silvermonkey Posted August 12, 2007 Share Posted August 12, 2007 Last night my girlfriend left me. I'm absolutely devastated, absolutely ripped apart from inside and out. It's a long distance relationship and she is my first love. We met online 4 years ago and started talking as friends, 2 years after that we became lovers and have gone to great lengths to visit eachother in our countries. The other night she announced she was leaving me saying she no longer had the feeling but just tonight she said I "have a chance". She's giving me a chance but says she doesn't wanna talk with me online tomorrow, I think communication is vital but I feel that her heart says she wants to give me another chance but her brain doesn't want to. Saving this relationship is everything to me. She met me when I was in a mess, on anti-depressants, wanting to die and she helped me make myself better. We were so in love, talked all the time. We were thinking about getting engaged at the end of the year, leaving our countries next year so we can live together in Australia. I'm absolutely devastated, I can't go on without her. Surely you guys know how deeply I care for her? I care for her so much I will keep living all my days even if she doesn't love me back still loving her. I can't move on from this relationship. What can I do if I have this "chance"? Link to post Share on other sites
LikeNoOther Posted August 12, 2007 Share Posted August 12, 2007 Hi silvermonkey. I'm sorry that you're going through this. It is painful but look at it this way.. It is one of the things you have to go through in life to make you a better person. Believe that. I have been hurt quite a number of times and every time that happens, I almost want to give up on love and r/ship but why do that because of one person? Why did she leave? Was she not happy? Were things different now than before? There must be a reason or two for her to leave. Yes, you're right - communication is vital but it wouldn't be a communication if only one of you is willing to do it. Try and talk to her... see what she has to say... Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Penny99 Posted August 12, 2007 Share Posted August 12, 2007 LikeNoOther is right, breakups are things that most of us have to go through. Very painful at the time but we can often look back and see how we learned from them. I too have often felt that I couldn't go on without a particular person but the truth is that none of us is dependant on another person, however much it may feel like it at the time. By all means see what she has to say, but be wary. You don't want to keep being picked up and let down. Good luck... Link to post Share on other sites
Author silvermonkey Posted August 13, 2007 Author Share Posted August 13, 2007 Thanks for your kind words guys. It looks like things are looking up. We talked tonight and she tells me she loves me now. The reason she got all weird on me is she felt she didn't love me but we seem to have recaptured some of the feelings. I'm going to have to play it really carefully now and make it a priority to really talk about everything so we are clear on how we feel and have things to help us if we get into that situation again. I'm really hoping for the best. Thanks guys, I'll keep you updated . Link to post Share on other sites
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