JamesM Posted August 13, 2007 Share Posted August 13, 2007 Today as I was driving pas this nursing home, I witnessed an old man pushing his wife in a big wheelchair. I happen to know him and know that she has no clue that he is her husband. Yes, she knows that he is familiar and she needs him, but there is no appreciation to him as her husband. I had an utmost respect for him. I continued driving to my destination and then I remembered another man from the past. He was in his sixties when his wife became mentally unstable and was "out of it." After a couple of years, he divorced her and remarried. Oh, he was a nice man and a great guy (so was his second wife), but I always wondered if his second wife felt that he would take care of HER if the time came. And then I thought of my own wife. Could I be as the old man (in his eighties) I saw today or would I be as the man who was in his sixties? Would I stay dedicated to my wife or would I move on? I know and feel very secure in the fact that my wife would stay with me and take care of me. But I do not think she feels as secure as I do. So, my question to you is exactly that.... Do you think your husband/wife would be true to you even if you were disabled...whether physically or mentally, and do you feel that you would be faithful and caring of your spouse until his or her death? Link to post Share on other sites
VIP Posted August 13, 2007 Share Posted August 13, 2007 Well, would you stay with your wife? If you wouldn't, then you never really loved your wife. True love is not physical, it's not intellectual. It's in your heart, and the heart sees the beloved as a perfect human being in spite of disabilities and old age. True love means that no sacrifice is too big for the happinness of your beloved. You are happy when he is happy and you don't need any other happinness. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted August 13, 2007 Share Posted August 13, 2007 Do you think your husband/wife would be true to you even if you were disabled...whether physically or mentally Would never hazard a guess as to what someone else might do if faced with such a challenge. I wouldn’t want for someone to sacrifice their own life and happiness for me. I worry more that I might deliberately push them away so that I wouldn’t have to watch them suffer in my behalf, than cry and succumb to moments of self-pity when I thought no one was looking. and do you feel that you would be faithful and caring of your spouse until his or her death? I could. Absolutely. Given that this was someone who gave the best years of their life to me and was in no way responsible for the misfortune dealt to them. Even if the cantankerous old fool hurled his bedpan at me or begged me to pull the plug. (That would be John). BUT ... that would depend on the quality of our relationship during the majority of our time together. I can’t say I would have any more patience to stick it out than I did the last time if the disability, irrational behavior, or mental dysfunction was the result of a chemical addiction that could have been easily prevented or avoided in the first place. So I think there is a definite limit to my ability to stay the course given the situation and circumstance. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted August 13, 2007 Share Posted August 13, 2007 So, my question to you is exactly that.... Do you think your husband/wife would be true to you even if you were disabled...whether physically or mentally, and do you feel that you would be faithful and caring of your spouse until his or her death? Yes...I would remain true till death do us part... IMO....for my wife....I dont have a warm fuzzy for her to do her part....it would depend on the age I guess.......assuming something happened to me at this age...mid 30's. Now if we were in our 60's and retired or in our 80's....I think she would...but I dont feel 100% that she would stick with me till death at this point in time.... Link to post Share on other sites
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