GALT Posted August 14, 2007 Share Posted August 14, 2007 I am stssing out right now looking for a job. Been with a great person for about 6 months now and things are good in the bed and out. Now when I stress out, I tend to invert myself, withdraw and just buckle down and deal with the issue. She on the other hand seems to not have a care in the world. Now she is putting it oin me with incessant texting saying stuff like "you invalidate me", "I don;t know you" and stuff like that. I am stressed, I want to take a few weeks to myself and sort of find myself, concentrate on networking and sending out resumes and scheduling interviews. But she is taking it personally. I cannot convince her to no take it that way. There is an age difference of about 13 years between iuss so that may be part of it, but I don;t get it. SHe knows I have no money yet is saying , lets go to the beach for the weekend--well true we can stay at a friends but while there you need to eat out, drive there, drink, and entertain oneself. If money were there, I woudl be all about it, but it is so tight right now and she does not get it. FWIW, she has some sort of trust fund inheritance and is unemployed herself, and has tapped it to the tune of $200K in margin..so she is not the most responsible one of the bunch. Link to post Share on other sites
kitty99b Posted August 14, 2007 Share Posted August 14, 2007 in tough times like like you need someone caring and unerstanding. and it doesn't look to be your situation..so why not take a break from the relationship until you figured some things out? if you keep her your stress will only increase!! Link to post Share on other sites
bluepoppy Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 Sounds like things will be stressful for a while. Is this the way it is for you? My b/f and I have similar lives, but he has more stress. Mainly because he's disorganised. That's his problem. But from my view point yes sometimes I have to step back and let him sort out his stresses. So instead of trying to sort your girlfriend out, sort out the stress. Find the job you want, spend the time on that. But as she is so much younger, it sounds like the suggestion of 'lets go to the beach' is a combo of two things - she's prob trying to be kind, get you to have fun to take away the stress, and prob needs a bit of attension too. Since the money is an issue, try and think of something fun and free and give her a few hours of attension and yourself a few hours of a break. From experience, it's easier to get a job when you feel happy about things than when you don't, so do something happy. You'll come out the other end with both job and girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Arizona100 Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 You know you could say something nice like "I need a week away from you because when you're around all I think about is you and I need to sort my life out a little bit" or something similar that so she doesn't start worrying (unless you're thinking about breaking up) . About the money.. Talk about it with her. Link to post Share on other sites
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