Finding a life direction.

[Lights]

What does one do in order to find a better direction in one's life?

 

I've been stuck for the last couple of years.

 

I'm having a hard time deciding on future locations and careers, how much time to devote to what (i.e. to work, to education, to a social life, and so on).

 

It's as if I've lost all track of everything that once made sense in my life.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Framework for a plan, if you're feeling particularly directionless:

 

1. Take inventory of the things that you need to sort out in your life (work,

education, etc).

 

2. For each of these, you will have options (whether to study,

change jobs, move to another place, etc). Put as many

positives and negatives as you can think of, for each option.

 

3. Take into consideration the time-frame involved for each activity. Put a

positive or negative depending on the cost/benefit of spending time in

each.

 

3. See where the positives outweigh the negatives. Obviously, that's a

good course of action.

 

4. Choose your option and stick to it.

 

5. Have a plan-B ready if your original plan fails for some reason.

 

 

Not saying this will resolve the existential agitation you're feeling, but still, hopefully it will help some.

[lonelybird]

I think the most important direction is to find soul and heart and meaning of life. and find true genuine rejoice in heart. If find this, then everything will fall into right places, and decisions would be easier to make

 

If you ever read the book of Ecclesiastes, it helps you to see life. What didn't the king Soloomon do in his life? what he wanted he got, yet he wasn't sastified. He was rich, smart, had 1,000 women, great carreer than most of us, yet he said these are vanity

 

but he got an excellent conclusion that "God is the answer for our lives"

 

And believe in and practice God's words will bring true confidence to us

 

Numb and ignore our conscience will NOT bring confidence to us, and our conscience directly connect with God

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

I'm finding the dichotomy between the two previous posts to be highly amusing.

 

Lights, you have two really clear-cut options. Can't get better than this.

[johan]

I often wish that I could find more meaning in life. But what stops me is the idea that our lives are all just a cruel trick, where God is amused at the irony that we'd all make a big deal out of finding the meaning in life, when in fact there is none.

 

He just implanted that one little idea in our heads and turned us loose. Now we're all obsessed and depressed over something that doesn't even exist. I'm sure He gets such enjoyment out of us killing each other, trying to be religious and scratching our heads over several versions of Him, having kids, and climbing the corporate ladder. And all out paths just lead to the same worm-ridden oblivion.

 

Well I refuse to play that little game. I've chosen to embrace the pointlessness of this short, sad little life. Sorry, Mr. Almighty, but you'll have to get your little kicks out of watching everyone else.

[Storyrider]

My impression from Light's posts is that he overthinks everything and tries to take an intellectual approach to emotional issues.

 

Stop Spocking so much, and everything will be fine.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Ha, yeah, I think he works himself up into quite a state over everyday issues.

 

I was going to tell him to just go with the flow, but then I thought a "framework for a plan" would look more authentic.

[lonelybird]

I often wish that I could find more meaning in life. But what stops me is the idea that our lives are all just a cruel trick, where God is amused at the irony that we'd all make a big deal out of finding the meaning in life, when in fact there is none.

 

He just implanted that one little idea in our heads and turned us loose. Now we're all obsessed and depressed over something that doesn't even exist. I'm sure He gets such enjoyment out of us killing each other, trying to be religious and scratching our heads over several versions of Him, having kids, and climbing the corporate ladder. And all out paths just lead to the same worm-ridden oblivion.

 

Well I refuse to play that little game. I've chosen to embrace the pointlessness of this short, sad little life. Sorry, Mr. Almighty, but you'll have to get your little kicks out of watching everyone else.

Whether you refuse or not, you have to play, only difference is that believer have great hope, here this short life is just temporary, even so we live best of it. Through God we are more than a conquer

 

Lord give us HIS rejoice and peace, no matter what happen we have his rejoice and peace in heart. Doesn't it exciting that you can talk to God and God cares about you? you get not because you ask not, simple as that:)

[JCD]

What planet earth is all about is survival. Anything after that is just icing on a cake. To be of moral character doesn't involve being religious. All it involves is some self respect for yourself and fellow human beings. Happiness comes from within and you have to guard that and not let others have influence over that.

[Green]

I have to say I hear you I feel so lost and so depressed, like a huge failure I just want to run away from my life and start over

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

I have to say I hear you I feel so lost and so depressed, like a huge failure I just want to run away from my life and start over

 

Hey KMT! How have you been?

 

Uh...not so good I see. Even KMT gets depressed. Unbelievable.

 

So, buddy. What's wrong?

[Lights]

Framework for a plan, if you're feeling particularly directionless:...

 

Not saying this will resolve the existential agitation you're feeling, but still, hopefully it will help some.

Thanks, This Too Shall Pass.

 

Has it worked for you?

 

My impression from Light's posts is that he overthinks everything and tries to take an intellectual approach to emotional issues.

 

Stop Spocking so much, and everything will be fine.

 

Ha, yeah, I think he works himself up into quite a state over everyday issues.

 

I was going to tell him to just go with the flow, but then I thought a "framework for a plan" would look more authentic.

Well, the main downside with my experience of going with the flow is that it causes inertia (which isn't bad in my situation, but isn't where I want to be forever); therefore the need to find a better direction. I suppose it's an everyday issue in that I might deal with it every day.

 

What is spocking?

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Thanks, This Too Shall Pass.

 

Has it worked for you?

 

 

Good one, Lights.

 

Jokes apart, I did mean that to be helpful. I haven't tried it, probably because I haven't been bothered by this issue to the extent, and in all the aspects, that you are.

 

Well, the main downside with my experience of going with the flow is that it causes inertia (which isn't bad in my situation, but isn't where I want to be forever); therefore the need to find a better direction. I suppose it's an everyday issue in that I might deal with it every day.

 

Then perhaps you can use the framework provided earlier?

 

About the spocking...what we were alluding to, is that you're looking for clear-cut solutions, with explanations and foot notes, to intangible issues.

 

For example, your question about how much time you should spend socializing. There's no right or wrong answer. It's upto you, and what you feel you'd gain or lose in that process.

 

There's no fool-proof method of choosing a direction. While there's a thing called choosing wisely, there's no guarantee that it won't fall apart. Sometimes you need to take risks. If it turns out to be a mistake, you have to take the repurcussions in your stride, and figure out the next best option.

[Lights]

 

Good one, Lights.

 

Jokes apart, I did mean that to be helpful. I haven't tried it, probably because I haven't been bothered by this issue to the extent, and in all the aspects, that you are.

 

I didn't ask that question as a joke, nor as a challenge against what you provided. Just asking about your experiences.

 

For example, your question about how much time you should spend socializing. There's no right or wrong answer. It's upto you, and what you feel you'd gain or lose in that process.

True; in that thread I was asking what other people do, hoping to learn new methods from people who've been more successful regarding that matter than I have been. I'm quite aware that no one can prescribe such an answer.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

I didn't ask that question as a joke, nor as a challenge against what you provided. Just asking about your experiences.

 

I know, I know. It's just that somewhere the (unintended) irony of your question struck me as funny.

 

 

True; in that thread I was asking what other people do, hoping to learn new methods from people who've been more successful regarding that matter than I have been. I'm quite aware that no one can prescribe such an answer.

 

I understand. I wasn't trying to trivialize your situation.

 

I still stand by my suggestion of contemplating the positives and negatives of various choices, and then choosing one direction. Of course, with the understanding that Murphy's Law is still valid and applicable.

[Green]

I feel the same way u do light... U have to relize that happyness is a state of mind and u can have it, and should have it even when things are going the way you want them. Try to look inside urself and revive that hope for tommorow and that enjoyment of today. And when you look back, remember the things you enjoyed. You know what you want to do and you should try to do it dont let people tell you what you can and cant do. For instance say its your dream to own a night club, start taking steps to owning one, read books on starting a business, maybe make friends with a club owner or try to get a job at one. Maybe you have another dream like writing childrens books, well then try writing the book just remember things dont happen all at once you need to take things one step at a time. Just remember you cant go wrong if you do 4 things strive to eat a diet that makes you feel great, work toward improving your body through trainging, dont let your mind go to waist

[Fun2BMe]

I often wish that I could find more meaning in life. But what stops me is the idea that our lives are all just a cruel trick, where God is amused at the irony that we'd all make a big deal out of finding the meaning in life, when in fact there is none.

 

He just implanted that one little idea in our heads and turned us loose. Now we're all obsessed and depressed over something that doesn't even exist. I'm sure He gets such enjoyment out of us killing each other, trying to be religious and scratching our heads over several versions of Him, having kids, and climbing the corporate ladder. And all out paths just lead to the same worm-ridden oblivion.

 

Well I refuse to play that little game. I've chosen to embrace the pointlessness of this short, sad little life. Sorry, Mr. Almighty, but you'll have to get your little kicks out of watching everyone else.

 

 

The creation of man was the most giving act of God. He gave of himself in the act when he had the option not to. Without the bad, you can't experience the good. To sit back and live your gift of life while at the same time being ungrateful about it is setting yourself up for some bad karma. I hope you get out of that mindset for your own benefit.