beetlebum Posted August 17, 2007 Share Posted August 17, 2007 Hi everyone im obsessing over a guy at work and its driving me mad. Im a student and managed to get a summer job, I started the job with absolutly no intention of fancying anyone but lo and behold, when i least expect it ive fallen for someone...who doesnt look anything like my usual type and unfortulately has a girlfriend. I feel confused becuase i feel so comfortable and relaxed around him, he makes me laugh, we have very close body contact straight away and it feels like im in a haze when hes around... it sounds ridiculous because im nearly 30, ive been in love before and i cant believe im acting like a teenager. His flirting got to the point where he mentioned, whether jokingly or not, that he was looking to upgrade his current joking, then he gave me a look which made me think that maybe he meant me... now suddenly i feel like i cant read him at all. he either completely ignores me or i catch him gazing at me across the room, or he gazes at my body when i talk to him, then the next day hes flirting with other girls or hes talking in detail about his girlfriend and talks about all the things they plan to do together in the future. is this guy just leading me on... i think i already know the answer but i need to hear some other opinions... thanks Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted August 17, 2007 Share Posted August 17, 2007 I think he likes you but you should not have anything to do with a guy that is taken. Tell him that you like him but until he is single, you can't have anything to do with him. That's the mature and smart way to go about it. Don't fall for him anymore because it will hurt you. Link to post Share on other sites
LN99 Posted August 18, 2007 Share Posted August 18, 2007 Yeah, isn't it crazy how someone starts flirting w/ you and then you fall for them....and then the infamous "gf" pops up. I have been in this situation quite recently(w/ the touches, the smiles, the gazes, the mirroring of body language, etc)....and all I can say is....as hard as it is, You should avoid this situation. Seeing that you can't because it's at your workplace, then you need to distance yourself as much as possible. If anything, this guy is probably just a flirt trying to feed his ego. So, don't respond to his flirting. I had to turn a cold shoulder on the guy who was flirting w/ me. It was very hard to do, because he is so friendly and I do like him a lot. I just don't like my head being messed with or want him to hurt me. I know that he will probably end up staying w/ his gf(LDR). (Other people have mentioned him talking about them possibly getting engaged soon.) Luckily I have had a break from seeing him this summer. When I see him in fall..at college, I plan to act like I'm involved w/ someone else. This should maybe stop his flirting....especially seeing as he does it heavily w/ me and then later on mentions in front of everyone how he "can't wait" to go to (a random place) for his honeymoon w/ his gf. Link to post Share on other sites
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