outgoing Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 OK - I'll try and be brief... I am in a relationship with a girl thousands of miles away - we met online and i love her a lot. When we are together everything is great, and the sex is amazing. Usually 3 times a day minimum... Problem is we have pretty big sexual appetites, when she's not here I get pretty frustrated... We do a little cyber which is great and so far I think we've both been faithful. Its now been about 2 months since I last saw her and everythings fine but today an old friend (we made out a few times when I was 17) told me she's looking to have a 3some with her boyfriend... Now I've been in a 3some before and we found it really hard on the relationship and it ripped us apart. I always swore if I did it again I'd be the 3rd guy and it wouldn't be with someone I care about... (so while I'm in a relationship I wouldn't do it with her and another) My point is - I'm 30 - getting old now and these opertunities dont come around often any more. I've always wanted to try a 3some again - should I do it and keep it as my dirty little secret or forget about and stay faithful to the one I love? I think I know what I want - I'd just like some other peoples opinions Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 I think I know what I want - I'd just like some moral guidance Well if you know what you want... that answers your question... and it doesn't really matter what we say here. You won't get any moral guidance from me... I say GO FOR IT!... Link to post Share on other sites
Author outgoing Posted August 23, 2007 Author Share Posted August 23, 2007 You're quick - I just edited that line Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 23, 2007 Share Posted August 23, 2007 should I do it and keep it as my dirty little secret or forget about and stay faithful to the one I love? I guess it depends on a few things. Lets forget the cheating part for a second, and come back to that. Can you handle sex with another man involved? What are the groundrules? Are you expected to interact sexually with him, or is it just one of those "you take the top, I'll take the bottom" sort of things? Do you feel safe sharing bodily fluids with this girl and her boyfriend? If they are into threesomes and stuff like that, their chances at having STDs are higher. What will you do if you contract something? Are you clean now that you know of? How would you explain that to your girlfriend if you did turn up catching the clap, or genital warts, or herpes or G_d forbid HIV? Condoms only protect you to a certain extent, you know... Now, for the cheating part. I guess it depends on a couple of things: Can you handle the emotions you will feel in the aftermath? Do you think you would feel guilt? How do you intend to handle that without giving yourself away in the process? Many a cheater were 'busted' by their own actions around their spouse/SO after the fact. People who cheat, unless they are very skilled at lying give off subtle signals that their BS's pick up. The BS calls them 'gut feelings', but what they are are her reactions to your own nearly subliminal actions during and after the sexual encounters. What happens when your SO asks you if you are cheating on her? Do you lie? Are you ok with lying? I know you want to give it a whirl, but you really have to figure out the aftermath and how you intend to deal with it before you just jump right in. Link to post Share on other sites
Herzen Posted August 23, 2007 Share Posted August 23, 2007 As long as you practice safe sex, go for it. It's fun being the third party, and your relationship is online, very sporadic and very LDR. Just be cool if your LDR GF dives into a sexual relationship to keep herself warm during those long nights when you're not around. If you can't be cool, don't do it. If I were you, I'd go for the ring. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted August 23, 2007 Share Posted August 23, 2007 I think you should imagine your gf facing the same dilemma and do whatever it is you would most like her to do. Link to post Share on other sites
4whatItsWorth Posted August 24, 2007 Share Posted August 24, 2007 I think you should imagine your gf facing the same dilemma and do whatever it is you would most like her to do. Ditto. Imagine her being f*cked by two random guys, enjoying it behind your back and see how much you'd like that to happen. Seriously, get real. Link to post Share on other sites
Cad Rake Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 well if you're into MFM stuff, go for it. I personally prefer 2 chicks, but whatever. I'd have no qualms about cheating if I could do 2 chicks at once. She'd never have to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 When we are together everything is great, and the sex is amazing. Usually 3 times a day minimum... You do realize three times a day sex stops after you've been together... oh... a month in a row, right? Link to post Share on other sites
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