healing101 Posted August 24, 2007 Share Posted August 24, 2007 I was engaged a month ago but we called it off for many reasons. We are a couple with more than average problems since I had a 3year old child when I met my boyfriend. We started out with about six months of happiness before the problems started. My boyfriend and I both have anger issues, insecurities and trust issues. To make it worst he wanted to over step him boundries by trying to discipline my child when I was uncomfortable with that. We were not comfortable unless we talked excessively on the phone and were constantly in the company of each other. When all our arguments did not tell us something was wrong, he cheated during my pregnancy of our second child. That devasted me and I feel into a depression after my child was born. Then my depression turned into anger and I started an affair of my own. Now trust has been completely violated by us both in several ways. He also has pushed, threathened, had me noticably upset in front of our kids. The abuse has occured several times and at this point he is staying away from me and my kids at his house for at least one month. At this point I am peturbed as to what to do next. Any advice should help! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Share Posted August 24, 2007 I was engaged a month ago but we called it off for many reasons. We are a couple with more than average problems since I had a 3year old child when I met my boyfriend. We started out with about six months of happiness before the problems started. My boyfriend and I both have anger issues, insecurities and trust issues. To make it worst he wanted to over step him boundries by trying to discipline my child when I was uncomfortable with that. We were not comfortable unless we talked excessively on the phone and were constantly in the company of each other. When all our arguments did not tell us something was wrong, he cheated during my pregnancy of our second child. That devasted me and I feel into a depression after my child was born. Then my depression turned into anger and I started an affair of my own. Now trust has been completely violated by us both in several ways. He also has pushed, threathened, had me noticably upset in front of our kids. The abuse has occured several times and at this point he is staying away from me and my kids at his house for at least one month. At this point I am peturbed as to what to do next. Any advice should help! You are in serious trouble my dear... It's not just about you... children are involved...and they should be the MOST important people here. You both are very insecure and immature in your relationship... you need help... at this point I would suggest that you see a professional... There are too many important issues... trust, immaturity, insecurity, violence, children... etc. If he is violent, you need to get away from him... but it's a good thing that he already thought about that and he has moved away for a while but will that be enough... I don't think so... He needs to smarten up especially in front of the kids... What a jerk..really.... poor little ones... YOU need to protect your children...and if that means for him to stay away from the house...until you get some help... so be it. I don't think that all the support and advices from LS will be enough...you need a lot more and REAL professional help... Good luck... Put your children FIRST in anything you do or decide... simple. Link to post Share on other sites
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