In contact with ex after 2 weeks of NC

[heartoutside]

I contacted my ex today after seeing her for the first time in almost 2 months, and going NC for the past 2 weeks. Don't know what to do now that she keeps texting me? I honestly didn't think she would write back.

 

But here's the quick story, 2 weeks ago I called my ex to explain to her why she needed to get the rest of her stuff out of my apartment and she got mad at me. She sent me a text later that afternoon asking if we could talk and I didn't reply. I wrote back later that afternoon saying we could talk and got no reply. Around 10:30, just as I was about to go to sleep, the house phone rings and it's her. She asks how I'm doing, and I say ok and I ask her how she's doing and she says she's doing better then she was that morning. We talk a little and she then says, ok, well I'll talk to you later. And I ask, is there anything else you want to talk about? and she doesn't say no, but asks me if there is anything I want to talk about. And I say nah, and she hangs up.

 

That was 2 weeks ago. Today I had to go to a company meeting at the store we both work at (I don't work there that much anymore). There were a bunch of chairs to the right of the register and bunch to the left, so the register was in the middle. I sat with some friends thinking that my ex had already came in. But she hadn't. My back was facing the door and she walks in and walks right by me doesn't say a word. She then comes back out from the break room and sit a few chairs in front of me. Not on the other side of the register, or in the front, but right in front of me bascially.

 

Anyway, the meeting ends and I go back into the break room to punch out and my ex is standing between two of my buddies as I say by to them, and I didn't really notice her because she was kind of hiding. So not a word was said between us.

 

This afternoon, i felt like it would be a nice gesture to send her text saying it was nice seeing you even though we didn't talk.

 

I really didn't think she would write back, but she did. She wrote back saying she felt kind of awk and felt I was mad at her. I didn't reply right away because I didn't know I got a text. So she wrote back mins later asking if I agreed.

 

i wrote back that "I just thought you didn't want to talk to me, but regardless it was good to see you."

 

She wrote back, "R u ok?" And I replied that I'm alright, r u ok?

 

and she wrote back, i'm ok

 

and she then wrote another text asking how my new roommate is.......

 

I wrote back saying he's fine, he's like a baby only comes out of his room to poo and eat.

 

To which she replied with a "hahhahah"

 

(I know most of you are going to say forget about her and move on). But right now, I'm kind of in a good place with my state of mind. I know it's not the end of the world if she and I don't work out, but at the same time I want to try and see if it can get back on track maybe, I should at least try my hardest and not just walk away.........In hindsight, other then crying and telling her how much I love her for the first few days following our "break" I haven't done much of anything in terms of fighting for her. I just kind of bowed out when she said she needed space. I gave it to her and did nothing else.

 

 

Should I write back to her regarding anything to do with us? She seems to skirting around the issue or something a little, she didn't reply to my saying it was good to see you (most people would)....

[heartoutside]

Any suggestions. Should I just go about things, and wait and see....?

[CaliGuy]

What are you trying to accomplish here? If the point is to move on with your life and get into a better frame of mind, stop contacting her. Anything you do right now to initiate conversations with her is going to backfire. It will push her away and keep you down.

 

Stop contacting her. You have a life that doesn't include her so prove it by stopping the contact. The more you stay in contact with her the longer it's going to take you to heal.

[heartoutside]

As of right now, I'm not sure what I should be trying to accomplish?! I know I need to focus on myself, and I am. But at the same time, I don't think I have done anything too insane, such as begging for weeks and weeks afterwards and I really don't think I can just walk away. She has always been the one to contact me, still is. I've contacted her twice since we broke up, took a break whatever.....Once to tell her to get her stuff out, and then this past weekend....that is all.

 

I actually have been getting a life outside of the one she and I had, and let me tell you it's hard. All my friends are hers as well...

 

But then there are days like today, where out of no where I get a text message asking me if I've seen her school ID? (She's been moved out for 4 weeks now) And then she adds my childhood and still best buddie's wife as a friend on her facebook page today. A girl that she has only met maybe 4 times (but they got a long really well). Why do something like that? What's the point?

 

I know, this kind of crap makes it hard to move on, but should I move on? Why does she do this kind of crap? It makes no sense?