How do I live with the guilt?

[Kasan]

I always sensed with you that you really did want to make your marriage work, but felt that things were hopeless, that no matter what you did, your marriage was doomed to fail.

 

Now that you have gotten some help, you understand why your marriage felt so hopeless, and you did the things that you did.

 

I admire you so much for being willing to do everything necessary to repair your marriage. It never is easy to look at yourself and see what you contributed to the dynamic, as it's always easier to blame someone else.

 

I don't think that people really understand the part of the vows "for better or worse" or that the worst can be truly awful, until you go through it.

 

I'm so glad that the both of you found a way to forgive and let go!

 

Thanks for the kind words!