InNeedOfHelp Posted March 18, 2003 Share Posted March 18, 2003 I am a 17 year old male living in Northern California and I really like this girl from school. In fact, I am a senior and I have liked her since freshman year but have never done anything about it because she has always been with her boyfriend. Now I have noticed that he is no longer around and I am still very interested in her. I don't know if they are still seeing each other or not, maybe he just changed schools or something? I don't know. But I do know that I HAVE to try and talk to this girl. However, I am very confused on how I should approach her. So far I have barely talked to her (mostly just about school related things and it is very rare that we talk). She is in three of my classes BUT doesn't sit near me. Anyway, I need advice on a way to apprach her and what to say (I am not good at talking to girls anyway, and the peculiar possibility of her having a boyfriend adds furthar complication to my dillema). I am shy, but I can get over it, however it is still difficult for me to think of what to do. Any help would be welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted March 19, 2003 Share Posted March 19, 2003 You better get over your shyness real fast if you want to get anywhere with the ladies. You ought to start off with asking her if she's still got a boyfriend. The answer to that question will dictate your further dealings with her. In the future, when you find out a lady is seeing somebody move on and forget about her. There's nothing to be gained in obsessing about somebody who is taken while there are many who aren't out there to be met. Link to post Share on other sites
Author InNeedOfHelp Posted March 19, 2003 Author Share Posted March 19, 2003 Errr yeah I am aware I need to get over my shyness (I said I do get over it in my original post). But I don't think I can just ask her if she has a boyfriend because I am simply unaware of how to do such a thing to someone I have hardly spoken to. I would appreciate advice on how to start a conversation with her that will allow me to EVENTUALLY express how I feel about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon22 Posted March 19, 2003 Share Posted March 19, 2003 RUN TO THE VIDEO STORE NOW!!!! ....and rent the movie "Can't Hardly Wait" with Seth Green, and a bunch of those other 'teen movie' actors. As much as I hate to look to movies for advice, this movie will motivate you as to what you need to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Diva Posted March 20, 2003 Share Posted March 20, 2003 You could have some fun with it and play a little game before you introduce yourself. If you know where her locker is, you can leave her a little note. Do or say something sweet or funny with it without being stalker-ish or seeming desperate. Leaving one flower (not a rose, too serious, but maybe a daisy or wildflower you picked so it seems more casual), or a goofy little gift like a plastic toy. Keep it light and friendly, no sappy love poems about how her eyes are the color of sunbeams or anything. I always wanted a secret admirer, and I think most girls do. It's very flattering and intriguing. Just don't go overboard and don't let it go on very long before you introduce yourself and find out if she's still with her boyfriend. You could evenutally leave your email and ask her to write you if you're more comfortable that way. But beware that that's putting the responsibility on her to contact you, and she might not write. Link to post Share on other sites
Author InNeedOfHelp Posted March 21, 2003 Author Share Posted March 21, 2003 Thanks for the advice everyone, ill get cracking tomorrow :-) Link to post Share on other sites
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