What do I do to make her feel that spark?

[Tim]

We have been best friends for a year now, and just recently started dating. We both agree that we feel a deep sense of love and affection for one another. I am very happy that we are together. We have been discussing marriage and what the future holds and we agree that in the future we will be together, we are still best friends, and we will probably continue that forever. Even if our romantic endeavors don't work out, our friendship will survive, of that we are both certain. Unfortunately, she tells me that while most of the time she feels that spark of love, or that feeling in her stomach, there are times she doesn't feel it and she would like to feel it more. She says that us being best friends for so long has made it so that we are both very comfortable, I agree, she says that it isn't a bad thing to be so comfortable and so sure of our love, but that sometimes she wishes it was more like a traditional relationship where the butterflies in the stomach come everytime you hold hands. I would like to know ways that I could make her happier and to make her feel that spark more often. I need to learn how to be more romantic, please help me.

[Kyra]

Hi Tim, Dr. Kyra to the rescue!! You obviously have a fab rapport and love one another heaps. This is a great start. I think the way to a girl's heart and to raise her "spark" quotient, is to...I've gotta be honest...be a "take charge" kinda guy sometimes. Book a table at a restaurant, ring her up and say, "...., we're going to.....on....I'll pick you up at...". And don't take no for an answer. Sneak into her room (without being caught), or alternatively ask a friend...find out what size she wears and buy her lingerie....not cutesy lingerie either, if you get my drift. When you're around her, come up behind her (don't scare her), and wrap your arms around her, er...whatever you like...and whisper REALLY sexy things in her ear, about how gorgeous she is, how attracted to her you are...(what you'd like to do to her...), etc., then go and watch television or something...leave her breathless, aroused, and surprised...BUT, she'll be wondering a great deal about your sudden disinterest. I bet she'll try and re-arouse your interest...don't be mean, but act...cavalier. Take her for spontaneous drives and have a picnic hamper packed with her favourite food. Have music in the background as well. I know it's winter in America, and I imagine it's cold, unless you live in California? If it's cold, take her for a night at a pretty little inn or something and have dinner and sit in front of a fireplace...girls love snuggling in front of fireplaces. Offer to give her a full body massage. Get nice smelling oils, light candles, get some wine, make sure the room is a comfortable temperature, and...massage away. She'll love it, I assure you. Leave a very hot, arousing, but VERY brief message on her answering machine or email. Then DON'T contact her...leave her always wanting more. If you stay at either people's place, run a bath, undress you both, and get in...again, light candles, burn essential oils...arouse her until she's well...you know...I bet you if you try these things (and more, just use your imagination), you'll have her eating out of the palm of your hand. But I mean that in the nicest way. Best of luck with your seductions! Kyra.

We have been best friends for a year now, and just recently started dating. We both agree that we feel a deep sense of love and affection for one another. I am very happy that we are together. We have been discussing marriage and what the future holds and we agree that in the future we will be together, we are still best friends, and we will probably continue that forever. Even if our romantic endeavors don't work out, our friendship will survive, of that we are both certain. Unfortunately, she tells me that while most of the time she feels that spark of love, or that feeling in her stomach, there are times she doesn't feel it and she would like to feel it more. She says that us being best friends for so long has made it so that we are both very comfortable, I agree, she says that it isn't a bad thing to be so comfortable and so sure of our love, but that sometimes she wishes it was more like a traditional relationship where the butterflies in the stomach come everytime you hold hands. I would like to know ways that I could make her happier and to make her feel that spark more often. I need to learn how to be more romantic, please help me.