He is moslem, am Xtian but wants me to change? what happens to wedding?

[Jinnah]

This is simple.

 

You say you are a Christian... well, if you are, then biblically you are not allowed to marry him because you are not supposed to be unequally yoked. If you do anyway that would be you choosing to go against the Bible. Do you really want to do that? I wouldn't.

 

Plus, you are setting any future children up for a lot of confusion. Christians believe that accepting Jesus as your Savior is the only way to Heaven. Muslim's think Jesus is a prophet, but not a savior. Therefore, if your kids were Muslim, your kids would not go to heaven according to your Christian beliefs. Is this worth the heavy risk? I don't think so.

 

Sorry to be so blunt, but that's the way it is. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision. I will pray for you. God will bless you and bring you the right person to marry if you are stong enough to follow His word. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it.

[VIP]

if your kids were Muslim, your kids would not go to heaven according to your Christian beliefs.

 

Then where would they go? Where do all atheists, buddhists, hindoos etc go after they die according to you?

[nellstar]

You should really read on Islam before you give your opinion. A lot of people misunderstood the concept of Islam. It isn't as bad as you think it is. Read up and you'll know.

[taiko]

You should really read on Islam before you give your opinion. A lot of people misunderstood the concept of Islam. It isn't as bad as you think it is. Read up and you'll know.

 

Well presumably the OP read up on her own faith but failed to live to its teachings and claims to be in close contact with the Islamic community so what she reads will be less important then the example of those professing the faith that are in contact with her.

I don't think that any surviving faith is bad for its believers. It is how they treat the nonbelievers that is of major concern.

[bish]

Bottomline is we have agreed to work things out and i simply needed guidance because i can never do such a thing.

 

Uh...but you DID do such a thing.

 

Its my first and its alot to go through this...

 

And that is one of the reasons I come off as harsh. I think people need to hear it so that it is their last time going through this. Otherwise when people sugarcoat it and there are no consequences to your actions...history will repeat itself.

 

Even as i ahve simply got bashing here

 

do you think you didn't deserve it? pretty small price to pay considering what you did to you BF.

 

Bottom line. If he has agreed to work it out, that is his choice and I hope you don't make a fool out of him when he is giving you a 2nd chance. I hope it works.

 

He can forgive you this one time and it is shame on you...it happens again and he forgives you...then shame on him.

[sb129]

Then where would they go? Where do all atheists go after they die according to you?

 

We all decompose into carbon compounds which become part of the soil, and so goes the great circle of life.

 

Well, thats my "theory" anyways. Feel free to debate.

[VIP]

The body does, everything else doesn't. I don't know where exactly we go after our body dies, but I believe we reincarnate after a period of time.

[disgracian]

God will bless you and bring you the right person to marry...

And in doing so contradicts the Biblical concept of free will. GG.

 

Cheers,

D.

[Vixen763]

Uh...but you DID do such a thing.

 

 

 

And that is one of the reasons I come off as harsh. I think people need to hear it so that it is their last time going through this. Otherwise when people sugarcoat it and there are no consequences to your actions...history will repeat itself.

 

 

 

do you think you didn't deserve it? pretty small price to pay considering what you did to you BF.

 

Bottom line. If he has agreed to work it out, that is his choice and I hope you don't make a fool out of him when he is giving you a 2nd chance. I hope it works.

 

He can forgive you this one time and it is shame on you...it happens again and he forgives you...then shame on him.

 

 

hey. You really are still bitter and stuck up on the issue...why do you have to shove it up my nose...and why do you keep thinking i am going to cheat on him again...

 

I am here to get guidance on the religion issue, please dont mix up thew two. If you ahve no guidance to offer, i would rather you think again, if you really want tp post here or not...thanx

[Vixen763]

Friends the debate has gotten too religious. I was just thinking whether or not cross religious relationships work out for the future especially if i, commit to supporting the family/children be brought up in their dad's faith and i not changing because i wnat to remain where i am...

[bish]

hey. You really are still bitter and stuck up on the issue...why do you have to shove it up my nose...and why do you keep thinking i am going to cheat on him again...

 

Because you don't expect there should be any consequences to your actions.

 

That and experience has taught me once a cheater always a cheater. If you did it once, you have proven that you are the type and can do it again.

 

Does that guarantee you will do it again? Not at all. But you have shown that it is more than likely by doing it once.

[Vixen763]

Because you don't expect there should be any consequences to your actions.

 

That and experience has taught me once a cheater always a cheater. If you did it once, you have proven that you are the type and can do it again.

 

Does that guarantee you will do it again? Not at all. But you have shown that it is more than likely by doing it once.

 

Ok, so i did it...could you get over it and lets move on from there and get a life...even when a loved one passes away, we feel empty...There is a mourning period and then a period to let go and move on....could you try moving on from that sin of mine...

[bish]

Ok, so i did it...could you get over it and lets move on from there and get a life...even when a loved one passes away, we feel empty...There is a mourning period and then a period to let go and move on....could you try moving on from that sin of mine...

 

Ok...thats fine...but I don't want to see you say it was a "mistake" again....cuz it wasn't.

[sb129]

Umm Vixen, if this is too religious for you???

Isn't that the TOPIC of the thread?

 

You really haven't thought this through at all have you.

 

Good luck- you are going to need it in spades.

[Jinnah]

Then where would they go? Where do all atheists, buddhists, hindoos etc go after they die according to you?

 

 

I didn't mean to condemn other people... my point in writing that was to point out that if she is a Christian as she says, then that is what she believes... and then it wouldn't make sense for a Christian to say they are fine with their kids being of a different religion when they believe that by doing so the kids would go to hell.

 

I just think that maybe she wants others to tell her that she is making the right choice, even when she is contradicting herself with some of the things said (no offense). Christians are supposed to help others to convert to Christianity. I have never heard a Christian say they are fine with their kids being of a different religion, because according to the Bible, they would not go to Heaven.

 

The bottom line here is that she should know what the Bible says and then she would know she is not to marry outside of Christianity.

[Jinnah]

Umm Vixen, if this is too religious for you???

Isn't that the TOPIC of the thread?

 

You really haven't thought this through at all have you.

 

Good luck- you are going to need it in spades.

 

 

 

I agree. I thought it was a religious question as well. ??

[Jinnah]

And in doing so contradicts the Biblical concept of free will. GG.

 

Cheers,

D.

 

 

A Christian has free will... to do their own will or God's will. I trust that God knows the right person for her to marry and if she CHOOSES she can pray for God to send her that person, and she will be blessed.

 

I CHOOSE to give up my own wordly desires because I know that God has much better ideas and things in store for me (if I choose to follow His will) than I could ever come up with.

 

P.S. I don't know what Biblical idea of free will you are talking about though... Christians do CHOOSE to surrender their life to God and His will... but as a Christian, you also choose to give up your wordly desires... but no one forces it on you... it's every individuals personal choice to become a Christian or not.

[disgracian]

And how is this person "sent" by God? Pushed or diverted into her path, metaphorically or literally? No matter how you break it down, it's reduced to God moving people around like chess pieces. The reality is that people find each other, and that's all there is to it.

 

Cheers,

D.

[VIP]

There is a divine will and there is a free will, and they both work together. You cannot accomplish anything without applying your free will. This idea that god will do everything for you is just a lazy attitude.

[Jinnah]

And how is this person "sent" by God? Pushed or diverted into her path, metaphorically or literally? No matter how you break it down, it's reduced to God moving people around like chess pieces. The reality is that people find each other, and that's all there is to it.

 

Cheers,

D.

 

 

I'm not trying to convince you of anything. I only wrote the things I did because she said she is a Christian and that's what Christians believe.

 

In answer to your question, God would probably send her someone who was also praying to Him for the right person. God will only work in your life if you want him to... that is every person's own personal choice.

 

I don't really care if God moved me around like a chess piece... that doesn't offend me or upset me... His plan has better outcomes than mine... believe me, I've learned that for myself... the times I have chosen to do what I want, even if I knew I really shouldn't, I have had some negative consequences. Anyway, I don't want to argue religion here, I just want to help her make the right decision for what she believes.

[Jinnah]

There is a divine will and there is a free will, and they both work together. You cannot accomplish anything without applying your free will. This idea that god will do everything for you is just a lazy attitude.

 

If I understand correctly what you are saying, it makes sense... a person is not supposed to be lazy (that in itself is un-biblical). However, to rely on God and serve Him by doing His will and not your will (by choice) is what Christians believe and choose to do.

[disgracian]

It may not bother you, but it is nonetheless contradictory. You can't have it both ways, and if you think otherwise then you're wrong.

 

Just so you know, I am cautioning people against believing in nonsense. It's reckless to advise people that things will happen magically for them if they wish really hard, which is basically what you said in the first place. And that's why I'm here trying to expose what is clearly bad advice. People or things aren't going to be delivered to your door on a platter; you have to get off your backside, go out into the world and find and/or earn them.

 

Cheers,

D.

[Enema]

In answer to your question, God would probably send her someone who was also praying to Him for the right person.

 

Millions of innocents die around the world because god is too busy setting christians up on dates.

 

Clearly he deserves our worship.

[sb129]

Millions of innocents die around the world because god is too busy setting christians up on dates.

 

Clearly he deserves our worship.

 

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Enema, you are something else.

 

If your ears are burning today, it me blatantly plagiarising your post.. lol.;

[lonelybird]

Hi, I just want to say 'prayers work miracles' for those who believe in it. I saw many prayers got answered amazingly. and Lord does tell us who to marry is best, I totally trust in Lord

 

Hi, those who claim don't believe in anything, how about go to a healing meeting, and see what will happen