A girl who i like to a enemy.... what have i done to deserve this (a long story))

[van175]

Well it all started in the first year of uni on the first week. I had a game of basketball with my mates in one court. After that when I walking pass another court I see this girl who's name was Kara and she was with her close friend. They come up to me and said if I wanted to play with them. I said I was tired and I had things to do. Kara and her friend was persistent abt it and tried to pull my hand into court. So I played with them. I had fun and got to know then. I didn’t know at the time that they were in the same class as them.

 

I was shy in that year and I didn’t do much. Till this year

Kara became opened and started to talk to me in uni class and after class which made me want to talk to her more about everything. We have became very opened abt it. We got to exchange numbers bu ti never called her because I was shy on the phone and I didn’t know what to say to her.

 

But then there was her friend (the same one from the bball court )who i know that she was smart but then she told me when i was abt to go somewhere to stay behind. I said to her that "i had to do something" but her close friend presisted to stay behind and help her. So i did and helped her the best way i could.

 

After that, kara, and her guy friend. So there was 4 of us together. Myself, the girl i like, the close friend and her guy friend.

 

We went somewhere to eat and a food court was the pick.

We all had diferent kinds of food. We shared food together but then i was in a awkard situation because the "close friend" was really close with the guy friend. Then there was me and the girl i like, i didnt want to get really close to her because i dont know if i was set-up to see if i can make a move to the girl i like. So what i did is i called my best mate and told them i had to go.

 

Since then many days and nights have past and we have exchange glances many times with a smile. I wasn’t really sure if she liked me at the time because Kara had so many guy friends and many of them were flirting with Kara and she flirted with them. She only flirted with me once and that’s abt it.

 

She had also interfered in my conversation with another girl in which she talked abt my other friend who was sitting alone she asked me why but I told her that my friend was late for class. I think she was jealous for sure.

 

Then in the last month she played games with me like when I was with Kara, her close friend, and two other guy friends. Kara started to walk faster then usual and I had to catch up. I ask her “why did you walk fast” she replied “because I felt like it.” This made me think that she wants me to talk to her more or that she was playing games…

 

In the last two weeks Kara had change, she became shy every time I was around and every time I talk to her abt something she mumbles. But she does feel comfortable talking to other friends. So then the next day I got Kara alone and I asked her “ do you like me” Kara laugh abt it and then said replied “ what made you think that I like you, I thought u like me “ I said “ I though you like me?” so we were confused abt it and made a joke abt it. Deep down I felt rejected though. Later that night she told me on msn that we should be friends and it’s a misunderstanding.

 

But then there was a twist to this ….

 

There was another girl who name was Babrina. She was hot but she had a bf. Babrina asked me who I like and I said it was Kara. She told me that Kara was a stalker so I told Kara that night that Babrina said that.

 

 

Then Babrina the next day she full on flirted with me and trying to make Kara jealous and because I was Babrina’s friend as well, I didn’t flirt back but I just acted like I was her friend. But I reckon Kara was jealous and was disappointed in me. I wanted to talk to her and I had 1 chance. Kara said “ why do you always hang around with her” I told her because Babrina was my friend even though she said that. Kara then didn’t say anything after that.

 

Now on this day Kara is not angry but sad when she looks at me on the other hand her friend was angry like she was abt to explode. I.e My friend accused me of something even though its not my fault and then Kara’s friend outta nowhere got angry and said “what did you do “. I said I didn’t do anything. Kara’s friend didn’t reply. which isnt good.

 

So now im in a tight situation where im in second uni. Have all my classes with Kara and her friend and now im basically stuffed. I don’t know what to do next so I need you to help me on what to do next.

 

Should I say nothing and pretend it didn’t happen

Or should I talk to her and confront this matter.

[Yamaha]

I wouldn't worry about it. Your just upset because you like her and she just wants to be friends.

 

Look for another girl to like.

[van175]

I do like her but i do want to get over her . But it just feels wierd because Kara and her friend was avoiding me all the time and their pretty angry with me . I just want to patch things up and try to move on.

[Yamaha]

Give it some time. If they continue to ignore you and act mad then they were never really your friends. There is nothing you can do until they want things to change. I wouldn't recommend being friends until your over your feelings but you can be civil to them.

[van175]

Hey thanks for the advice.

 

So its not good to really to talk to Kara alone when i have the chance and talk to her about the situation at this moment?

[JCD]

Talk to her about it and if she rejects you go NC and heal. There are million girls like Kara and you need a girl that will be your rock and not a boat.