at least read what i write. Link to post Share on other sites
Herzen Posted August 16, 2007 Share Posted August 16, 2007 Again, I endorse the practice. 18 year old men won't wilt if they have sex with a 40-something female. Nor is there anything necessarily wrong, unbalanced, immoral or unhinged about a free emancipated older woman having sex with a young man. People should relax when it comes to sex, and get off thier f#ck'n pulpits. Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted August 16, 2007 Share Posted August 16, 2007 Hmmm...I thought the topic of personal choice was discussed and done with, and the thread had begun to veer towards undersanding Grim's dissatisfaction and confusion with it all. Apparently, it's more fun to discuss the unspeakable possibility of an 18 year old having sex with a 40 year old, and the sheer blasphemy of it all. Oh well, I've already stated my views, can't think of anything new now. Link to post Share on other sites
suga Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 thats not sexy at all, sounds like you are trying to use him to feal young, but you are not young, you are 40, then on the other hand he probably just wants to practice on an experienced woman, so you are hitting yourself with a double whammy for disappointment, you are going to get attached to him, why, because you are a woman, women get emotionally attached when they have sex with a guy, you are ****ing yourself up, and he is going to dump you and say "Im 18yrs old I have excuse for my stupid actions, plus a guys gotta do what a guys gotta do", whats your excuse? Unless you like being a 40 yr old slut:love:...why would you do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 please read it all. i didnt touch him. i wouldnt touch him. i was flattered but not stupid. he showed an interest and i stopped it. i asked for opinions but at least read what i write. Grim, once again I'll state that your decision was wise to not get involved. My question surrounds why a 40 year-old, gender aside, would be flattered by the attentions of an 18 year-old. This would be the perspective that most concerns me. I'm 32 years-old and have been harrassed by highschool boys. I found the attention non-flattering, embarrassing and a tad revolting. While they maybe as tall as grown men, emotionally and intellectually, they're little boys. Even their faces and bodies aren't completely formed, with that gangling awkwardness that is unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 I think it's fine. Where were you when I was 18? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 well heres my break down. When I was 18 I would have loved to mess around with 40 year old women if she was attractive. From your prospective if its just about messing around it should work, if you want something of a relationship then the odds are against you. Just dont get pregnant or spread your years of STD's if uve got em Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 To me, Grim's issue is more than just basking in the attention of an 18 year old. Her posse of men runs the gamut from 18 to 39. That's what I call versatility I think it's more about her having her head turned by any male attention that is bestowed on her. The general characteristics of the attention-bestowing male don't matter to her, as long as the male is capable of desiring her. Link to post Share on other sites
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