Client's wife hires PI.

[tinktronik]

I have a long-term client (for a couple of years) we swopp work between each other . He called me a few days ago to let me know that he has been having an affair with a mutual acquaintance of ours for the last few years and that his wife confronted him about it with pictures and phone logs and that she had hired a PI to follow the lady around . It aparently cost about 12K .

But he actually called to let me know that his wife has also had a PI following ME around ... She has had this man at my home taking pics of me and my s/o my children , my friends , ect.

I have no connection with this man other than a bussiness relationship , period. I have never met his wife .

His wife having a PI follow me is very creepy , he says she has spent somewhere around 7K having me checked out. He is very appologetic.

I did notice a few weeks ago a man taking pics of me when I was in my yard and I called the police , this happened sometime last year as well.

Is there any way to get this woman and her PI to leave me alone?

[Fun2BMe]

That really is creepy but understandable. She wanted to make sure that in addition to the other lady, that he wasn't also having an affair with his co-worker, you.

 

Maybe you can ask him for the name of the company and get restraining orders against the PIs? Then see if you can have them release the pictures to you. You can also ask your husband to follow the lady around with a camera snapping pictures to see how she likes it.

[tinktronik]

I agree that it is understandable that she would want to check up on his aquaintances , but now that she knows that nothing is going on she needs to leave me and mine alone . Can you get restraining orders against PI's?

[annabelle75]

I agree that it is understandable that she would want to check up on his aquaintances , but now that she knows that nothing is going on she needs to leave me and mine alone . Can you get restraining orders against PI's?

 

Yes. If I were you I would also contact the wife through a lawyer and let her know that what she is doing is considered harrassment and you will file a suit against her if she continues. Just because her husband is cheating doesn't mean she has the right to invade anybody's privacy, especially not yours.

[tinktronik]

Yes. If I were you I would also contact the wife through a lawyer and let her know that what she is doing is considered harrassment and you will file a suit against her if she continues. Just because her husband is cheating doesn't mean she has the right to invade anybody's privacy, especially not yours.

I have an attorney, I had not even considered calling him. I just kind of laughed it off when he told me . But it has started to irk me , I don't want anybody taking pics of my children especailly .

[Fun2BMe]

If she's paid 12K on one lady and 7K on you, what's to say she won't pay a little more for some fancy photoshop to put you in compromising positions with her husband? Or be obsessed with you? Or whatever. She sounds dangerously jealous to be spending this much time and money spying on people.

[tinktronik]

If she's paid 12K on one lady and 7K on you, what's to say she won't pay a little more for some fancy photoshop to put you in compromising positions with her husband? Or be obsessed with you? Or whatever. She sounds dangerously jealous to be spending this much time and money spying on people.

I don't know really . As far as I know it is common knolodge that her and her H have not lived together for over 10 years , the one I have heard quoted is 14 years.

He did tell me not to worry , but that she had been by the aquaintance's house and had removed his gun from their house .

Really , she could take pics of me everyday for the next 10 years and she would find nothing going on between her H and I .But I really don't need the drama . I think I will call that atty.

The mutual aquaintance has dropped out of sight, she has changed her phone # so I don't really know what is going on there .

Really , it is none of my bussiness what they did or do , but I don't want any part of it.

[climbergirl]

Do they have children together? I thought most states were now 'no fault' and whether or not he's having an affair doesn't make a difference in the settlement. If the state is 'no fault' the only thing that makes sense to me is if it is in regard to a custody battle or to see how their mutual, marital funds are being spent.

 

My ex-h hired a PI to spy on my boyfriend and me (my ex and I were separated for 5 years and knew I had a boyfriend). I didn't find out until years after the divorce that he did this, but it still creeps me out.

[tinktronik]

Do they have children together? I thought most states were now 'no fault' and whether or not he's having an affair doesn't make a difference in the settlement. If the state is 'no fault' the only thing that makes sense to me is if it is in regard to a custody battle or to see how their mutual, marital funds are being spent.

 

My ex-h hired a PI to spy on my boyfriend and me (my ex and I were separated for 5 years and knew I had a boyfriend). I didn't find out until years after the divorce that he did this, but it still creeps me out.

He's much older than I , Id put him somewhere in his late 60's . I don't know if they have kids, but if they do they would have to be grown and gone.

They both have good jobs and as far as I know they both live in different states for many years now under mutual agreement , I think he has mentioned flying to see his wife to me before , but really I don't know about there private biz

Apparently his wife initally had cause to hire the PI as she did catch him in the act and it was pretty much common knolodge that he was seeing someone . But enough is enough , I have nothing to do with this woman or her Marriage and very little to do with her Husband . I will contact my atty tomorrow and see what he thinks is the best course of action .

[Trialbyfire]

tink, I also hired a PI to find out about my ex-H's indiscretions. If you challenge her, it will make you look like you have something to hide, therefore worth keeping an eye on. Call up your friend and find out how long she put you on surveillance because if she finds nothing, she won't be wasting anymore money on you.

 

Btw, why would this man tell you this? Is there intent to stir up trouble?

[tinktronik]

tink, I also hired a PI to find out about my ex-H's indiscretions. If you challenge her, it will make you look like you have something to hide, therefore worth keeping an eye on. Call up your friend and find out how long she put you on surveillance because if she finds nothing, she won't be wasting anymore money on you.

 

Btw, why would this man tell you this? Is there intent to stir up trouble?

He called to tell me b/c he is embarrassed that she would have someone follow me around . According to him there are pics and info on me dating to a short period last year and then starting back up within the last month or so. We have been working on an internet start-up over the last 90 days and I have probably sat down with him to go over him offering me contracted work three times , but a couple of those had other parties present.

We do not work together , and so when we do swop work or contacts or do contracting , we do meet somewhere public at a resteraunt or whatever. She apparently got pics last summer of us at a coffee shop but it was of us going over paperwork .

I don't know why she has reinstated the survailance on me or why she has continued it after finding nothing going on with me .

[Trialbyfire]

He called to tell me b/c he is embarrassed that she would have someone follow me around . According to him there are pics and info on me dating to a short period last year and then starting back up within the last month or so. We have been working on an internet start-up over the last 90 days and I have probably sat down with him to go over him offering me contracted work three times , but a couple of those had other parties present.

We do not work together , and so when we do swop work or contacts or do contracting , we do meet somewhere public at a resteraunt or whatever. She apparently got pics last summer of us at a coffee shop but it was of us going over paperwork .

I don't know why she has reinstated the survailance on me or why she has continued it after finding nothing going on with me .

You probably showed up in her surveillance on her husband. I wouldn't bother with restraining orders. She'll go away when she finds nothing.

[tinktronik]

You probably showed up in her surveillance on her husband. I wouldn't bother with restraining orders. She'll go away when she finds nothing.

Perhaps, still it is very disturbing that she would invade my privacy this way.

She has also showed pics of where I live to her H , he did not know where I live as well as pics of my kids and my s/o. If I wanted him to see pics of those people I would have showed them to him.

[IpAncA]

Yeah she'll go away once she's sure you have nothing to do with him on a personal level.

 

Sounds like she thinks there's more than one women and since you've been seen with him, she probably is wondering if your involved to.

 

But if she hasn't found anything then she needs to leave you alone. She probably just wants to keep tabs on you just in case she's wrong.

 

Have you told your SO about this?

[tinktronik]

Yeah she'll go away once she's sure you have nothing to do with him on a personal level.

 

Sounds like she thinks there's more than one women and since you've been seen with him, she probably is wondering if your involved to.

 

But if she hasn't found anything then she needs to leave you alone. She probably just wants to keep tabs on you just in case she's wrong.

 

Have you told your SO about this?

Yes I have told him. He actually was with me last summer when the man took pics of me and we noticed . He thought I was being stalked and was very concerned . When it happened again he became very angry with the person taking the pics and went after the car and got a partial plate #.

So yes he knows, it bothers him, but he thinks the whole thing is foolishness.

He just asked whos money the Wife was spending.

[IpAncA]

Well hopefully she'll go away. Anyway you could limit your time with this guy more then you are or try and meet him in at your work so this PI can't snap your picture?

[tinktronik]

Well hopefully she'll go away. Anyway you could limit your time with this guy more then you are or try and meet him in at your work so this PI can't snap your picture?

I don't work out of an office , so if I met him "at work" I would be at home.

Hopefully she will just go away.

I don't really see him all that often maybe 3-4 times in the last 90 days and one to two brief phone calls a week.

[Fun2BMe]

Yes I have told him. He actually was with me last summer when the man took pics of me and we noticed.

 

This is making me a little paranoid lol. I oftentimes have people come up to me to take pictures, sometimes from far away, but I figure they are tourists taking pictures of something behind me. Sometimes it's so obvious I pose for a joke but now I'm wondering if anyone's ever had a PI on me?!! I also had a complete stranger in a suit stop me in the parking lot of a drug store to ask me a bunch of personal questions that made me feel uncomfortable and drove a black Lincoln with tinted windows that creeped me out. I'm curious what your attorney is going to tell you.

[tinktronik]

This is making me a little paranoid lol. I oftentimes have people come up to me to take pictures, sometimes from far away, but I figure they are tourists taking pictures of something behind me. Sometimes it's so obvious I pose for a joke but now I'm wondering if anyone's ever had a PI on me?!! I also had a complete stranger in a suit stop me in the parking lot of a drug store to ask me a bunch of personal questions that made me feel uncomfortable and drove a black Lincoln with tinted windows that creeped me out. I'm curious what your attorney is going to tell you.

I would not have noticed the man taking the pics if he had not been parked behind my house in the alleyway taking pics of me in the backyard. It was just very obvious.

 

Don't ever anwser anyones ?'s in a parkinglot . ever.

[quankanne]

Yeah she'll go away once she's sure you have nothing to do with him on a personal level … but if she hasn't found anything then she needs to leave you alone. She probably just wants to keep tabs on you just in case she's wrong.

 

I disagree – this woman sounds like she's got a major obsession, and I wouldn't doubt if she's collecting "evidence" to build a case against her husband, to a point where she creates that evidence. By all means, talk to your lawyer, tink, and also alert the police department. Even if there's nothing they can do, at least you have a record of your concerns. Because when she flips out and does something truly drastic, you've got evidence of how unhinged she really is.

 

this just does not sound healthy – or safe – IMO. Someone in their right mind is able to differentiate between a business relationship and one that's personal, and it sounds like she is incapable of doing so.

[tinktronik]

Quankanne , I suspect you are right. The young woman involved in the Affair was younger 32ish and an attractive hispanic girl. I too am young an somewhat attractive , and I fear the W may have already decided there must be something going on. Why more survailliance after last years turned up nothing? It could be nothing, but I'm gonna go on caution this time . Calling the Atty. today and gonna' follow his advice.