Hurtful words from mother in law

[Baybee9404]

my mother in law happened to ruin the suprise of the baby shower my mother and brother are throwing for me, by telling me about it. thank you. the other day her daughter (who is the godmother of my unborn son) told her that no one in their family rsvp for the shower and the mothers response was well your brother already has a kid and we had a shower for that baby you only get one shower and he had one for his first kid, so no one will go because they already bought for his daughter. How should i take that? please help

[quankanne]

gently explain to your baby's godmother that the shower is so that your friends and family can share in the celebration of your little boy's life. Yes, you'll be getting all kinds of appreciated items for the nursery and for your boy, but more importantly, it's a very formal but relaxed way of saying "our little one's one the way!"

 

if your MiL wants to be a sourpuss let her – but encourage the rest of the family to join in your happiness, which I'm sure they will.

 

and congrats on your pregnancy – babies might be scary, but they're also pretty marvelous

[suga]

my mother in law happened to ruin the suprise of the baby shower my mother and brother are throwing for me, by telling me about it. thank you. the other day her daughter (who is the godmother of my unborn son) told her that no one in their family rsvp for the shower and the mothers response was well your brother already has a kid and we had a shower for that baby you only get one shower and he had one for his first kid, so no one will go because they already bought for his daughter. How should i take that? please help

 

A shower celebrates a woman first child, not the mans, thats why only women go to showers, sounds like she resents him having children with anyone else than his ex, I wouldnt take it personally, at the same time it gives you an idea on her attitude towards you, stay away from her.

 

Her critisism is not constructive at all, you are pregnant, the child will be born and loved and you have done nothing wrong, if it does not suit her ideals then thats her problem.

 

I am pregnant from a guy who has a child from someone else, it was not planned but his relationship with the other person was long over before I was in a relationship with him, I dont want a shower personally because I am not in a good situation right now.

 

I am not with him anymore since he does not treat me right, being with him is like dragging around a giant bag of sand that keeps promising they will one day let you be the bag of sand...LOL...I dont want to be that way.